orangetree Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Hi, Today I was thinking about the long-term consequences when somebody broke up with you. I mean, the pain will go away sooner or later and you will be able to move on with your life. But what about the scars that the break up left? I feel much better now almost 2 months post break up. I even met a new guy, we haven't had anything yet (it's too soon) but I like him and who knows, maybe we'll date in the future. BUT I noticed that since the break up I really do have trust issues, that I never had before. My ex broke up with me after a wonderful holiday together, after many talks about the future and our life together, he broke up from one day to another, the day before he still told me he loves me and wants to be with me. It came out of nowhere for me. I also found out that he had another girl during our first break up last year, he lied to me about that and told me he hasn't been with anyone else and he was just thinking of me. Even when I found out he still tried to lie about it, but then he admitted it. It shocked me a lot, I never thought he would be that kind of person, I never thought he'd ever lie to me. So yes, here I am thinking about if I can ever trust anyone again. This guy is texting me every day (at the moment I'm out of the country so we can't meet anyway), telling me every now and then that he likes me and other sweet things. I have only met him a couple of times so far and I already think "What if he's a liar too?" and "What if he will break my heart too?". I never had this problem before and I hate that my ex turned me in such a mess. Can anyone relate? Do you guys think think at one point we will be able to trust a person again?
Griesfootball Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Well you can't just judge everybody based off of your ex. You should try to meet this guy a few more times and find out more about him and see what happens it should be exciting to meet someone with mutual interest
SteakandSalad Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I can relate to you too. But it will take time. We cannot judge a book by it's cover. Someone out there worthy enough will prove that to you that you can trust them no matter what. Please be careful with this new guys heart. I was in the same position as you but he has turned against me because I said I wasnt ready to date yet. Best wishes.
Moonborn Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I would also say that two months of time is not that much, depending on how involved you were in the previous relationship. Even if you think you are over it you may end realizing you are not really when you start dating other people.
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