She wanted to BU so I gave her that.Sent her stuff back now she tells me she hates me

July 7, 2014

Please bare with me because this is a bit long but I have so much to get out of my chest and so many unanswered questions...

My ex and I broke up the night of June 11th over the phone (been together since December 2013 but known each other since 2009). We had been arguing on an off and every time I would start to back-down on the arguments I would notice she would take advantage of the situation and would turn the tables around on me.

It went from her saying "sorry" and apologizing about her problem of compulsively lying and her attitude towards me, to her being b***y and pushing my buttons on purpose.

June 11 -

The night we broke up, we were on the phone talking about how to communicate better and I said a comment about how I missed the old her that used to be so caring and that I am hating the person she has been with me lately. I get back a response towards the lines of "Guess what, flash news for you (my name), that person is not coming back anymore. I won't say sorry about my mistakes, i won't do this, I won't do that for us etc etc" WTF?

Long story short we get into an argument (no name calling, no yelling) she flips the script again and says she can't do it. She just can't do it. I got so mad that she has been pulling this card for the past month everytime she doesn't like something, that I tell her that I TOO CAN'T DO IT and hung up.

I decide to go no contact and give it a week for things to cool off and see how things go.

JUNE 13 - (Two days after) @ 7:30 AM

I get a facebook notification that her little brother is following me on Facebook (She does not have facebook and uses her brothers). She has done this before where she gets on his account and follows my page then removes it just so that she can get my attention. I of course didn't do anything.

@ 10:30AM I get a text with just a comma in it. Yes, and empty text with only one character (you can not send empty texts unless they have a character) - again I decide not to reply. It was hard not to say anything but I stayed NC as clearly she was trying to have me make the first attempt to say anything.

JUNE 18 - 1 week after the breakup

I decide to send her a message and reach out in the AM. I send her a few texts but I was not sure if she got them because she has no service at work (we use to email when she was at work). I did not get any messages back.

I end up taking an early lunch and drove to her work to talk to her in person. She had done this before where she would show up at my work, so I figured it was not that big of a deal if I met her by her car when she got out for lunch. Well I park by her car and when she came out of work and we end up talking.

She gets in my car and we start to apologize to each other. I tell her to give things some time because things have been difficult lately and she starts to throw a fit with her attitude like usual. I kept trying to calm her down, telling her that I will try to do my best and change my attitude towards our problems but she was not having any. She then starts to cry out of nowhere and starts to confuse me telling me she just wants to go HOME like a little child.

I brought up the topic of the "empty text message" she sent me and she blew it off with "I have no idea, I did not send that" I showed her the text and she played it off as if it was just her pocket dialing (On a samsung S3 with a screen pattern lock it takes some effort to pocket text someone). Then I bring up the facebook notification that she has tried to follow me on her brothers account as she has done it before, and she totally denies it saying that she must have been creeping on my facebook and pressed the follow button on accident...(WTF?) I totally let this stuff go as she was playing it off like she never tried to reach over with her games.

I then bring up the fact that I have her stuff at my house and that I didn't know what to do with them. She tells me that she hasn't even been thinking about that and that to do whatever I want with them. I told her I didn't want to throw them away cuz it's her stuff and it would be disrespectful and she replies with "Fine, send it to me by mail then I don't care"

To make a long story short, as we are talking (for a good 20 min at this point) her dads car pulls up behind my car out of nowhere. He waits behind the car for a couple of minutes then he moves the car towards the entrance of the parking lot. I was so confused what the hell was going on and she herself seemed to be surprised her dad showed up (She is 26, lives with her parents and is 5min away from work). My ex then gets out of the car once her dad moved his car and I leave to drive back to work (45 minutes drive from her work). On the way to work she texts me

"I do not want to give it time. We can not go back to where we were. I just want out. Please respect my wishes same as I respect yours when you asked me to get in your car"

I was still in shock about her dad showing up I replied to her text "fine, but why was your dad there" and she replies that he was expecting her home and she was talking to me so he probably got worried. Clearly her parents knew something was up even-though she was saying they knew nothing.

