Floralys Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hi everyone, I made this account so I could express my thoughts and seek your views on my recent breakup. We broke up an almost 1 year "official" relationship 4 days ago. Before this we were almost the best of friends. We would text/skype each other almost everyday but then I started having feelings for this girl, I told her how I felt. She had just come out of a 1 year relationship and was unsure if she wanted to date me. We were FWB for a few months and we were exclusive, but then I pushed to have a BF/GF label on us and she told me she wasn't sure she wanted it. Long story short she said yes and we were fine for the next 7-8 months. Until recently she said "we need to talk". I met up with her to talk about us, little did I know she wanted to end things, so it was quite a shock, as I thought we were going well. She told me she has not been single since she was around 16, (now 20 going into her final year at University). In that time she had 3 relationships consecutively. It was kinda a clean break up since I kinda knew that she had commitment problems. We were both in tears as we said our goodbyes, she said she didn't want to lose me and wanted to be friends or maybe lovers in the future, I told her maybe... I can't get her out of my head right now... I am currently in NC since the break up... I have been tempted so many times to contact her, but the posts on this forums have so far kept me in NC. I NEED to know how she is feeling about this as well... Is there any chance of getting her back? She made me comfortable with who I was, I could be myself around her. It's her birthday in a months time, I was thinking of breaking NC then to wish her happy bday... Any views on this would be greatly appreciated
FailedFirstLove Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hi maybe she just needs time to herself. Sort herself out. She's young and if she's just been in relationships for the past few years she may just need to be on her own. Of course I don't really understand this type of thing. But people,p are different and cope differently. Give her the space. Maybe she will miss you if she loves you
Author Floralys Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) She said the love had faded and she didn't love me anymore. I told her to look me in the eyes and tell me she didn't love me. First time, she looked at me and glanced away as she said it, the second time she managed to look me in the eye and say it. I could see the tears well up in her eyes as she said it, as did mine. I don't know if I'm reading too much into this, but it could mean something? I never restricted her in the relationship (except kissing other guys, i let her go clubbing etc.) how would being single make any difference? Edited July 6, 2014 by Floralys
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