Sugarkane Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I'm pretty sure even Seseme Street covers how to apologize.
Author Sugarkane Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 Or having no mutual friends, for them to be worried about their crappy reputation? Because they don't care.
Michael 93 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 They have to make it seem in there own mind that they are making the right decision. By being nasty this will reaffirm them they are making the right choice, My problem was I reacted to them being so horrible by losing my cool. This just made her say "see now your just cementing the fact that this was the right choice" Jokers. Leave em be. 1
guest569 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I agree. Another reason..They feel guilty and dont want to admit they are at fault. They would rather find fault in you.
David87 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Or having no mutual friends, for them to be worried about their crappy reputation? O but they care about their reputation... by talking bad about us dumpees making sure we are the bad ones.... and they did the best thing by dumping us. How are things Sugar? Everything ok with your bf ?
David87 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I agree. Another reason..They feel guilty and dont want to admit they are at fault. They would rather find fault in you. Thats exactly what they do. Of course they dont blame themselves, we are at fault, the dumpees ( that's what they think)
todreaminblue Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 sorry seems to be the hardest word, on a jerk exes voice, its hardly heard for in the world of an ex who is a jerk, it was probably you, who did all the work, so just say caio see you round, a last goodbye, then give a smile, as you put on your sneakers and run a mile 1
Ordinaryday Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 because of a thing I like to call Main/Protagonist-Centered Morality - Television Tropes & Idioms everyone sees themselves as the Hero of their own story so believe me, they have managed to rationalise it so that they are the 'good' guy and you are the bad guy. even if they admit they were at fault, they have still rationalised it with something like "sure I did some things wrong.... but only cos my ex was being so uncaring/unsupportive/un-whatever, so really I had no choice" we ALL do it. 2
Glinda.Good Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Sometimes they do, but then I guess they're not jerks. Fortunately, we move on, have new relationships, families, lives, and what our exes do or do not is not a thing to us anymore. Right? 1
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 the answer to your Q is in the Q: because they are jerks. No offense but . . . duh.
KathyM Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 You seem to be waiting for this apology or closure that never comes from this ex that you still seem to be obsessed with. I think you need to start telling yourself that "He is a jerk. He is not going to apologize." The more you tell yourself this, the faster you may be able to move on from that past relationship that you still seem to keep nursing in your mind. Either consciously or subconsciously, you keep up the expectation in your mind that you are going to get an apology from him, and that just sets you up for disappointment when it doesn't happen. He's not going to apologize. He's a jerk. Stop expecting jerks to be gentlemen. You'll drive yourself crazy by expecting that. Whenever a thought about your ex comes to mind, follow it up immediately with the sentence "He's a jerk. He's not going to apologize." Eventually your mind will start to believe that, and it will give up hope of getting that apology that will never come but seems to be continually taking up mental energy for you.
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