That night I had a hard time copping with things and I decide to call her only to find out that I have been blocked.

I could not believe this girl who would sit in my driveway for hours and call me 100 times a day just to beg me to not break up with her when I caught her lying 3 weeks prior, has blocked me and totally blind sided me.

I texted her that I could not believe she broke up with me over the phone and never even gave me closure or talk to me in person about things. Of course no response. I decide come to terms that IT'S IS OVER and even if she comes back, I WILL NOT GO BACK.

This is where I drew the line.

I TOLD MYSELF - I WILL NOT MAKE A FOOL OUT OF MYSELF AND LOOK LIKE A STALKER BECAUSE SHE IS ACTING THIS WAY WHEN SHE WOULD FOLLOW ME AT WORK AND EVERY RESTAURANT I WENT TO WITH MY FRIENDS WHEN WE WERE NOT IN GOOD TERMS. I FELT SO ANGRY I LET MYSELF SO LOW AND TO TRY TO TALK TO HER AS SHE IS PULLING THIS CARD ONE ME TELLING HER PARENTS AND PROB OTHERS BAD THINGS ABOUT ME SELLING ME OUT.( I felt so freaking low)

JUNE 22 - put my boat in the water and dock it to the local yacht club for the season. ( I was waiting for our anniversary on Jun 13 to put it in the water and surprise her with a dinner on the water but we were broken up by then)

JUNE 26 - (over a week after seeing and talking to her )

I packed her stuff, put it in a box and shipped it by mail.

June 28 - I go up north with friends for the weekend. At this point not a single beep from her until this day.

She emails me and calls me restricted once. I did not pick up but read the email the next morning which said,

"I got the package.I will mail you everything I have from you including your necklace you got me. I was going to drop it off at your boat but it's not here anymore. Either way you'll get them soon. Bye"

Then another email right after

"P.S you're never going to change and I am so glad i stuck by my decision and didn't come back to you. And before you get too excited and thik you got to me, you should know I only called resctricted to see if you changed your num and see if you got my msg. Have fun at Jobbie Nooner. That's all i have to say. Now. goodbye n have a nice life"

Jobbie N. - is an event in the water where people bring their boats and get trashed all day etc. I never went there and never planned on going there.

Actually I wasn't even around, I was 5 hours away north of where we live. Why does she have a problem even if I went to J.Nooner? The weekend before she went to a wedding party and probably met guys there but I never mentioned that.

I did not reply of course but it did upset. I sent her stuff she left at my house, but I kept gifts she gave me. She is now playing the card of, OH I WILL SENT EVERYTHING INCLUDING GIFTS. It's like she is trying to up one me I don't get it. She knew I was gonna sent her stuff back she herself told me so, why act so immature?

July 1 - I get another text

"You have ruined me and everything i believe in. I had so much hope for us and for you but you have ruined everything with your out of control self. We could of had it all but you are ****ing sick.

I hate you and I hate that I loved you so much and I hate that I let you walk all over me. I would of given my life for you and that still wasn't enough.

I hope god helps you and guides you in the right direction and you find happiness...but you have forever ruined me and everything i believe in.Sometimes i wish I never met you and I never fell in love with you...delirious dreams i suppose. I hate you, i pray to god everyday to help me forget you and everything about you."

8 minutes go by and she calls and I don't pick up so she leaves a V.Mail which sounds like she was either crying or sobbing before saying "I hate you, i wish i never met you let alone dated you... I wish I never met you" then hangs up.

She is making it sound like I cheated on her or was going around screwing women left and right or did things to her that totally changed her..WTF?. I was so loyal and so honest and she knew this and never had an issue. I don't get where all this hate is coming from.

