Jive Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 (edited) Up until the past 6 months or so, I was getting comfortable being in my post-college rut. I've been out of university for over 4 years now and have been super single for all of them. Super single meaning not even one hookup. In had a few opportunities but didn't realize it was an opportunity until the next day usually. I miss all signs. So basically I was unhappy, unmotivated, and felt like in order to BE happy I needed a girlfriend. I gave online dating an honest to god shot and came up empty handed after one year doing match and okcupid. Started several promising conversations that went nowhere, had numerous girls flake on dates, and actually manages to go on two dates with a girl that dropped off the face of the earth after date 2. I'm now seeing that this was all a blessing in disguise. I decide to get off my ass and actually work for the freakin things I wanted in my life that didn't involve love. I've always had dreams of being a rock star so I joined a band and now I'm about to embark on my second 2 week tour on the east coast. I also picked up odd jobs doing video work which I love. That led me to making a documentary which led me to a job offer shooting local concerts. I've made a ton of new friends really quickly and get this: I'm happier now than I've ever been and it wasn't because of some girl. Moral of the story: if you're single, do the things you love and focus on making yourself a happy person and things will naturally fall into place. Edited July 7, 2014 by Jive Done 5
Gaeta Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 (edited) Congrats on your accomplishment Edited July 8, 2014 by Gaeta
babycakees Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I honestly loved reading this. And here's the even better part: Now that you realize you do not need someone else to be happy, you are much more likely to find someone perfect for you! Seriously!
littleplanet Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Up until the past 6 months or so, I was getting comfortable being in my post-college rut. I've been out of university for over 4 years now and have been super single for all of them. Super single meaning not even one hookup. In had a few opportunities but didn't realize it was an opportunity until the next day usually. I miss all signs. So basically I was unhappy, unmotivated, and felt like in order to BE happy I needed a girlfriend. I gave online dating an honest to god shot and came up empty handed after one year doing match and okcupid. Started several promising conversations that went nowhere, had numerous girls flake on dates, and actually manages to go on two dates with a girl that dropped off the face of the earth after date 2. I'm now seeing that this was all a blessing in disguise. I decide to get off my ass and actually work for the freakin things I wanted in my life that didn't involve love. I've always had dreams of being a rock star so I joined a band and now I'm about to embark on my second 2 week tour on the east coast. I also picked up odd jobs doing video work which I love. That led me to making a documentary which led me to a job offer shooting local concerts. I've made a ton of new friends really quickly and get this: I'm happier now than I've ever been and it wasn't because of some girl. Moral of the story: if you're single, do the things you love and focus on making yourself a happy person and things will naturally fall into place. Ah, this put a smile all over my whiskers. I thought this had the makings of a sour old rant, and it turns out to have a happy ending. You're absolutely right. "Love" can often be an ephemeral thing - here today, gone tomorrow. The things you truly love to do can stick around for a lifetime. I sincerely hope that you fill in the missing blanks one fine day. You will have earned the treasure by then. Good luck to you!
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