When do break ups start affecting men?

[Crystal_the_Vixen]

A month later or few months later?

My ex boyfriend is very stubborn, but he told me he was gunna really miss me.

But to me it was a lie, because he acted like the happiest guy ever & acted like I never existed. But I also heard men like to mask their feelings.

One day I told one of his friends to tell him I'm selling some of my stuff on ebay, in the facebook comments on my ebay link on facebook it said...

Shanna is ME, Katrina is my friend.

 

 

I was not friends with my EX when I posted my ebay link, but I tagged his friend so he can see it. I deleted my EX the day I broke up with him. Before I posted my ebay link. His facebook still had a profile picture of me and him, I never talked to him in 3 weeks too. After the ebay thing he blocked me and changed his picture, some of his friends blocked me too even tho I don't talk to them. He also blocked me on tumblr, even though I un-followed him the day I broke up with him and never spoke to him there either. I DON'T want my EX, I wanna know what the hell is going on in the male mind.

Edited July 7, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[Ordinaryday]

on the whole break ups are known to affect men WORSE than women, men take longer to get over it than women do.

 

a lot of women dont realise this because men have been conditioned by society to act 'manly' in public and to never show emotion and boys are even told crap like 'men don't cry' as if crying was a sign of weakness! it is absolutely ridiculous, but it comes from thousands of years of social conditioning so it is not easy to just dismiss and brush off.

 

women are also more open to talking to friends about breakups and by and large men don't - yes maybe a few men do, but on the whole not most. I LEARNED NOT TO cos one time after a break up I spoke to a few friends about it a few times and then later on I got a reputation as being a whiny downer! yes, I know they were pretty low friends but still....

 

also women can find a replacement easier than men .... they can just go to any bar on any night and hook up and while the guy may not be long term material at least they wont be sitting at home feeling sorry for themselves... there was a song about this very topic

 

[Crystal_the_Vixen]

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I read a bunch of stuff about men masking their feelings.

[sugarlove]

I used to ponder over that but that only gives me hope that he is regretting his decision. But the truth is it doesn't matter how long they get over the breakup, everyone cope different. Some people date to get over someone, others stay along for many months to work on themselves.

 

However, that doesn't mean that the person who is dating is over the breakup though.. it's hard to judge.

[Ordinaryday]

I used to ponder over that but that only gives me hope that he is regretting his decision. But the truth is it doesn't matter how long they get over the breakup, everyone cope different. Some people date to get over someone, others stay along for many months to work on themselves.

 

However, that doesn't mean that the person who is dating is over the breakup though.. it's hard to judge.

 

I once read someone on here say that it was hard to see that their ex had moved on so fast post-breakup, cos they had been spying on their exes facebook page and saw all their happy updates and party photos and thus concluded that their ex was 100% over them.

 

maybe that is the case. but someone's facebook page is a terrible place to look if you want to find out how they are cos most people pose on facebook and make it seem like they are so happy and having a great time, they are heavily edited to present themselves in the best light.

 

people do this in real life as well. so you never know what another person is feeling.

[flitzanu]

breakups affect men right away, same as women. if he dumped you, then he doesn't need to be effected, because he already moved on long before he dumped you. there's not going to be a "reaction" like you're wanting because he chose to leave.

[Crystal_the_Vixen]

breakups affect men right away, same as women. if he dumped you, then he doesn't need to be effected, because he already moved on long before he dumped you. there's not going to be a "reaction" like you're wanting because he chose to leave.

 

I dumped him, I just wish he'd say sorry.

He's so stubborn and always thinks he's right.

I asked his friend how he's doing.

He said: Really negative, butthurt at the mention of your name.

I dumped him on June 3.

[Ordinaryday]

I dumped him, I just wish he'd say sorry.

He's so stubborn and always thinks he's right.

I asked his friend how he's doing.

He said: Really negative, butthurt at the mention of your name.

I dumped him on June 3.

 

well sorry if you dumped him you have no right to check up on him or see how he is doing or nothing, you gave up those rights the moment you decided you didnt want to be with him.

[sugarlove]

I'm assuming you dumped him because he did something wrong? IN that case, you will have to wait for him to recollect his thoughts. But be prepared that he might just move on to someone who will not do that to him as well.

 

Sometimes it's easier to start with someone new than to return to something broken, fearing that it might end again.

[Crystal_the_Vixen]

well sorry if you dumped him you have no right to check up on him or see how he is doing or nothing, you gave up those rights the moment you decided you didnt want to be with him.

 

I didn't know my friend would mention my name, I just wanted him to ask how he's doing without my ex knowing I asked.

[Haydn]

You dumped him and want an apology? Wrong way round?

[Moonborn]

A month later or few months later?

My ex boyfriend is very stubborn, but he told me he was gunna really miss me.

But to me it was a lie, because he acted like the happiest guy ever & acted like I never existed. But I also heard men like to mask their feelings.

One day I told one of his friends to tell him I'm selling some of my stuff on ebay, in the facebook comments on my ebay link on facebook it said...

Shanna is ME, Katrina is my friend.

 

*snip*

 

I was not friends with my EX when I posted my ebay link, but I tagged his friend so he can see it. I deleted my EX the day I broke up with him. Before I posted my ebay link. His facebook still had a profile picture of me and him, I never talked to him in 3 weeks too. After the ebay thing he blocked me and changed his picture, some of his friends blocked me too even tho I don't talk to them. He also blocked me on tumblr, even though I un-followed him the day I broke up with him and never spoke to him there either. I DON'T want my EX, I wanna know what the hell is going on in the male mind.

 

You realize you shared your facebook profile publicly on this forum right? Just wanted to make sure.

[Crystal_the_Vixen]

You realize you shared your facebook profile publicly on this forum right? Just wanted to make sure.

 

Oh, it is linked.

Can I edit it?

It doesn't seem to have a edit button.