turningpoint Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Okay, I've been writing a couple of page messages to some guy from an online dating website for a few weeks. He politely told me he was planning to meet someone else for a date and wanted to be honest with me. That was fine, and I respected his honesty. Anyway he sent me a message just now, telling me how the date went... he wrote stuff like "I felt comfortable and secure but I had mixed feelings towards the end. I didn't feel that excited feeling when I looked into her eyes. She seemed way more into me than I into her..." and yeah that's the short version. WTF. I'm pretty furious. He wrote me another 2 page email too and asked me to speak to him on the phone. Should I even bother to respond to this crap? This is a huge turnoff and I honestly can't take dating him seriously at this point. I'm pretty bummed. This is turning me off to OLD big time. I've had the worst streak of luck with it over the last year with just finding people on there who do odd things like this. I did meet someone amazing, but lo and behold, he didn't feel the same way.
veggirl Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Tell him you're no longer interested and block him. Why the whole talking for a few weeks before even meeting though? That's way too long to be email buddies. 1
Author turningpoint Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 Tell him you're no longer interested and block him. Why the whole talking for a few weeks before even meeting though? That's way too long to be email buddies. We only exchanged 3 messages. He took a week to reply to the first email. The second week I was out of town for work. And this last week he told me he was going on another date and wanted to be honest, which was fine with me. Plus I got pretty sick this week and couldn't have gone anyway.
Amy74 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Hmmm...not sure what's going on in his head but I'm saying pass. I would just ignore and delete but it's not unreasonable to offer him an explanation and tell him that you're no longer interested.
DArtagnan2 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 My guess he is telling you all this was because since he was honest about the date in the first place he is continuing the behavior of being honest and open with you. It seems like you two have emailing lengthy messages to each other, so it may be common for him to be overly wordy in general. Now, that doesnt mean he should have shared so much, but the key points were, to me, that he was letting you know, he wasn't feeling it with the girl he went on the date with and was still interested in seeing you. It is about how people say things, when they say it and so on, so while we all may think he should have tailored the comments, that may be just how he is and feels he can be with you. 2
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