SailorGirl925 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I posted another thread yesterday but only got one response. I just need some support - Help! We got back together and things were fine for 4 months. Then suddenly he stopped calling and texting then left town for the weekend to visit his dad. He got fired and has been unemployed for 3 months. I was his rock during this time and sat with him during some dark hours. No word since he visited his dad. I left him alone and then his birthday came and went on July 3rd. I knew that since he had not tried to contact me something was wrong. I did nothing to him but be nice and supportive prior so why he started ignoring me a week ago - I swear I just have no clue. I left him alone thinking he just needed space. All during the holiday I was miserable. No texts, no phone calls from him. Today at work, mid-day I texted him. Just a quick "Thinking of you, how are u doing?". Crickets. Two hours later I was mad and sent him another text "Ignoring people is so cowardly. Good luck overcoming all your issues as they have obviously taken you to a dark place. Sad.". Nothing. Crickets. He got my text. He is ignoring me completely. I honestly have no clue why but now I'm just frankly pissed off royal and want nothing to do with him ever again. This is the second time he's done this to me and I don't know if it's a sick game of his or what. The last 4 months we have been together - other than him being worried sick about being unemployed, we got along fine. I was getting tired of coddling him and reassuring him that he'd find another job - but I was patient and always there to listen. WTH is wrong with him? Let me tell you as I am on the receiving end of NC. It sucks. You want to torture someone, ignore them with NC. I've set my phone to block his calls and am trying to figure out how to block text messages. I just don't want to see his face again. He hurt me for no reason. Are people this mean? I was just too nice to him, that's the sad problem I think. Maybe if I treated him like crap he would be eating out of my hand. What can I do to get over the pain? I had a very hard day at work today - took everything I had to focus on my job. I have this anxiety feeling and can't eat. Basically sucker punched. When someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them. I didn't. It has been exactly 10 days since last communicated with me. I made an attempt today - now it's full on NC for me. I hate his guts for doing this to me. Twisted Mofo. Please give me some encouragement that in time I will be ok because right now I am so livid I can't think of anything but wishing bad karma to come his way.
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I am sorry he acted so immaturely. You probably dodged a bullet.
Author SailorGirl925 Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 You are awesome - thank you! I'm reading quite a few of your posts - great advice!
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 You are awesome - thank you! I'm reading quite a few of your posts - great advice! Thank you. {blushes} I don't know about awesome but I'm glad you find some of what I had to say helpful
shybutnotshy Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 (edited) I am sorry he acted so immaturely. You probably dodged a bullet. d0nnivain is correct. He is immature and you are lucky that he is no longer n your life. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. I was in your boat once and it was frustrating to be left hanging like that with no explanation whatsoever. Dude went criket twice even though I was supportive and showed understanding when he first did it. When people show you who they are, believe them. Believe the flake, the immaturity, the cowardice. I miss him more than I could fathom, I still miss his stupid face, but you know, life is better off without these type of guys. Edited July 8, 2014 by shybutnotshy
whichwayisup Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Cut him out of your life on ALL levels. The guy is giving you the silent treatment ON purpose and he knows he's hurting you and being a real di.ck head. Walk away and cry..But don't cry for long because this a-hole isn't worrying or thinking or missing you - So don't you waste your precious time on him! Give yourself a certain amount of time each day to grieve and then go do something fun with friends.
Eagle755 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 No, **** this guy, for real. I'm livid for you, people like him seriously need to just get out To me it sounds like he used you for comfort, then when he felt better he just went up and left, gave you no closure or anything. Don't even give this **** the time of day Stay NC. And get revenge Jk revenge is bad Ish
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