Griesfootball Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I'm having trouble meeting people lately. My only long term relationship was set up by a mutual friend. I'm off season from commute college and a sport I play and when I work I'm the only employee. The thing is I don't drink or smoke and it seems like females are all out to party this summer. I have few close friends over a bunch of friends. Im not really picky other than the party thing, I might have to wait for school to start again in the fall but does anybody have suggestions on where to meet people? Maybe I'm trying too hard
joeLove Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Grocery shopping? YMCA? join a meetup group in your area? Take some dance lessons? Talk to strangers on the street? Church? Facebook friends? 1
jay1983 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Everybody keeps taking bout yoga. Just thought I'd throw it out there. 1
babycakees Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Why not try online dating? I was in this same place as you months ago, although I am female. I rarely go out, keep my friends to a bare minimum to avoid drama and wanted someone who didn't party (so going to bars was not even under consideration). So I tried online dating and to my surprise, after only meeting two guys in person, I found the nicest guy I've ever dated! He is a breath of fresh air. Not all people online are looking for a 'hookup'. A lot are frustrated like how you are and I was too. Give it a try. You have nothing to lose.
deathandtaxes Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I heartily endorse meeting people through friends. They should know you very well and will either propose somebody go on a date (ie an endorsement) with you or not. I met my ex-wife this way back in college. I also dated this lady for a few months last year that I met through a friend. It's usually why a lot of people find work this way, too, because they're always pre-vetted by people who know them best. I've met women in dance class, ballet to be specific. It helps that I'm usually one of about two guys in the class with a TON of women. We're talking sometimes in the teens to ol me. Those are some good odds. And it means also that you at least have that activity in common. It's not like I take the class to meet women, but I've gone one some dates and made friends from the class. I take yoga, too, but people aren't generally so talkative after yoga, which is odd. But the gender mix is good there for guys, too. With some classes being even to slightly more women. And there's always online dating. Which is a crazy world all on it's own. I've had plenty of dates from that source, too. You just need the confidence to cold-approach women where the women are! Say hi. Strike up a conversation. 1
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Try lots of different approaches. the only "best way" is to be open to possibilities. 1. OLD is a good start 2. Can you take or teach a class? Even some adult education thing like staying out of debt or creative writing 3. Go to a MeetUp.com event for something that interests you like hiking or art or business 4. Co speed dating (although that is usually in a bar) 5. Join a summer league that plays your sport 6. Tell friends & family you are open to being set up. I read a post here on LS where somebody put on his FB page that he wanted to be introduced to nice women & his virtual friends helped him 7. Volunteer somewhere doing something you care about; you will meet like minded people working at an animal shelter, on a political campaign, raising $$ to help find a cure etc. 8. Join a singles group that has a focus. I was in one called Leashes & Lovers where I could bring my dog; just before I met my husband I was going to join one where they set you up to play golf; there are others for tennis or wine tasting (which might not work for you since you don't drink but you get the idea . . . the interests are varied) 9. Look around when you get your before work coffee or pick up lunch. When you start to see the same people smile & say hi 10. See who is around at your church
Author Griesfootball Posted July 9, 2014 Author Posted July 9, 2014 Thanks for everyone's suggestions! sometimes i procrastinate on getting out there
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