scobro Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I constantly think about my ex 24/7 we were together 5 years its been about 4 months now and I was actually the dumper because she deceived me. I still cannot stop putting her on a pedestal,thinking about who she is sleeping with and feel I want her back but she already has someone new now and thats killing me.We had a really toxic relationship she is now playing mind games but I think Im addicted to still dealing with the relationship and her toxic behavior...any advice on how to move on.Im doing no contact again after 2 months of no contact but in the last week we had contact and an argument and I pretty much harassed her for days with texts and emails and looked very childish which was very foolish of me but I am angry, jealous and in pain. UUGGHHH!!!
Brokenguy22 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Time man. I was wih my ex for almost 5 years she left me. It has been little over 9 months she still pops in my mind everyday. It will get easier just try and keep your focus on something else. Easier said than done for sure. I still struggle daily but there is nothing we can do. Plus she deceived you that would have made my choice to let her go easier, yes it'd still be very tough but just hang in there man !
Justaguy30 Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I am in the same situation, ex was cheating on me with a bunch of guys. Actually in a relationship with a guy at her work who she was also cheating on by screwing around with a bunch of people. Anyhow I still think about it all day everyday even though she is a rotten whore. She beat me, lied to me, slept with people in our house while I was sleeping. I mean really awful things and I still miss her everyday. Its just a thing called love and a part of me really just wants her back but I know that is retarded. When you figure out how to just stop let me know because I am going crazy lol. I have been told that you have to come up with something to tell yourself every time you think about that person. Like you start thinking about it tell yourself you didn't deserve to be treated that way. Or He/She is a horrible person and I deserve better and so on. It has yet to work for me but I really don't try that hard because maybe a part of me is entertained by thinking about it. As for thinking about them sleeping with someone else. That will fade, I for one would always wonder who she was ****ing that day. Like its about 10pm I bet she is getting railed right now and I am sure she is but you can't think about that kind of stuff because it just hurts you.
blindnlost Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 It just takes time, but If you could just stick to this one rule. It might make it easier. Never ever think about getting back with your ex. As soon as u do. Just stop.... It helped me.. And keep yourself busy all the time, maybe going to gym at night, get wasted and you will get a real good night sleep.
Griesfootball Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Time and activities. If your sitting home in your bed all day of course you will think of your ex. This may sound the opposite but go to some places with friends that you and your ex went because it will cement this as your most recent time at that place. Like if you and her went to a movie if you go to the movies a few times with friends it will help to forget about when you went with her. Now I do still think of her but only when I'm sitting at home bored so get outside
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