Teddyy Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 hello all. I'm new here and would appreciate any advice regarding my situation. I've known this girl for a while, she was in a relationship when I first known her. We*started out as friends then after she broke up with her ex,*we became closer than ever then started dating for 3 months. suddenly, she started acting distant and cold and after that she told me that she doesn't want to have a relationship with me but she wants to remain friends and didn't want to lose me, even though*I treated her good and we were great together. I was devastated because I have strong feeling for her*but, I understood that she can't and respected her decision. I really tried so hard to be her friend but it was too much for me and it was killing me. so, I told her that I needed some space*because I have feelings for her and can't be her friend right now.*She got angry at me at first but then told me she understood and wishes me all the best. A month later I saw her from a far a my friends gathering then decided I should text her and start a new chapter with her as friends. I contacted her and told her and told her that I would love to meet her but she totally blew me off. she told me that I took my space and didn't really think about how she would feel. she said what ever was between us is lost and drowned. She was hurt and can't act normal towards me like we used to be. I tried to talk to her or at least apologize but she changed her number and blocked me off of everywhere. I don't get it? why would she cut me off like that when she was the one that wanted the relationship in the beginning? why am I the one to blame for everything when she was the one who wanted the relationship in the first place and she was the one who ended it? all I asked for is some space to get my self together? it hurts that she would completely cut me off like that and I don't know what to do. I would appreciate any advice. should I just let her go?
Lovemeagain Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hey Teddyy. I am also a new member. I am sorry that you are sad and going through this. It sounds like she used you as a rebound relationship after she was done with her ex. Then to make it seem as though it was your fault so that she doesn't feel guilty about breaking off the relationship with you she is making you feel like it is your fault. She is probably saying that she was hurt because you didn't want to be her "friend" when she "needed you" and not thinking that you were needing time because of what she had done to you. Ridiculous...I know. 1
SteakandSalad Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hi Teddyy, Yes it sounds like you were a rebound and now she is using anger towards you to hide behind what she has done because she is feeling guilty. I know it will be hard but you need to let her go slowly. You don't want to be with someone who plays games. 2
Hello201 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hi Teddy you did nothing wrong ok , be strong if you are new here please read up on no contact and do it , right now my friend think only about your self hang out with friends who are your friends you dont need people like this in your life be strong 2
Moonborn Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I would like to add that generally speaking starting a relationship with somebody who just got out of another relationship is really, really risky. So this is something you may want to remember for the future. But anyway yes, you had every right to ask her for no contact. If she is mad at you for that she is just being selfish. You were even kind enough to inform her about it instead of just vanishing from Earth. 1
Author Teddyy Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 Thank you all for the replays. I try my best to be in good terms with everyone I know but, she doesn't want anything to do with me and I'll grant her that. I feel bad but there is nothing I can do. I guess she took it to her advantage not to feel guilty when I said I wanted space.
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