sportygirl89 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Hey everyone, I've noticed all the guys I like are in relationships or not interested in dating. Why is it people don't want to be in a committed relationship these days?
mortensorchid Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 I have asked myself that same question. The only explanation I have for it is that they are just not interested in me (or in this case, you). Why? I don't know you from the next woman, of course, but I have determined that they would rather have trash than a good woman. And when I say "trash", that can mean literal trash or at the very least someone who is leaser than they are. They want someone who is uneducated, throws tantrums, self centered princesses who think that they are all that rather than one who conducts themselves maturely and thinking of others. They want a woman who is less attractive, has less personality, and has less of a physically toned body than they do. And, perhaps most importantly, they want someone who doesn't achieve. Do you know how many times I have been dumped by guys who hate me because I am Superwoman who does so much (working, education, volunteer work, socializing, etc.) when they do so little? ALL of them have. They want to be center stage and when they have Wonder Woman in front of them they think that they can't measure up. Then they bounce to the next piece of trash they find (and you can find trash all over the place for men just as easily for women) and commit to them because they are easier to be superior to. Bitter? Angry? You bet. I have yet to meet a man who will prove it wrong.
meeji Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I have asked myself that same question. The only explanation I have for it is that they are just not interested in me (or in this case, you). Why? I don't know you from the next woman, of course, but I have determined that they would rather have trash than a good woman. And when I say "trash", that can mean literal trash or at the very least someone who is leaser than they are. They want someone who is uneducated, throws tantrums, self centered princesses who think that they are all that rather than one who conducts themselves maturely and thinking of others. They want a woman who is less attractive, has less personality, and has less of a physically toned body than they do. And, perhaps most importantly, they want someone who doesn't achieve. Do you know how many times I have been dumped by guys who hate me because I am Superwoman who does so much (working, education, volunteer work, socializing, etc.) when they do so little? ALL of them have. They want to be center stage and when they have Wonder Woman in front of them they think that they can't measure up. Then they bounce to the next piece of trash they find (and you can find trash all over the place for men just as easily for women) and commit to them because they are easier to be superior to. Bitter? Angry? You bet. I have yet to meet a man who will prove it wrong. This seems ........... Are you sure that you aren't feeling a little self-righteous today? With that kind of attitude its going to hard to find someone. Maybe the things you said are true but putting down other women and insulting the same men that you're going after and being rejected by isn't productive. There must have been something good about them if you thought it was worth a shot. To the OP: Maybe there is something conforting for you in knowing that these men are unavailable. It means that you dont have to be committed to them either.. Its a possibility that that's the reason you are attracted to them on a subconscious level. Maybe it is pure coincidence though.. 2
Versacehottie Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Hey everyone, I've noticed all the guys I like are in relationships or not interested in dating. Why is it people don't want to be in a committed relationship these days? I think we need more information about you and what roadblocks you are running into. I'm assuming because you are asking the question you DO want a relationship. So let us know something more specific and tangible so we can help. I'm going to take a wild guess that if you picked name sportygirl one potential thing could be that guys aren't seeing you in a romantic way. Not that some guys don't like sporty girls but if you lead with that or if it seems like you main component that could be a problem. Let us know more about you and your situations. 1
kolleamm Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I have asked myself that same question. The only explanation I have for it is that they are just not interested in me (or in this case, you). Why? I don't know you from the next woman, of course, but I have determined that they would rather have trash than a good woman. And when I say "trash", that can mean literal trash or at the very least someone who is leaser than they are. They want someone who is uneducated, throws tantrums, self centered princesses who think that they are all that rather than one who conducts themselves maturely and thinking of others. They want a woman who is less attractive, has less personality, and has less of a physically toned body than they do. And, perhaps most importantly, they want someone who doesn't achieve. Do you know how many times I have been dumped by guys who hate me because I am Superwoman who does so much (working, education, volunteer work, socializing, etc.) when they do so little? ALL of them have. They want to be center stage and when they have Wonder Woman in front of them they think that they can't measure up. Then they bounce to the next piece of trash they find (and you can find trash all over the place for men just as easily for women) and commit to them because they are easier to be superior to. Bitter? Angry? You bet. I have yet to meet a man who will prove it wrong. Or maybe it's just women chasing the wrong guys?
