TuffJuff Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I have know this girl for 6 years and I have been dating her for about 4 months now. Everything has been fantastic, my friends love her, my family loves her, my pets love her, etc. She makes me so happy and the sex is amazing. She does have some baggage though. Back in January she finally left a 3 year abusive relationship. The guy was both physically and emotionally abusive and robbed her of her confidence, self esteem, sense of what is normal, etc. This ******* somehow convinced this bikini model that she is not attractive. She is afraid of pda, not being perfect, very insecure, etc. Well today she told me that she feels she is rushing into this thing with me and needs to work on herself and find out who she is. She doesn't know what it is like to be in a healthy relationship and feels like she will eventually screw up with me. She feels like she is projecting some of her past experiences on to me and that it isn't fair to me. She ended it by saying the ball is in my court. She loves me, really cares about me, I have helped her so much, I am the hottest guy ever, etc. She doesn't expect me to wait around for her, but she says the only guy she wants to be with is me. We can be friends, friends with benefits, continue our "thing", or we can stop seeing each other. She will do whatever I want. I guess I do not know what to do. I am 22 and she is about to turn 21. I am still young and have always been more of the single ladies man type. I really like this girl though, but im not sure if I should sit around and wait for her. Anyone have any experiences with this type of thing?
d0nnivain Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 You were the rebound guy. She got her answer as to what it was like to be with somebody other than her EX but she isn't as invested in you as you are in her & she wants out. 1
LoveIsMyReligion Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Sorry my friend, sounds like she wants to be single. I've been in similar waters, most selfless thing you can do is walk away.
Moonborn Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I also think that sticking around with a girl who doesn't know what she is doing would bring you a lot of troubles. She said yourself that she is projecting her past relationship onto you, I would consider that a warning.
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