Abby_be Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I was with my ex for 2 years in a relationship but he moved away due to his work. We became long distance for another year before he broke up with me due to the difficulties of LDR. Also because even though he loves me he's not in love with me anymore and he started seeing other girls. Another year has past and now he's moved back and we started seeing each other again ,but this time it's not a full on relationship. I had a really really good time and so did he. And he definitely cares about me a lot however he also said "the feelings aren't exactly the same anymore". I want this relationship to work so I tried and tried and finally he agreed to give it a shot.And since distance was a problem we decided to move in together this time. However just before he agreed to try again with me,he met a girl, whom he said he had some incredible connection with. I told him"you have to make a decision or I'm forever gone". And few days later he told me he ended things with her. I was really happy until last week I found out in his phone that he was still texting her seeing her and worst:having sex with her! I know he wouldn't be seeing her for long cuz she will be leaving this town and he doesn't like LDR. he knows me a lot more than her and he loves me not her ..but I just don't feel very secure about this whole situation..what if he suddenly got crazy and change his mind ?
Author Abby_be Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) I know you are right..men like new stuff but once the flame is gone he may realize old ones suit them the best? I mean there must be a reason he still chose me right? Besides she's moving soon so she won't be an issue afterwards and once we move in maybe his feelings for me will spark again? I don't know what's gonna happen but what can I do? I can only hope for the best.. Edited July 6, 2014 by Abby_be
Author Abby_be Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) I just think we probably ARE meant to be..like you said..and that's why I don't want to give up...I don't know how he really feels but I know initially he wanted to be with this girl, but she's moving temporary and after all he hasn't known her long enough to take any risk.And we know each other very well and it would be unfair for me and him if he doesn't give us another chance .. I don't mind that he was seeing her cuz I wasn't technically with him. I guess I'm just afraid after I move in with him he will still be attracted to her? Or someone else... Edited July 6, 2014 by Abby_be
Author Abby_be Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 If you want it to work you are going to have to trust that his decision to be with you is a solid one, that he won't lie to you anymore and that he only wants you. I guess that's what I'm asking in this thread...would you guys think his decision is solid? He didn't lie,he just didn't tell me he is still seeing her. And he had no idea I know this either...
Recommended Posts