I assume she called to see if I had blocked her number which I had not but I have deleted her number completely and all messages and pictures from my phone. I took down my Facebook for myself and out of respect for her so she doesn't get upset if I get tagged from friends having fun in the water or on weekends and I have not made a single attempt to contact or find out what she is up to in any way shape or form because I know how she is going to play it off.

So here I am wondering WTF? I gave her what she wanted. I stopped contacting her after I totally made myself look like a complete fool. Message was "YOU COULD NOT DO IT" and I gave her exactly what she wanted. Why is she doing this? She gets mad i sent her clothes, hair-strainer, shoes etc by mail when she knew I was gonna send them. Then she gets mad when she saw I put my boat in the water without her or when she thought I was out in the water partying. She then sent me hateful messages about wishing to never even met me and that I am sick? As if I am the root to the problem for giving her exactly what she wanted.

I am so torn by this but I am taking it day by day. She didn't want to be with me ..but then she is playing this push and pull games. I am starting to think she is either bi-polar or borderline or something.

Anyone can make any sense out of this?

July 7, 2014

As I was reading this I was thinking this girl obviously has issues. Could be bipolar, could be bpd.

She sounds literally like my ex.

I don't even have a good answer for this one. Girls like that are tricky. I'd say try to keep your head up and move on. You don't want that type of stress in your life

July 7, 2014

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore.

She's immature & she really wanted you to come running after her on your knees begging & pleading showing her that you are a doormat & she can do whatever she wants, no matter what.

If you don't need any of the stuff, block her on all social media & delete all of her contact info. The girl you loved is gone anyway & this chick is nutty as best (Psycho is more accurate)

July 7, 2014

She's being absolutely insane , illogical, and emotionally manipulative.

She cant seem to make up her mind about basic emotions.

You can do so much better than a woman who says one thing, means another, and then flips it around as soon as you leave.

What a psycho.

July 7, 2014

Ignore it. She has to Demonize you in her head so she can feel that she's made the right decision in dumping you.

If you look at that text she sent you, point out to me where she owns up to her hand in the demise of the relationship? Guess what! You won't find it.

Make sense?

July 7, 2014

She's having her ego bruised. She can't stand it that you're not giving her the emotional response she's seeking, so she keeps upping the attacks. She's enraged that you're not kissing her feet so the more you ignore, the more it eats her inside. She's always had control tossing you and keeping you. She's lost that control by you ignoring her. It's a power play.

She's emotionally unstable and you need to remove her from your life. Block her from all forms of communication.

July 7, 2014

As I was reading this I was thinking this girl obviously has issues. Could be bipolar, could be bpd.
She sounds literally like my ex.
I don't even have a good answer for this one. Girls like that are tricky. I'd say try to keep your head up and move on. You don't want that type of stress in your life

I read your threads and yes my ex is pulling same kind of crap. I don't know where it's coming from but I know she has pulled the same crap on all of her exs. The ex ex before me she broke up with the same way and started dating her ex who she was screwing from work couple weeks after. It shows a lot by just looking at her past.

I am staying NC strictly because I first of all don't want to find out this is the case for me, where she is running of with another dude only because she herself told me she would never do that to me. I don't believe her and never truly trusted her to that point, so I have already come to terms with the worst possible reason of ending. I just don't want to hear about it because at the end of the day, IT DOESN'T MATTER.

The only thing I have a hard time with sometimes is, trying to make sense of things but even that DOESN'T MATTER anymore.

Try to be strong as well, I know it's easier said then done but I have dealt with this before with my ex ex who I was with for 7 years and I know I will be fine and so will you.

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore.

She's immature & she really wanted you to come running after her on your knees begging & pleading showing her that you are a doormat & she can do whatever she wants, no matter what.

If you don't need any of the stuff, block her on all social media & delete all of her contact info. The girl you loved is gone anyway & this chick is nutty as best (Psycho is more accurate)

I have blocked her on my phone and removed my facebook which I've had since 2005. I don't know where else she can find me but I do not plan on ever going back to that EVER.

