tiarakitty Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 It has been very tough for me for the past month. My ex (19 y/o) and I (20 y/o) have been dating for almost 2 years. When we're together, you will not be able to know that I was the older one in the relationship. He has always been the matured one. He is definitely my dream guy and I was very lucky: Tall, smart, good looking, well-mannered and family oriented. We like and agree the same things - same songs, foods, clothes etc. It was a healthy relationship - we laughed, make fun of each other, pranked each other and importantly, we're not restrictive & we support each other in academics (we mutually agreed that academics is much more important our relationship) and more. But he plays a game pretty alot. Initially, I was a little bit upset about it but eventually I accepted it. I felt that sometimes he will prioritize his game more than chatting with me online. I think this marks the stage of 'settling down'. . Also that whenever we fight or have disagreements, most of the time we had this habit of not talking or discuss about it and acted nothing has ever happened. Also, over our relationship about 3-5 months before the break up he did mention that he feels that he's young.. So 6 weeks ago, suddenly he broke up with me saying he was too young to commit and we have to embrace our freedom before becoming adults. He told me that he wouldn't date anyone until the end of military service (3 years from now, he is still in college now). Also, before our r/s - his mom kept advising him not to fall in love at a young age because of her regrets. She was in a 6 serious relationship w/ a guy she didnt end up marrying with.I think that has what made him realized and afraid to hurt me 1 day in future like how his mother felt. A week after the break up, his sister texted me saying that he felt sorry and i was the only person he ever loved and it was during examinations stress and he would woo me back. He said he just needed a time to think through. I acted like i 'didn't want to get hurt again' and will 'consider when time is right' but all these while i was secretly waiting for him. Until 3-4 weeks later, i texted him saying if he still wants to try it all over again. He said he likes how things are right now and said we have to embrace it. Also, he said he will always be there for a talk or a help should i needed any. I asked if he still has any feelings left for me and he replide saying most of it has faded. . I know i shouldn't have any expectations left but would like to know if theres a high chance he want me back and regret about it. Meanwhile time heals. Im trying my hardest to move on. but reading some posts in this website makes me feel better. Ive confided with my friends and most of them said that they don't understand why he would dump me because i was such a nice good looking girlfriend.
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 It's possible. My college roommate was dumped by her HS BF when they were about your age. He gave similar reasons: wanting to sow wild oats. A few years alter they reconnected & have now been happily married with 2 beautiful kids for over 20 years. Their story is VERY RARE & highly unlikely. N.B. She did not sit around crying & pining for him. She had adventures She dated other guys. They also took their time -- about a year after they started talking again-- officially getting back together.
Eagle755 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 My co worker had the same story. Boyfriend left her because he was in the military, didn't wanna hurt her or himself, etc. Couple years later, he's out of the military, they caught up, got back together, and now they're engaged and getting a house together. It can very much happen if it's meant to be
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