Kasparov Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 So I've been going out with this girl I met online for about a month and so far things seem to be going pretty well. We've gone out every weekend and text each other every day. We kiss, hold hands, hold each other, tease, etc., although have not had sex yet. By far it's been my most successful period of dating in recent memory. But...I'm starting to become worried that she's going to stop talking to me at some point. I don't know why exactly...I think it stems from the many times recently where I've been out with girls on one or two dates, coming away with good vibes with how things went...only to get the fade-away soon after with no explanation. What's really cementing the feeling now is something I noticed on Facebook just the other day. Even though I was reluctant, we recently became Facebook friends after an outing to a local arts festival where we both had a lot of fun. Shortly afterwards she posted up pictures of us together at the festival, saying how much fun she had and what a great weekend she had. It made me feel pretty good since it indicated to me that she was having a good time with me and really made it seem like she was into me. But...after browsing a status update from her that led me back to her profile the other day, I noticed she took down the pictures I know it's trivial, but now I'm left wondering why she took them down...it's making me think she doesn't want people seeing that she was with me I'm just not sure how to shake this feeling that she's about to head for the exit. There is a bit of an age gap between us...she's early 20's and I'm late 20's. Having known girls in their early 20's, I've often gotten the impression that they don't stick around for a relationship and get bored with guys easily (I'm not trying to over-generalize, but that's the impression I've gotten). So I'm wondering if I'm going to get the same result...she gets bored and moves on. Thing is, other than her taking down the pictures of us together, I've gotten no other indication that she's fading away. We still talk regularly and and go out, and it stays pretty fresh...but we haven't had the exclusivity talk yet and so I'm not sure if she's dating anyone else. Not sure what to do to make myself feel better about this. I really do like her and I'd hate to see things end...I guess just ask her if she's dating other people?
Potz4prez Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 She's not having sex with you because she doesn't want to get emotionally invested. Makes for a clean break. She's probably unsure about you and is still fishing the waters (hence taking down the pics so another guy won't see them).
Zippy2000 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I d ask you not to worry so much as you dont know whats going to happen in the future unless you play your cards right. That means no analysing, no worrying about fade out. This girl likes you if she pots up pictures of you and her on your Facebook. If you top worrying and chasing after her she will come to you. No clingy or neediness or she will fade or just walk the other way. You situation sounds similar to mine. A girl I met also put pictures up on my Facebook. Although nothing has happened and we`re just friends now. She STILL texts me everyday and posts messages on my FB and this has been going for a year now. I met he last July! 2013. Some people dont fade so just enjoy it while you can.
Author Kasparov Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 She's not having sex with you because she doesn't want to get emotionally invested. Makes for a clean break. She's probably unsure about you and is still fishing the waters (hence taking down the pics so another guy won't see them). Well I haven't even tried to have sex because up until very recently I haven't exactly had the place to be intimate with her in that way (and neither does she), so I don't really know whether she wants to have sex or not. We do flirt in suggestive manners though...
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