Medium.Lumo Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 I've been rejected by 2. Both times stung. It really eats at my self confidence. What did you do to get over it? I feel like I may never be with a woman again.
marcjb Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Rejection isn't even half as bad as being in a relationship with someone and then breaking up.
you_can_not_see_me Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Rejection isn't even half as bad as being in a relationship with someone and then breaking up. Depends, if you are dumped then yeah its worse. If you are the one dumping or both of you decided to call it quits then its easier much much easier.
you_can_not_see_me Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I've been rejected by 2. Both times stung. It really eats at my self confidence. What did you do to get over it? I feel like I may never be with a woman again. yeah it does affect your confidence for a while. Most guys (including myself) move on when they meet another girl they like. So best plan would be to continue to put yourself out there.
dichotomy Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Depends what you mean by rejection, trying to get a date? After a few dates? After you became intimate? After you committed and they cheat or leave you. Its all a matter of degrees, each step makes it harder. At various levels I have rejected others, and been rejected. You can decide not to put your self out there, or you can simply adjust and accept human nature. 1
Author Medium.Lumo Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 The first rejection was from my female friend. She's a few years older and a single mom. I still spend a lot of time with them and get on very well with her daughter but just wish there could have been more. Then I actually managed to get a girlfriend, another mutual female friend, but she was psycho so we broke up after a few short months. Recently I got rejected by a New Zealand girl. She was on vacation and we clicked and spent a while together. She doesn't want to do long distance though. I just wonder when it will be easier to find a girl
gaius Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Just about everyone gets rejected every day. Just out and about, looking in someone's eyes and saying hello. There's a good chance you're not going to get warmth and attraction back every time. A good first step for you would probably be to ditch that single mother. Your self confidence is already in retreat just hanging around her, it turns into a rout whenever another woman joins in on the rejection. Surround yourself with girls that give you respect, not that remind you how much they don't want you. 1
ThaWholigan Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I lost count after I turned 22 mate. Rejection is just a normal part of this particular brand of social interaction . You get used to it and learn not to base so much of your self-worth on it.
FrostBlaze Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Bad habbit to stop whatever i was doing that hurt me and learn my lesson. Grew up on beating, this might have something to do with it ^^. So because of THAT...just ONCE, i only tried once, got rejected so i never tried again. (been 9 years?). Since then i let them approach me, i never do it. It's a slow process but it has gotten me a few.
EasyHeart Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hundreds? Thousands? It only hurts the first few times, then you get used to it. Also, I assume that any woman that doesn't want me is a lesbian. I mean, what other explanation could there be? 4
MoreCoffee Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) I've rejected myself with beautiful women more often than I can count. I would sabatoge most potential relations oh just around date 3 when I started thinking too damn much. If you witnessed the beautiful girls that have truly "wanted" me but I pushed out of my life, not only would you be duty-bound to take my man card, you'd be obliged to shoot me in the face. Edited July 6, 2014 by MoreCoffee
ponchsox Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I've lost count. Dating is like my sales job. For every 20 people that say no I get a yes. Rejection doesn't bother me all that much. I just move on.
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Medium.Longo You weren't rejected either time. The first girl turned out to be nuts & the relationship was toxic. She didn't reject you; she took your virginity & then set about trying to ruin your life. The 2nd girl -- an exotic foreign beauty --"used" you for a great night of a vacation fling complete with making out. She will be an awesome memory. If she didn't live on the other side of the planet you would probably be dating now. She didn't reject you. She just understood that the distance was too great to overcome. It had nothing to do with you & everything to do with the reality of the geography.
fortyninethousand322 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Where are we starting the count at? When I was in 4th grade a girl found out I liked her. She avoided me for two weeks before I could convince her that friends of mine made the story up just so she'd talk to me again. Not sure if she counts though. Otherwise, I'd say 10 outright rejections that I can think of off the top of my head. That doesn't include the number of women I wrote to on dating sites who never responded, nor does it count the number of women I was sure weren't interested so I didn't even bother with.
2.50 a gallon Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Too many to count. What is important is I learned to not let it bother me. My Ex fiancé turned me down a half dozen times before I finally got a first date. And then at the beginning of our first date, she reminded me as she had told me before, that we would never become boy friend and girl friend, as I was too short, too old and too poor. Obviously I was able to change her heart My current girl friend said no several times, and we have now been together for coming up on 19 years.
Weezy1973 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Depends on what you call rejection. If someone isn't interested after a first date, I don't really think that's rejection. If you've been dating someone for awhile and then they say they're not interested (i.e. after they've actually gotten to know you) then that's rejection. And that's only happened once for me. Usually I'm the one doing the rejecting...
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