Lost and alone, in NC, his sister send me a FB request.... [Important update made!]

[Lorelai]

This may sound trite, but I listened to the Eurythmics Greatest Hits a ton when I was getting over my ex-fiance, the only on-and-off relationship I've ever had (and the reason I have a rule about how many times I'll attempt a reconciliation.)

 

Even the message in "I Need A Man" is pretty good:

 

"I don't need a heartbreaker

Fifty-faced trouble maker

Two timing time taker

Dirty little money maker

Muscle bound cheap skate

Low down woman hater

Triple crossing double dater

Yella bellied alligator..."

 

Because those aren't actually men. And neither are exes who treat us that way -- they're boys. Not men.

 

"Thorn In My Side" is great, too, but my favorite really is "Don't Ask Me Why", for two reasons. First, I've had my ex show up at my doorstep before, and really wanted to say "Miracle of miracles, look what the night dragged in!"

 

But also, there's just something really awesome about hearing the really upbeat "I don't love you anymore..." near the end of the song. It gave me faith that eventually I'd be able to feel that way. And I did.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-oGO3wVlZDM the Youtube for that song.

[perduetseul]

Yeah, I am good now. I read something someone wrote during heartache and thought wowww that was me no long ago... NEVER AGAIN!!!

 

I did it through a combination of therapy, anxiety and depression and OCD medication, friends, getting pretty, counting blessings, a lot of massages, retail therapy, and time.

 

Sometimes I feel a dull but sharp pain in my heart, and I wish for nothing more than to hug him, smell him, have him express his need for me.

 

...but... BUT... It just doesn't fit anymore. Who I am today has nothing to do with him. I just wouldn't have room for him in my life and/or heart (assuming he wanted to!)

 

Anyway, the most difficult thing you will ever do is this, but you do DO IT, does that make sense? Just bear with it, sooner or later it is over for good...

 

Good luck everyone.