McLachlan Posted February 19, 2005 Posted February 19, 2005 A moderately long post. I’ll set the scene. We met at a fancy dress party; we got along quite well and my friends thought so too. At the time I had no interest in her as far as relationships go, I’m unsure of how she felt. A few months later I got a casual job at the same place she works (entirely coincidental) and I see her every now and again. We pass brief “hellos” and “goodbyes” but nothing much further. I believe she would respond positively if I asked her out but I need to know a few things. She is a fairly large looking girl, but I feel that sometimes her clothes bring out the best and worst of her. However she isn't so excessively large that one would label her "beefcake". How do I know: 1) I have anything to offer? 2) What I have to offer (if anything) means anything to her? 3) I’m actually interested in her? That this isn’t infatuation, obsession etc. 4) My motivations are pure and aren't hidden subconsciously? E.g. How do I know I'd be going out with her because I'm actually interested in her personally? Not because I want to improve my ego? Not because I want to prove to myself and others that I’m not shallow?
jellybean Posted February 20, 2005 Posted February 20, 2005 Sounds like you really like this girl, and would like to ask her out. But you have a second problem here : are you both still working for the same company, and see other at work regularly? If that's the case, I would not recommend it.
McLachlan Posted February 20, 2005 Posted February 20, 2005 Quite the opposite, we hardly ever see eachother, and even when we do I can't say much due to nerves. I do plan on quitting work soon; I had the idea I'd remain there until I've had the chance to ask her. I've also thought I could just get her phone number off my friend and call her, but that might make her feel a little insecure.
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