StGeorge22 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hi guys Haven't posted on here for a long time. But I always told myself that once I had moved on I would return here to post my story in the hope that it would help people move on. This site was such a good tool for me when I was low, I want to make sure I give something back. Anyway, my story was I had 5 year relationship which broke down for a number of reasons including her mental health issues and my inability to support her with that. Our break up wasn't clean which meant 12 months of on an off post the break up til she finally decided she was moving to a different state. I then discovered a guy who she hooked up with post our break up who was an old friend of here was still living in that state (she denied it). I went on a massive overseas holiday and came back hoping she had changed her mind. After chasing her for three months I had to visit her state for work and discovered she was fully with this new guy. That's when I decided enough was enough. It hurt like hell, but I decided I wasn't waiting anymore and was moving on. It's an amazing feeling and one that you can't force. Almost instantly my friends and co workers were telling me how different I seemed and how it seemed Like the old me was back. I felt it too, I just did whatever I wanted and decided my life was too good to worry about things I can't control. About a month later I met a beautiful girl. I had low expectations, but we hung out more and more and four months later we are an item and I can't tell you all how happy I am. I've been where you all are, I know how you are feeling. All I can say is, what helped me was that moment when I just decided she had her chance and I was just going to worry about myself. It's funny, about a month ago I actually heard from my ex. I won't lie and say I don't still feel something for her, I always will. But when she contacted me I just acted like myself and she said I sounded so much happier. I've just accepted that we won't ever be together. I just hope my story can help a few people. This was the girl I thought I'd be with forever. I can't explain how low I was - even went on some anti depresAnts. But my change was so rapid once I decided I just didn't care anymore. You can't force that feeling, but it usually comes after you have been hurt by your ex that one too many times. My advice is simple- don't worry about tricks and games to win your ex back. They don't work. Feel free to have that last shot at them but if it doesn't work, you just have to call it. I'm happy to answer any questions so feel free to ask! 3
Heartbroken_84 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hi George I just read your story and I cant tell you how happy I feel for you that you have moved on and you are now happy. Congratulations Can I ask when your ex got in touch with you, did you expect that you would? Any why was it she got in touch with you? Its been only 3 weeks that Ive not contacted my ex, but it feels like a lifetime! If you could I would really appreciate if you could read my thread and post any of your comments on my story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/481807-lost-all-dignity-self-respect Well done to you for being so strong though, I really cant wait to get to that stage where I feel like I am ready to move on and be happy without him.
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