Mark28 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I got dumped by txt saying it was over . Refused to speak to me . Then few days later I called her she said spark was gone and needs to be on her own . She doesn't know what she wants or if she sees a future. Said she would txt if she changes her mind. So left few days txt and said will I accept this is over or wait . She txt and said don't hold back for me cause I don't know if I will change my mind . Then I was going over last few weeks in my head as we have been happy then rem she has been hiding phone when it beeps . Also said about going out and I asked her if she had a nice time. She said I never said that . So I then txt saying if there is someone else say or just say its over. Then she txt back saying have i meet someone . Said I am waiting for you . Then she turned up a hour later saying she needs time and we can txt friends stuff not about relationship . She kissed me when she left . Then called saying sorry I shouldn't have kissed you back it's wrong and it will give me false hope. She said she missed but needs to see what happens. So I decide to try no contact rule then she txts asking how I am and what have I been doing ? And that I don't seem bothered . I said I am heartbroken cause I don't know what you want . She said nothing has changed . I said well I can't txt normally as I am in limbo here and can't be friends and have given you space and you still don't know then I just got a txt back ok . She's not said for def it's over or not . What do I do
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 You go NC & stop talking to her. It's over. She's being scatterbrained & giving you spurts of false hope that just keep hurting you. 1
Chi townD Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Dude! She was cheating on you! She's seeing someone else! She's dating someone else! She's sleeping with someone else!!! What's it going to take to get you to realize this and move on? 3
Author Mark28 Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 I thought that but she swore she hasn't been with anyone . But why does she want me still to txt her .? Or her txt me ? Also in back of my mind if I never asked out right by txt about her seeing someone else would she have appeared at my house that night or not . Why won't she just say its over ?
Chi townD Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 She said I never said that . So I then txt saying if there is someone else say or just say its over. Then she txt back saying have i meet someone . Said I am waiting for you . Then she turned up a hour later saying she needs time and we can txt friends stuff not about relationship . Okay, I misread that. She asked YOU if you've met someone and you said that you were waiting on her. Still think that there's someone else. She was hoping you would have said "yes" so she wouldn't have to feel bad about what she's doing. I mean, think about it. What girl that invested time, energy, emotions and love into a guy; and, she asks him about his love life? No girl would want to know this especially if they're still emotionally invested.
Author Mark28 Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 I didn't know if she was testing me when she asked that . But it's like she's wanting me to wait about till she decides . She's giving me hope then next minute taking it away .
No Limit Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I thought that but she swore she hasn't been with anyone A little advice for the future; the cheater is the last person on this planet that will tell you the truth. Second, NC NC NC. She's just keeping you on a leash in case things with her lover don't go the way she wants to and she needs a backup. Don't be her dog. 1
somecamel Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I didn't know if she was testing me when she asked that . But it's like she's wanting me to wait about till she decides . She's giving me hope then next minute taking it away . Chi's right, she's been cheating on you. She wants to have you there close enough but far enough away so 'if' it all goes tits up with the new guy she can come back to you. Will you be waiting?
Author Mark28 Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 Not if she has someone else . I can't live like this just waiting and going over it all in my head. She should just come out with it then I could just move on a lot easier than this .
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 She's not going to just come out with it. She's not mature enough for that & is trying to avoid confrontation / spare your feelings. Assume the worst & move on.
Chi townD Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Not if she has someone else . I can't live like this just waiting and going over it all in my head. She should just come out with it then I could just move on a lot easier than this . What! And make herself look like the bad guy in all of this? Nah, she's not going to take the blame. And even if you do find out there's someone else, I can tell you what she'll say, 1. He's just a friend and there's nothing going on! You're crazy! (8 month later you'll hear she's pregnant.) 2. He isn't the reason we broke up. 3. Nothing happened until after we broke up. (how convenient!!) Dude, take your pick. But, you're better off just starting NC and start healing rather than listening to that crap. 3
Griesfootball Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Just say your casually talking to a few girls. Continue no contact don't be a cushion for her or give her cake while she's eating it. If you tell her your waiting she will find an excuse forever. Make her think there is a window actually when you say you wait it gives her all control. And if she is meeting people then you are allowed to as well
Elle1975 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 You know.. one thing I have done right the last time I broke up with someone was to actually tell the guy I didn't love him anymore, it was over forever, etc.. didn't give him any hope of reconciliations. I had been fed too many "I need space" bs lines to do it to somebody else. Anyway.. It's over, and the cat and mouse kind of game she's playing is just cruel. You love her, so you keep answering her messages, when in truth you should block her number, block her facebook, put a no trespassing sign on your door, and stick to NC.
Mr.Pine Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Dude! She was cheating on you! She's seeing someone else! She's dating someone else! She's sleeping with someone else!!! What's it going to take to get you to realize this and move on? Chi, I love your responses. In your face, tough love. The ONLY way to go. 1
Eagle755 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 She's testing things out with someone else, and if it goes well with them, she'll either end things with you, or be a ****ty person and keep you around in her pocket just in case. But if things don't go good with him, she'll have you there in her pocket as a back up plan. That's what I gathered from that. I'd say go NC Don't even reply to anything of hers You won't ever get the truth out of someone that will do that to you
Author Mark28 Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 I will go back to nc again. Just hard when she txts like there's nothing wrong and wants me to txt friends stuff
Chi townD Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 I will go back to nc again. Just hard when she txts like there's nothing wrong and wants me to txt friends stuff Just remember, she's not your friend. I mean, is that all you want? Just a "friendly little text"? Like, you're only good enough to receive "friendly texts"? If that's all she wants and that's something you don't want, then don't respond. You'll know you'll be wasting your time. Just ignore it and go about your day.
Author Mark28 Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 No I don't want to be her friend . So I will ignore and do nc
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