She's being absolutely insane , illogical, and emotionally manipulative.

She cant seem to make up her mind about basic emotions.

You can do so much better than a woman who says one thing, means another, and then flips it around as soon as you leave.

What a psycho.

I have been dealing with her acting this way with me for the whole month of June. Every time she didn't like something or we'd disagree on something it would end of with her saying "I can't do this anymore, I can't " Like I can't even have an opinion about something because there she goes again. So I started backing down a bit and that made her get even meaner to me. Next day she would apologize, then same crap would happen shorty after again.

Ignore it. She has to Demonize you in her head so she can feel that she's made the right decision in dumping you.

If you look at that text she sent you, point out to me where she owns up to her hand in the demise of the relationship? Guess what! You won't find it.

Make sense?

That is what's so amusing to me. She is forcing herself to think I am at fault, which even if I was, it is being magnified to a level that is totally blown out of proportion. I read the last text she sent me and I wonder where all these hate comes from. It would make more sense if perhaps it was right after a fight or when we broke up...but it has been over 2 weeks of silence since the last time I saw her and talked to her when I pretty much sold myself out to her non sense grumpy attitude. As soon as she received her stuff the week after, she went into the "I HATE YOU MODE" and "OH YOU WILL SEE YOU WILL GET YOUR STUFF SOON"

Where is all these coming from. I would of rather had her break up with me like a normal person, out of respect for the times we went through and things we did together and the years we've known each other. But she's been so ugly, it makes me feel like I am the one that broke it off with her.

She's having her ego bruised. She can't stand it that you're not giving her the emotional response she's seeking, so she keeps upping the attacks. She's enraged that you're not kissing her feet so the more you ignore, the more it eats her inside. She's always had control tossing you and keeping you. She's lost that control by you ignoring her. It's a power play.

She's emotionally unstable and you need to remove her from your life. Block her from all forms of communication.

The funny thing is, I still have not received anything of mine that she claimed she was going to send on her email. I only know of 1 pair of night pants she has from my house (which were way to short of me) and the necklace I bought her for xmas which she said she will send back. I also have a 2nd necklace I purchased her not long ago and I took it from her when I caught her lying for like the 5th time last month. I did not send that back with her stuff, she does not deserve it. I have removed my facebook and blocked her number again. I can not believe the way she is acting and how ugly she has been with me. She could not even do a proper break up and decided to do it over the phone.

Perhaps she had hope I'd come back trying to work things out like I did when I went to her work, and once she got her stuff back she realized it is truly over and her ego took a hit a bit.

July 8, 2014

I am starting to think she is either bi-polar or borderline or something. Anyone can make any sense out of this?

Perhaps so, NoLeaf. The red flags you describe sound much closer to the warning signs for BPD than those for bipolar. If you are interested, I list the BPD red flags in my post at 18 BPD Warning Signs. I also provide a list of the differences I've seen between the typical behavior of BPDers (e.g., my exW) and that of bipolar sufferers (e.g., my foster son) in my post at 12 BPD/Bipolar Differences. If those discussions ring some bells, I would be glad to discuss them with you. Take care, NoLeaf.

July 8, 2014

Perhaps so, NoLeaf. The red flags you describe sound much closer to the warning signs for BPD than those for bipolar. If you are interested, I list the BPD red flags in my post at 18 BPD Warning Signs. I also provide a list of the differences I've seen between the typical behavior of BPDers (e.g., my exW) and that of bipolar sufferers (e.g., my foster son) in my post at 12 BPD/Bipolar Differences. If those discussions ring some bells, I would be glad to discuss them with you. Take care, NoLeaf.

Thank You for the articles Downtown, they are very informative.

I never knew he differences between the two but it is much clearer now. She seems to be having bother in many cases.

Does cutting the wrist fall into any of the BPD or Bipolar categories?

I remember one time when we got into a heated fight, she went into the kitchen, grabbed a knife and cut a small line on her wrist and started bleeding all over the floor. Totally caught me off guard.

