Wife walked out with older married man, I met someone else. Could ex cause trouble?.

[GarrusVakarian]

Been a while since I posted on here!. Keeping it short, last Sept I found out my wife of two years had been having an affair with a 50 year old married man, twenty years older then her. It started approx a month before our second anniversary in July. Shock to be sure and everything I learnt from the OM's BW months down the road. But that's not what this post is about.

 

Basically after feeling like trash few a number of months, I decided to put myself back out there. Didn't necessarily see it coming but in April, I met someone else who I really like. She is different in so many great ways to the ex. I have been seeing her since then. She understands my situation and is cool with it. House and everything has all been signed over to me, she has been paid off and house is now solely in my name.

 

Not sure I am worried, but it is a concern. But anyone been in a similar boat when your ex-wife finds out your seeing someone else?. What there reaction was?, I have been NC with her since Feb this year. I have heard stories about the dumper being a problem in the fact the dumpee has moved on and met someone else and causing trouble. How did you deal with them and there responce?. She told me a few times to move on before I finally decided she wasn't worth it anymore. As far as I know, I don't think she knows. But its only a matter of time as we live in the same town.

 

At present divorce paperwork is all ready and in hands of solicitors. I am just concerned as we are still technically married, could she try to screw me over on house even though she is paid off and off the house. Could she counter the divorce saying I cheated even though she walked out last year?. Plus she is still seeing this guy as they are now officially together.

 

Cheers

[d0nnivain]

The legal ramification Qs should be addressed to your solicitor.

 

Some people only value what they had when somebody else wants it.

[SoleMate]

The legal question should definitely be for your legal advisor. That's so clear and so obvious that I'm surprised you bring this whole question up on a r/s board....are you hoping that your ex would get jealous and then you can interact with her some more?

[whichwayisup]

Be friends with this person you like and don't officially date or make it public until your divorce is final.

 

What you do now is NONE of your ex's business.

 

Why do you think she will cause trouble?

[Mr. Lucky]

At present divorce paperwork is all ready and in hands of solicitors. I am just concerned as we are still technically married, could she try to screw me over on house even though she is paid off and off the house. Could she counter the divorce saying I cheated even though she walked out last year?. Plus she is still seeing this guy as they are now officially together.

I'll echo the push to get legal advice on this matter. That may also include strategic planning just in case.

 

But I wouldn't worry. Your situation could be just the opposite - still stuck and longing for the ex - and she could also try and use that to her advantage. You learn in a divorce that you can't predict crazy. Protect yourself but live your life...

 

Mr. Lucky