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For you dumpees still struggling, I thought I'd share a realization with some of you: your love is truly unconditional. That's right. You don't still love your former partner because they're just that wonderful. You still love your partner because you're that wonderful. You love your former partner because you made an oath or a vow or a promise that you would, no matter what. That you would do anything for them. Well, guess what? You have. You've loved your former partner, even though they've betrayed you, even though they no longer love you. If you can love them through that, you can love them through anything. For some of you, you've even loved your former partner when they chose someone else over you.

If you weren't caught in the sadness you are now, it would mean you were the weak one. The one who gave up on love. The one who walked away. But you didn't. Remember, you love still love them, not because they're that good, but because you are that good. You have done everything a person could possibly do for another person. You have put them first and this still isn't enough for them. So, set yourself free. Realize, you've loved them unconditionally and done everything a person can do. They should be crawling back to you, because you've proven yourself as someone that loyal to them.

 

For those of you feeling like you lost: if this were a staring contest the one who blinks or looks away first loses. Don't feel like you have lost because they no longer love you. They have lost, because they ran out of love first.

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They have lost, because they ran out of love first.

 

I needed that today, thank you.

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For you dumpees still struggling, I thought I'd share a realization with some of you: your love is truly unconditional. That's right. You don't still love your former partner because they're just that wonderful. You still love your partner because you're that wonderful. You love your former partner because you made an oath or a vow or a promise that you would, no matter what. That you would do anything for them. Well, guess what? You have. You've loved your former partner, even though they've betrayed you, even though they no longer love you. If you can love them through that, you can love them through anything. For some of you, you've even loved your former partner when they chose someone else over you.

If you weren't caught in the sadness you are now, it would mean you were the weak one. The one who gave up on love. The one who walked away. But you didn't. Remember, you love still love them, not because they're that good, but because you are that good. You have done everything a person could possibly do for another person. You have put them first and this still isn't enough for them. So, set yourself free. Realize, you've loved them unconditionally and done everything a person can do. They should be crawling back to you, because you've proven yourself as someone that loyal to them.

 

For those of you feeling like you lost: if this were a staring contest the one who blinks or looks away first loses. Don't feel like you have lost because they no longer love you. They have lost, because they ran out of love first.

 

I wish I would have had this perspective months ago, but this is a great point for those struggling with self-worth in the wake of a breakup.

 

Unconditional love is such a beautiful thing, we should be celebrating our ability to give that. It is not the most common thing in the world today.

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