lassie10 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 (edited) Hi new to forums. Don't really have anybody to talk to about this. Yes my family. It this forum mite help. Here's my story. My gf of 6yrs broke up with me 2days before valentines. Few months on I am still heartbroken. My feeling haven't changed what's so ever for her. She was my first lesbian relationship. I am 30 she's 36 and has had previous partners. We met online and we had a long distance relationship for a year. Then I up sticks and moved to be with her and start a new chapter. I came out to my family not long after I started seeing her. They are supportive always have been. They love my ex to bits she was seen as part of the family even more so after 6 yrs together. They could see we we're settle we bought a house together 2 yrs ago. Which is great we both were so happy it was a new chapter. We have had up and low. Due to depression. I didn't liked the place I moved to but I dealt with it to an extent. Big of culture shock as I came from a small town to a city. Many times she told me to go home cause I was homesick friends and family not round me. I didn't I sucked it up the person I loved was here in the city. So 6 yrs on still here but she broke it off. Yes we drifted apart a bit sh does shift and was hard to depend time together. She has a fatigue issue and was unwell I understand that and did my bit. We bought this this House and done things to it and we both love it. She wanted to have a family. I do aswell we had a donor all sorted and were going to start at the beginning of the year. Her family were excited names thought about. Then boom we are over. So confused. She started making friends online and was out with them. There was just something about this new female friend. She is now dating her. My emotions are all over the place. I love my ex so much and I planned to marry etc like couples do. We had dreams but it's gone. How do I deal with this. She says she loves this new girl. Me and my ex live together we talk but it's strange. I was away for 2 weeks and when I came back she said she missed me round house. Mms yeah. She doesn't want to loose the friendship we have I don't either I know her inside outand had does me. I have questions but she won't talk about it doesn't want to talk about us at all doesn't want to talk about past. When I do I stress her out seemingly. So I keep shut and everything is bottled up. I want to stay friends but then I think and don't know if I can be just friends. I look at her and feel sad of what I have lost and messed up. I see things and feel sad. Thing round the house remind me. Even today I took photos of her out of an album to put away and I couldn't do it. I am so lost. How do I deal with it. Not only lost her lost her family who I had classed as mind everything has changed. Is she going through a crisis. Anyway sorry if bored uz all but even and advice would be great. Edited July 20, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator added much needed paragraphs
FredJones80 Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 How did you "mess" up exactly? You didn't say you did anything specifically bad. You can't really be friends with her and I'd start arranging selling the house and moving back to your home town. You can't continue to live together, how weird. Tell her you're moving back and want to sell, see how she reacts.
imfine Posted July 20, 2014 Posted July 20, 2014 Is there anyway you can move out? I can't imagine how you can move forward while seeing her & her new girlfriend every day. I know it would suck to lose your home too, but it would be best. Then go strick no contact. It's not fair to you to maintain a friendship & it's very selfish of her to ask. I'm so sorry you're hurting.
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