July 8, 2014

She sounds crazy like everyone has said, also she probably didn't think you'd be so swift to return stuff

July 8, 2014

Does cutting the wrist fall into any of the BPD or Bipolar categories?

Yes, NoLeaf, self harm like cutting is strongly associated with BPD. Indeed, the association is so strong that cutting and other self harming constitute one of the nine symptoms used in diagnosing BPD. Specifically, that criteria in the diagnostic manual (DSM5) is "Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting."

This association of cutting with BPD has been supported by a number of studies. A 2004 hospital study, for example, concludes that "self-mutilating behavior is a symptom seen in both men and women with various psychiatric disorders, but the majority of those who self-mutilate are women with borderline personality disorder." See Journal of Psychosoc Nurs Ment Health. Moreover, if she actually has BPD as you suspect, there is a 33% chance she also has co-occurring bipolar-1 disorder. See Table 3 at 2008 Study in JCP.

July 12, 2014

I got a restricted call yesterday while at work. I have an app on my phone that unmasks numbers when they are restricted. I got back a (999)999-9999 number. I didn't pickup but I did some research and it could be either a telemarketer or someone calling internationally which I never got before.

I told my friend about it and he said someone is calling me from an email or computer because his ex from overseas used to call him using her email/gmail for free and it would show all 9's on his phone.

Then it clicked, my ex would always text me from her work laptop cause she had bad service at work. She also knows I can see who calls me restricted so of course she wouldn't user her phone.

I can't say it was her 100% but I don't know why she is bugging with this games still...I'm guessing she wants to see if I changed my number still...

Edited July 12, 2014 by NoLeafClover

July 12, 2014

It sounds like she found someone else, normally when a girl starts just being a total bitch like that its because they sort of feel bad about what they are doing. Its a mirroring thing. She feels that you should be acting the way she is so she acts mean to turn the tables. When your GF stops being the kind caring person you cared about its just time to go. She has moved on.

July 12, 2014

Stop trying to insert logic into crazy. This girl is bats--t nuts and any time spent on trying to identify what is going on is an utter waste.

June 2, 2016

I figured I would post an update on this and tell people how things can turn around sometimes.

It has been since July 2014 that my ex and I broke up abruptly though I knew it wasn't going anywhere regardless.

To make a long story short, last week I ran into my crazy Ex's FB profile under the 'suggested friends' list.

I knew I had been blocked on her newly FB profile she created shortly after we broke up and I never bother to search for her after that (I went cold NC). I can't say how recently she has unblocked me but since it had been so long I decided to click on her profile ....

just to find out she's had a baby sometime mid March and is with some overweight guy who appears to be the baby's father and also works at the same place as her.

I wasn't really shocked tbh, I have fully moved on but in a way the scars kinda remain whenever she crosses my mind. I have nothing but negative things to think about her. She was a terrible woman. After looping around I realized she has unblocked me on purpose so I could see she now has a baby (she's always wanted to UP-One me on everything as it's stated on my first post on here) that's how terrible she is.

Pictures of her ugly man were all private (except the one our mutual friend was tagged in) but the baby and her were everywhere. Of course she had her relationship status 'in a relationship' as PUBLIC lol but was invisible when we were together.

I looked up the guy real quick (I have access to some info cause of work that I do) just to find out the dude was also recently divorced by his ex wife and the divorce was finalized a few months ago.

Did a quick math to make sure this baby wasn't mine (Mind was playing games with me eventhough I knew it wasn't) and she would have conceived him about the same time or less than a year after we broke up.

Surprisingly, the only feeling I really got was this 'pleasing' type of feeling as if what I had suspected about her being a compulsive liar and serial cheater was true. As if I could read the future and somehow went back in time and broke off the disaster before it happened.

