ThatGuy89 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hi All, I've been talking to this girl online for 6 weeks and recently she's completely changed. We usually talk every day for hours normally initiated by her. Everything seemed to be going well until 3 days ago. Earlier in the week I thought things had picked up as she was bringing up stuff like meeting my family and how much she liked me. Then she started to pull away talking less and less. The only thing I can think of is she finally showed me a recent picture of herself. Knowing how she feels about her self image I may have gone overboard trying to convince her that I really do believe she is beautiful. Things came to a grinding halt last night when I asked if I could give her a call and she never responded. I guess I'm just looking for some advice as to how to proceed as I'm really inexperienced with this sort of behavior and don't want to scare her off. I haven't tried to push the issue and my instinct is to let her have some time and maybe message her later tonight or wait until tomorrow. Any help is appreciated, Thanks
HappyLove Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 She's probably some type of catfish i.e. 300lbs, husband back in town, really a man...take your pick but she's now uncomfortable that you want to actually get to know her so she's backing off. Nothing you did per se, if you decide to continue be very careful and watch for red flags.
smackie9 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 How to proceed? Send her one last message, asking what has happened. Go to explain you are still very interested in her and if she is, she can contact you. Then don't message her again unless she contacts you. If you never get a real response then it was never meant to be. Cut your losses and move on.
deathandtaxes Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Six weeks of talking in OLD world is an eternity. Why haven't you asked her out on a date? Possibly she could have tired of all the pen pal stuff. Or somebody else asked her out. Who knows!? 1
smackie9 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Six weeks of talking in OLD world is an eternity. Why haven't you asked her out on a date? Possibly she could have tired of all the pen pal stuff. Or somebody else asked her out. Who knows!? Ya she prob pulled away because you didn't take the bait (mentioning meeting your family and the fact she liked you), and asked her out on a date.
Author ThatGuy89 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 That's where I'm getting confused, I did and have asked her out multiple times. She always seems to be busy but at the same time genuinely sorry she can't. The first few times I took it as disinterest so I backed off and she kept contacting me. We are still talking through the website we met on though so I guess there is a possibility someone else has come along. Could she toss someone aside that quickly just for someone newer?
smackie9 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 You really don't know this person, she could be in a relationship already. We can only guess what is going on. Like I said in my first post, just call her out on it, and leave the ball in her court to respond. Like I always say if it doesn't feel right it's not. By now most would cut their losses and move on. Personally I think you should do the same.
babycakees Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I think you should move on from this girl. 6 weeks and no date? Always busy? These are red flags, Hun. 1
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