Spoonss Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Well I thought since this website helped me through alot of my darkest days. I would share my experience after a really messy breakup of a 5 year relationship with a girl I was madly in love with. Long story short I found out she was cheating on me for a solid month and left me for that said guy when I found out. This sent me into a downward spiral of self hate and complete loss of confidence in myself I could barely look at another girl let alone get involved with one for atleast 7 months. Anyway an update a year later I would like to say things really do get better, I finally woke up and realized that in this situation she was a terrible person and why I put so much effort and self doubt in myself over some one who just threw me away like nothing. I just started to make small changes every day for instance i would go for a 30 min jog everynight before i went to bed that alone helped me get out of my head and probably saved my life. Doing something so small like that every day can and will change the way you feel. It wont make the pain go away but it will help cope. As of right now for the most part I am doing really well. I would be telling you all a lie if I didn't think about her atleast once every 2 weeks but she how ever does not consume any part of my life. Its more of a little reminder of how far I have come since last year. To everyone out there struggling I promise it does get better you just gotta learn to love yourself again and not focus on the heartbreak or the person that caused it. GOOD luck to you all and thank you again Loveshack for all the support you did give me throughout this tough year, you most likely saved my life. 12
Chi townD Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 HEY! Congrats, dude! Nice to see you're feeling better! Yeah, just continue to make positive changes in your life and you'll get there! Five years is a long time to get over, but you're doing well! 1
Author Spoonss Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 Chi Town D its funny I remember you. You have posted many times on my latter sob stories and probably in some way have changed alot of peoples outlooks on life. Keep it up man. I legit remember you
Chi townD Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 LOL! Thanks man! I'm a hard guy to forget! I've probably pissed off a lot of people because when they first get here, they're hurting and my first couple of posts to them might come across as harsh and uncaring. But, there's a reason for it. People get hurt and they come here feeling sorry for themselves. So, you have to hit them with some tough love; a 2x4 to the back of their heads to wake them up to the fact that none of this was their fault. If they get mad at me, so be it. But, once they start applying what they're learning here to their lives, then I'm their biggest fan, biggest supporter. I love when you guys heal and come back to update us on how you're doing. How well your lives are turning out. How strong you've become. You don't even realize it, but threads like this, you coming back, gives hope to someone that just logged into this site. It makes these noobies want to stick around and learn how to heal themselves. So, don't be a stranger, dude! Keep making those positive changes.
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