Not sure how to play the game anymore

[lionheart153]

Hi guys,

 

So, its been a few months and I am now about 7 months from my break up, I feel alot better, moved to a new city, met some awesome people. So I am ready to test the waters again. But I realize I am so out of tune that I am completely reading signs wrong or just making a mess of things. So I thought I'd run some things by and see what I get for opinions.

 

So last weekend I had my first night out since moving to me new city. After meeting some awesome people I was asked to join a club crawl my friend was organizing to which I agreed. We went to 4 different bars, and the clubs were 2/4 country music bars which is not my type of scene or music at all but I was open to try new things.

 

My friend introduced me to 2 girls, one he knew from work and the other was a friend of hers which he didnt know. I met them at the 2nd bar and tried to talk to them but they seemed shy and sober above all else and wasn't to talkative. By the time we got to the next bar I was doing my own thing just enjoying myself and I saw them around but didnt stop to talk. When we got to the last bar it was more my kinda music, and with some extra drinks in me I was feeling more confident. I saw them sitting so me and my friend walked up and chatted them up, the one knew my friend so I talked to her for a bit. The other was sitting quite not really talking. So I decided to chat her up.

 

After engaging with conversation with her she opened up a lot more and and we probably talked for a good 45 mins, somehow in the conversation we ended holding hands for a bit and I got her number. But before I could do anything else, my other friend that had come with me, tapped me on my shoulder and said our ride was here and we had to go.

 

I didn't listen to my gut, and went with my friend and told the ladies to meet up with us after to which the one girl (lets call her Gina) agreed to.

 

While I was away I started to text her trying to convince her to meet me at the bar I was going, she had to decline because her friend knew someone she did not like their and so Gina tried to convince me to go back to the bar they were at. After a few hours passed of texting, I told her I would try to come meet her. she seemed happy and said she hoped to see me soon. I started to walk to the bar because I didn't want to drink and drive, and it was about a 25 min trek. I texted her again to say I was almost there and oddly it wasn't Gina Replying but her friend instead with Gina's phone. I go there and met up with her friend she she told me she lost Gina and a random guy was with her and she wanted me their to help cuz she had a BF. WE went looking for Gina but gave up shortly.

 

Thats when I found out she was with another guy to go buy drinks and when she finally came back he was holding her hand. (fail ) she didn't notice me sitting their at first but I felt awkward so I turned to the friend and said "Hey it was fun meeting you but I'm gonna go cuz I need to meet my other friends" Gina finally noticed me and she got all excited and grabbed my hand. She was noticeably really drunk and when she heard I was leaving begged me to stay a bit longer. I did but I was getting uncomfortable. After the 2 other guys left leaving me and the two girls just and I over heard Gina saying she thought the guy grabbing her hand was gay, but wanted to see so they kissed a bit. awkward for me. At this point I tried to leave again but she wouldn't let me and grabbed my hand to take me to the dance floor. the other guys showed up and suggested to go dance together, again I tried to leave and she grabbed my hand again, after about 20 seconds of being the 5th wheel I had enough and told them I was leaving. She looked sad and toldme to text her later to make sure I made it safe to the other place. I left and didnt text her

 

3 am rolls around and she msged me saying she was really happy to meet me. and to say sorry that she was annoying, I thought I'd be nice and asnwered that she can make it up to me next time, to which she agreed and asked me to come to another club crawl next week I said maybe and I didn't reply after that.

 

So I'm sitting here thinking if I should msg her. She did tell me to msg her

 

to Clarify. She's 18 I'm 24, Usually younger girls are a turn off but she was interesting and I didn't think she was 18 at all until I found out. I'm new being single, while I'm not opposed to dating serious, it isn't my goal either having some fun might be good for me. the guy she was with is from another city an they were only there for a stag party so he won't be a problem come next time.

 

So should I try to make another move or just work on something else?

 

Edit: If you think I am silly or idiotic for posting this that's ok, but I've messed up a few potential things in order to justify coming back to LS for help.

Edited July 7, 2014 by lionheart153

[ktya]

Dude, sounds like a crazy random night of debauchery. You did nothing wrong.

 

Just kiss the girl faster and lock onto her faster when you get with her next time and youll get the action you seek.

[lionheart153]

yes or no to texting her during the week?