Jason808 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) Hi everyone, Me and my ex broke up about 3 months ago, we had a great relationship and it lasted 1 year and 8 months. She broke up of the blue really. She told me that her feelings had changed and she didn't knew if she loved me anymore. It's now 3 months later and we still had contact during this time (arguing most of the time). I noticed she became more absent and started to care less about us. Since yesterday i applied no contact, I have tried it before but I was weak and didn't hold on to it. The last thing she told me is that she thought I was not the one for her, she would like to meet in the future as friends but not at this moment. I told her that I didn't want to be friends and if her feelings didn't change that this might be our last conversation ever, it looked like she was fine with that. She was my first girlfriend wich I had a serious relationship with, we talked about moving out and about getting married. She had a relationship before but it was nothing serious, she was 15 and it lasted about 3 months. So I'm on no contact at this moment but I'm wandering what my chances are at getting her back. Is it possible that she will find out that I might be the one for her? Or am I never going to hear from her again? In the relationship I always had the idea that she loved me more than I did her, I loved her like crazy don't get me wrong, but she always wanted to be together and I still needed my space etc. I know I've made a big mistake and I did not try hard enough the last months we were together, I know what mistakes I made and I tried telling her that I've changed and that we could talk it our but she doesn't want to hear it. Since this was our first real relationship I'm scared that she still loves me (she says she does) but that she had just got used to the feeling and now it isn't special anymore, It's hard to explain but I hope you guys know what I'm trying to say here. I hope to hear from anyone soon, I need some advice badly. -Jason Edited July 6, 2014 by Jason808
Griesfootball Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) So it was your first relationship, like my first one you probably got comfortable being with her and you started taking her for granted. Not that you didn't do great things but you stopped going the extra mile. Maybe she got bored or confused over your relationship. First love is the hardest to get over but it can be a great learning experience whether you get back with her or you find someone else. Think about what mistakes you did make but don't tell her. See what you can improve on. You can't change your core and you can't improve overnight. It takes time. Go no contact live your life. Also this is important think about all the things you liked and disliked about her. You may feel like it's all your fault right now but after you do this you will realize she had some things on her end that needed improvement. Start no contact please don't beg her if she comes back it will be on her own you can't force this stuff trust me Edited July 6, 2014 by Griesfootball 1
Author Jason808 Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 So it was your first relationship, like my first one you probably got comfortable being with her and you started taking her for granted. Not that you didn't do great things but you stopped going the extra mile. Maybe she got bored or confused over your relationship. First love is the hardest to get over but it can be a great learning experience whether you get back with her or you find someone else. Think about what mistakes you did make but don't tell her. See what you can improve on. You can't change your core and you can't improve overnight. It takes time. Go no contact live your life. Also this is important think about all the things you liked and disliked about her. You may feel like it's all your fault right now but after you do this you will realize she had some things on her end that needed improvement. Start no contact please don't beg her if she comes back it will be on her own you can't force this stuff trust me You're absolutely right, spot on! I did took her for granted thinking she would never break up, boy was I wrong. Best I can do is move on for now. I still hope that she realizes we were a great couple together and that she regrets her decission.
Griesfootball Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Had the same problem. Some other issues but since it was my first girlfriend I didn't know right from wrong at times 1
Chi townD Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Dude, she seems more passionate in being friends with you than anything else. That should tell you something. I'm pretty sure you didn't get loving and caring relationship with her for the final outcome is that you are nothing more than a really good friend to her. I would focus more on being in NC so you can heal and move on. You need to start making positive changes in your life. 1
Eagle755 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Just give her space man. The arguing just wears some people down one way or another. She'll either come around or she won't. Either way could be good things for both of you Just think positive, go nc If it's meant to be it'll happen First gf is always the hardest 1
Author Jason808 Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 Dude, she seems more passionate in being friends with you than anything else. That should tell you something. I'm pretty sure you didn't get loving and caring relationship with her for the final outcome is that you are nothing more than a really good friend to her. I would focus more on being in NC so you can heal and move on. You need to start making positive changes in your life. Hm I don't know, the day she broke up with me she even asked if I wanted to sleep over at her house, I couldn't because I had homework, next thing I know she called me up crying 4 hours later saying that she didn't love me anymore. Whilst she said that she loved me right before she left.. I'm just really confused, our relationship was good, it had everything
Author Jason808 Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 Just give her space man. The arguing just wears some people down one way or another. She'll either come around or she won't. Either way could be good things for both of you Just think positive, go nc If it's meant to be it'll happen First gf is always the hardest I'll hope she will come around, NC is killing me at the moment and I'm constantly wandering if she's thinking about me just like I'm thinking about her. When I think about the old times I wandered when it went wrong.. I got dumped without any warning. I hope she contacts me in a few weeks, I'm definetly not going to contact first this time.. If we were still together we'd be in Greece now.. too bad we had to cancel
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