In less than a year of us BU, my ex has had a baby with some guy who she knows for only a few months. I don't know if I should laugh out loud or cry for her. I feel like I should be upset or sad but I feel happy in a way. I feel like I want to point the finger and laugh at how things have turned around.

So much for 'wanting to get married, have the perfect wedding and have a baby ONLY after marriage so that her parents could approve.

Well hope you guys like my story...It is funny how things turn around work themselves out my friends.

ME:

I have been single since but tbh I have been very happy mainly because of no relationship stress, noone to answer to, no gf/bf drama.

I have been keeping busy with work and making money; working out is a normal habit now(I've become a gym rat), even got my dream car (S550 AMG) and planning on starting grad school.

I have noticed I am very cautious now, perhaps too cautious. I have kept back from joining any online dating or just throwing myself out-there at any women who is willing. I have turned down a few girls just because I don't see myself with them long term. I haven't had sex since October; though I crave sex daily I have managed to control my train of thought with the right head.

I am not sure if it's because of the last relationship or just being really busy with work but I simply can't seem to catch feelings easily with women anymore..I have turned into what I call a savage (I don't like it really) but it has kept me in ground with keeping me away from jumping into a relationship. I look, I flirt and then just say bye leaving things up in the air...without a care lol

One thing I have learned from my situation and I hope people going through a BU on here will learn as well as ;

1- ALWAYS BELIEVE AND TRUST YOUR INNER FEELINGS

2- DO NOT TRY TO MAKE SENSE OF THINGS THAT DON'T & CAN'T MAKE SENSE

3- TIME FIXES EVERYTHING

June 2, 2016

NoLeaf, thanks for returning to give us an update. Sounds like you dodged a bullet and are now doing very well. If your exGF exhibits strong BPD traits as you suspected two years ago, she likely has the emotional development of a four year old. This would have been apparent to you earlier if you had not been confused by her having the intelligence, knowledge, and body strength of a full-grown woman.

I wish you the best in your graduate school endeavors. You likely will have a great time there.

June 2, 2016

My guess is that she was acting all weird and illogical because she is a young woman and she was under a lot of pressure, she had a choice to make the guy from work and you. She probably would have liked to choose you, but too much water had flowed under that bridge and so she broke up with you.

She was torn between the two of you and she eventually chose him as he is probably the better match, the better deal, and her head told her to ditch you, but she was still very emotional as no doubt she had a lot of feelings for you.

She was angry with you because YOU were not the Mr Perfect she wanted you to be. She was angry with you, because in her mind you forced her to break up with you by just being you.

In truth, the relationship had run its course, she fell out of love, she knew it wasn't what she wanted but actually making the final decision to split is always hard to do, so the end was a bit messy with arguments and unkindness. My guess is she had checked out for a long time, but she just couldn't pull the plug, so let it fester until the end was inevitable.

Once that difficult decision was finally made, she probably calmed down and now has a baby with her new guy.

YOU are now on a different path, keep going and don't look back any more.

Let this info about her new life, be the closure you need.

June 2, 2016

My guess is that she was acting all weird and illogical because she is a young woman and she was under a lot of pressure, she had a choice to make the guy from work and you. She probably would have liked to choose you, but too much water had flowed under that bridge and so she broke up with you.

She was torn between the two of you and she eventually chose him as he is probably the better match, the better deal, and her head told her to ditch you, but she was still very emotional as no doubt she had a lot of feelings for you.
She was angry with you because YOU were not the Mr Perfect she wanted you to be. She was angry with you, because in her mind you forced her to break up with you by just being you.

In truth, the relationship had run its course, she fell out of love, she knew it wasn't what she wanted but actually making the final decision to split is always hard to do, so the end was a bit messy with arguments and unkindness. My guess is she had checked out for a long time, but she just couldn't pull the plug, so let it fester until the end was inevitable.

Once that difficult decision was finally made, she probably calmed down and now has a baby with her new guy.

YOU are now on a different path, keep going and don't look back any more.
Let this info about her new life, be the closure you need.

