nes9 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 So I met a girl thru friends and we hit it off. Got her number and set up a date. That night we met up for a drink and had a good time, at least I thought. She made indirect references to going on more dates in the future (I.e when I told a story about my sister she said she couldn't wait to meet her). We ended up getting a little drunk and we made out at her car then I went back to her place. We didn't have sex and only made out more. The next morning she was hung over and we chilled until I finally asked if she could bring me to get my car. Overall the date seemed to go really well (this was Thurs night) but she has kinda been distant through text. Should I keep playing it cool or what? How long should I wait til I ask her out again?
Author nes9 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 The date seemed to go pretty smooth overall, so if there was anything I did to turn her off, it is definitely not anything apparent to me. I'm trying not to over-analyze the situation, but it is so frustrating to have a date go well, then have the girl fall off somewhat.
Author nes9 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 Nah, totally didn't start texting like crazy. Sent one text that evening asking if she was feeling.better cuz she was sick as a dog that morning. Then I sent her one text yesterday yo see if she was around for volleyball cuz we needed a 4th (before the date she asked me to play on her team for this upcoming week but Im unable to). Those were the only two texts I sent and I kept them really short. How you think I should play it from here?
Author nes9 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 Stop texting. Call her. Set a next date. How long would you wait to set up the next date?
Gaeta Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I love cheese cake, it's my favorite of all ! but if I eat a real big piece of it then I will feel disgusted. Too much of something isn't good, even if it's your favorite thing. Let her digest the evening you had. Stop texting her and let her get back to you. Then when she does set up another date.
Gaeta Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I would like to add. In the future keep a first date a reasonable time, up to 4 hours, then you each go your way, and this even if Cupid harrows are flying in every direction. We read tons of stories like yours on here, and those super long first dates where people end up spending 8+ hours together never ever turn into something concrete, one of the 2 always end up having an over-dose of the other and lose interest.
Author nes9 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 I would like to add. In the future keep a first date a reasonable time, up to 4 hours, then you each go your way, and this even if Cupid harrows are flying in every direction. We read tons of stories like yours on here, and those super long first dates where people end up spending 8+ hours together never ever turn into something concrete, one of the 2 always end up having an over-dose of the other and lose interest. Yeah it wasn't intended to be that long but the booze kind of its own haha. I had hung out with her thru friends a couple times so it wasn't like we were strangers but ya prob too long of a first date. If she gets back to me think I should keep the second one shorter as well?
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 How long would you wait to set up the next date? Not much longer. The date was Thursday. It's already Sunday where I am. She's worried at this point. 1
Author nes9 Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 Not much longer. The date was Thursday. It's already Sunday where I am. She's worried at this point. Damn. Other people seem to think I need to back off and let her contact me next before I try to set up another date but you think I should be aggressive and call her today huh? God I hate all the guessing that goes on after a first date haha.
Assasda Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Well only contact her if you'd like to set up another date to meet. Everything else is superfluous. She can contact you whenever, but right now, contact her to set up time to see each other
babycakees Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Yeah it wasn't intended to be that long but the booze kind of its own haha. This is why going for [alcoholic] drinks on a first date is bad too.
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