Nikifm Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 So my boyfriend of 6 1/2 years one of those years as him being my fiance came home from work a few days ago and said that he wants to break up. He tells me I have until monday (this happened on a thursday) to have all my things and out to my dads.. He had to drive out of state and took his bike to see his brothers new baby. I stayed that night at my aunts house and then things started to get messed up. The next day he was texting me. Nothing feely just a few texts. Even sent me a picture of him with the new baby. I asked to see him and he angrily tells me no. That he needs a break from seeing me to get over me. I told him that if it was too hard why do it? But all I got was "because" he says he wants to see other people. You see we got together when he was 17 and I was 16 and we had our daughter young. We lost our virginities to eachother. For our whole relationship I believe we were very much in love. A week before this happened he was talking about the future. We went on a motorcycle ride together and he held my hand. But he says he felt unhappy for months. And its not like our sex life was bad. I assure you he was well satisfied. I treated him like a freaking king and he told me on those loving feely days how perfect I am. thats why this all bothers me so much. Why am I all the sudden no good enough? I expressed my desire to work things out and he flat out refuses. Saying its over for good and theres no possible chance. However last night he said it was just a break and that we could still get back together. Tonight he says that was a lie. Anyways. While he was out of state with his brother. He used his brothers fb account to tell me things (pretending to be his brother) like "___ sounds really drunk and is riding his bike" and even "___has been cheating on you for three months" but then his brother tells me that it was my ex bf saying that stuff. I called him and he told me it was just a joke. I cried and told him that it wasnt funny. He said sorry and that it was pretty mean. Well the next day comes And hes telling me that he wants my stuff out before he gets home the next day. Three days before original time. He says seeing me would make it too hard. I expressed again that we could try and work it out and he freaks out again. This time saying hes going to fight for custody of our daughter and bull**** like that. I calmly talked him out of being so angry and then we didnt talk for a day or 2. Ive been a stay at home mom until my daughter starts school so I rely on him financially. So he pays for things like my phone. He assured me that he would leave it on until im on my feet. But yesterday he goes and turns it off on me. Saying sorry that he forgot. Id been trying hard not to talk to him about our relationship. But last night we talked using my dads phone and he said something about it just being a break. That theres still a chance. Well tonight I tried talking to him about our relationship cause its driving me crazy not knowing and hes back to saying that theres absolutely no chance and that he refuses to reconcile with me. I of course tried to reason that we could make it work and he got angry so I quickly stopped talking to him. I dont like that he gave me false hope and I really do love him and want to be together with him but hes really giving me nothing in this. Even when I was forced to see him. There was no contact. He wouldnt talk to me or look at me. He gave me a quick ride on his motorcycle and didnt even bother to take his helmet off. It really hurts that hes cutting off that contact. It hurts that hes pushing me away when im still so in love with him. If he has to try so hard to get over me its a no brainer that he should want to try and be with me, but he just gets mad when I bring it up. Idk whats going on. But my heart is so broken. Its only been 5 days but I miss him so much. Im scared that he really will get over me because I honestly cant imagine my life without him. He really is my best friend. I hope someone can give me some advice because I just dont know anymore. Sorry for such a long read.
hoping2heal Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Has he always been this selfish and immature or this new behavior for him?
Lovemeagain Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Nikifm I'm so sorry that you are going through this. I feel for you because my ex did the same thing to me and the more I tried to talk to him the more he pushed me away and didn't want anything to do with me. I am also so sad and wanting him back and it didn't make any sense that he wanted a break and yet he would give me false hope that he still wanted to be back together. It just confused me and made me mad and sad all at the same time. Please stay strong and you have us here to talk to. Take care.
Author Nikifm Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 Has he always been this selfish and immature or this new behavior for him? Not really new behavior.
shoegal4 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Nikifm - please give this man a large dose of reality and let him be. You don't want to be with me? OK fine. Poof, I'm gone. The only contact you'll have with me is when you see our daughter and make plans around our daughter. Fake it til you make it. Don't give him the satisfaction of letting him see you upset. This man (and his behavior) does not seem worth it. No one, regardless of the years spent together, is worth that kind of pain and suffering.
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