I am not sure if you read my story completely. My ex did not have any other guys during our breakup and was not choosing between the two. She broke things off and then would not leave me alone after I had agreed to it and went cold turkey. She then would call me restricted and leave me hateful voicemail while I was not picking up her calls.

The guy she is with now is a coworker she started dating months after and not someone who she had on the side... he started working at her job in January 2015 where they met and sometime in June 2015 she got pregnant with him.

Her and I broke up in July 2014 but she barely gave herself anytime to grieve as she has not been single for more than 6 months since she was 18. I couldn't care less what my ex does and the terrible choices she has made in her life anymore. I have moved on from her 5-6 months after the BU. It took me months to realize what a terrible person she was. She doesn't even have the dignity to keep me blocked but instead unblocks me from FB hoping that I would hurt by seeing her baby pics.. that's the person she is. Of course I blocked her now that I could see her profile as I couldn't prior as I was blocked first.

I didn't want to give her the satisfaction of knowing I blocked her after looking at her profile but then I figured.. who cares if she knows I blocked her after finding out I looked at her profile. I just want to be left alone and do my own thing and not see her face on FB.

This.. She was torn between the two of you and she eventually chose him as he is probably the better match, the better deal, and her head told her to ditch you if choosing a guy who looks 60, is round like a beachball, hasn't shaved in months and is divorced by his recent wife ..is prince charming to her then good for her. Please take him and continue having babies while still getting to know each other. She is a great catch for him too...but I couldn't be happier to see this because the way I see it.... I am not the one who has a baby with crazy and most importantly..someone who I have known for less than 6 months.

Having kids to me is a very important matter and if you don't know the person you're with how in the world can you raise a baby right? I would need to be with the person for some time prior to even thinking of making such decision. So good for her for making smart choices...

Now if you don't mind there is this new bar by the lake I should probably visit and meet some new chicks at.

June 2, 2016

NoLeaf, thanks for returning to give us an update. Sounds like you dodged a bullet and are now doing very well. If your exGF exhibits strong BPD traits as you suspected two years ago, she likely has the emotional development of a four year old. This would have been apparent to you earlier if you had not been confused by her having the intelligence, knowledge, and body strength of a full-grown woman.

I wish you the best in your graduate school endeavors. You likely will have a great time there.

Hi Downtown, thank you for all the information you have provided on her through out the years and encouraging words.

June 2, 2016

Your story almost exactly mirrored the girl I dated months ago. She did the same thing with being absolutely wonderful in the beginning then through conversation and her actions I saw the emotional immaturity, push and pull, outbursts at me being kind to her, lying to me, probably cheated, and then tried to turn things around on me. Then she broke up with me, said she never wanted to speak to me again...then kept contacting me. I think she might have had BPD as well. I'm great without her, but it was like I dated two totally different people in that time frame...so incredibly bizarre. Thanks for sharing your story!

June 3, 2016

Thanks for the update. Shows time does work. I bet that's a trip to revisit all the crazy in these posts after two years.

June 3, 2016

It’s over. She’s furious. Go/stay NC and move on.

One of my daughters does that, or used to do that. She’s married now, perfectly sane, happy, successful career. But she would absolutely shred a guy when they broke up, so she can never go back and he can never come back. I heard it once and it shocked me. It was really vicious. Ugly. But she was all purged and fine as soon as she hung up the phone. I’ll say this, she never had those lingering endings, no back and forth, no stalkers. It was DONE. My other daughter's exBF is texting and calling incessantly, standing outside her window at night calling her name, but she did the nice break-up, so that doesn't work, sometimes at least. I'd take it as the door slamming shut forever and for good, and just go NC.

June 4, 2016

Thanks for the update. Shows time does work. I bet that's a trip to revisit all the crazy in these posts after two years.

It is...like wtf was I even thinking lol. I should be mad it took me months to move on.

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She wanted to BU so I gave her that.Sent her stuff back now she tells me she hates me

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