Wisecrack Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I've been turned down from her before but it's not like I'm solely chasing her; dating is on a backburner for me as I get my health and career on track while I continue to date and ask out other woman. We just message each other every day and keep in touch. Now we've gotten cosy before at gatherings and whenever I fire off a message, she will reply regardless. Now recently her pet died - the one that she grew up with that from how she's been telling me about, was like a brother to her. So I know she is doing it tough as she had told me about this before we were even close and friends of hers have alluded to it too. I am legitimately in her area a night this week and was thinking of this: calling her up on my way home from a meeting and telling her I've just ordered two cups of hot coco and marshmallows to share. I've never been one afraid of rejection nor invest myself too much into a chick. I guess I am doing this not because I am interested but that I genuinely care. Do you guys think this is a bad move? Most likely chance of being shut down or do you think it's alright? 1
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 You miss all the shots you don't take. If she is still grieving she may not be in an emotional place to date. Offer her comfort anyway. It does remind me of a scene from the movie Failure to Launch where Sarah Jessica Parker's character pretends her dog died so Matthew McConaugehy's character can help her.
ktya Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Go for it. If she turns you down for that shes a bitch, and it sounds like she genuinely likes you. Focus on consoling her, put your arm around her, kiss the top of her little head.
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Go for it. If she turns you down for that shes a bitch, and it sounds like she genuinely likes you. Focus on consoling her, put your arm around her, kiss the top of her little head. That's a little harsh. After my dog died I didn't feel very social & didn't really have the energy to deal with many people. When I turned down invites it didn't make me a bitch. It made me somebody in pain with no energy to deal. Although the OP's offer is very kind, she may not be up for any socializing.
smackie9 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Offering some comfort is what good friends do, I say go for it.
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Lovely do it but dont say you already got them just offer her the opportunity.. aww you're sweet x
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