Author sportygirl89 Posted July 17, 2014 Author Posted July 17, 2014 I think we need more information about you and what roadblocks you are running into. I'm assuming because you are asking the question you DO want a relationship. So let us know something more specific and tangible so we can help. I'm going to take a wild guess that if you picked name sportygirl one potential thing could be that guys aren't seeing you in a romantic way. Not that some guys don't like sporty girls but if you lead with that or if it seems like you main component that could be a problem. Let us know more about you and your situations. Way to be judgemental. I do crossfit. I look after myself. I put myself together well on outings and dates. I have been told more times than not that I am one of the prettier redheads they have seen. Always hit on at work. Even when on dating sites I would have to put less education down even though I almost have two degrees. Most guys I know like their girls to be in shape. The area I live in is not friendly to people my age for real dating.
mr_dave Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Hey everyone, I've noticed all the guys I like are in relationships or not interested in dating. Why is it people don't want to be in a committed relationship these days? Some guys do want to be in committed relationships, but for whatever reason, some aren't putting themselves out there. I'm one of them, just hoping it'll happen one day. I don't want to force it and at the moment don't want to subject myself to wading through a sea of unsuitables in search of that rare gem.
Gaeta Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 I have asked myself that same question. The only explanation I have for it is that they are just not interested in me (or in this case, you). Why? I don't know you from the next woman, of course, but I have determined that they would rather have trash than a good woman. And when I say "trash", that can mean literal trash or at the very least someone who is leaser than they are. They want someone who is uneducated, throws tantrums, self centered princesses who think that they are all that rather than one who conducts themselves maturely and thinking of others. They want a woman who is less attractive, has less personality, and has less of a physically toned body than they do. And, perhaps most importantly, they want someone who doesn't achieve. Do you know how many times I have been dumped by guys who hate me because I am Superwoman who does so much (working, education, volunteer work, socializing, etc.) when they do so little? ALL of them have. They want to be center stage and when they have Wonder Woman in front of them they think that they can't measure up. Then they bounce to the next piece of trash they find (and you can find trash all over the place for men just as easily for women) and commit to them because they are easier to be superior to. Bitter? Angry? You bet. I have yet to meet a man who will prove it wrong. I am feeling self-righteous today too. I agree 100% it's been my experience as well. Men are intimidated by strong successful women. When men ask me what I do for living that's when I lose them, I see their face go <sh.1t> . 1
MikeyBe Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone, I've noticed all the guys I like are in relationships or not interested in dating. Why is it people don't want to be in a committed relationship these days? Perhaps you're attracted to unavailable guys? Maybe because they're the one's who aren't hitting on you all the time. Or maybe your standards are too high. Bitter? Angry? You bet. I have yet to meet a man who will prove it wrong. Well, we sure as hell don't want bitter and angry. Conceited is even worse. Edited July 17, 2014 by MikeyBe
TheyCallMeOx Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 Hey everyone, I've noticed all the guys I like are in relationships or not interested in dating. Why is it people don't want to be in a committed relationship these days? There are a lot of people who want to be in committed relationships, but finding a man/woman is like finding a good deal on a car: they don't last long, and it's because people want them. When it comes to attraction, there's going to be more competition as the attraction goes up. You see an attractive man in a business attire, practically every woman wants to rip his pants off and put him in her mouth. If an attractive dude is walking down the street and some woman says "he must be in a relationship," I'd be like "no ****. I'm not gay, but I'd let him stick it wherever he wanted." Of course, that doesn't hurt to try but I wouldn't be surprised. It's all about having realistic expectations. The guys who have less to provide in a relationship are probably more likely to be single; it's unfortunate for them, but we're shallow and life sucks. That doesn't mean that unattractive men can't get relationships, but they don't exactly have a large amount of women getting swampy in the pants. The dudes who have been in several relationships probably realize that love sucks and sex isn't complicated; so they take **** easy until they find a woman who rocks their world, and then they marry her.
BlueIris Posted July 17, 2014 Posted July 17, 2014 (edited) Hey everyone, I've noticed all the guys I like are in relationships or not interested in dating. Why is it people don't want to be in a committed relationship these days? You say some of the guys you like ARE in relationships, so evidently some people do want to be in committed relationships. My daughter's getting married this summer and all of her friends are in committed relationships. We were talking about her throwing the bouquet and she said, "I don't think I'll bother because you and <her sister> are the only single women coming." (ain't that lovely... lol) Anyway, I see the coupling rate as being pretty steady. So, yeah, I think you're looking bleakly. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with you at all, but what you've described is how it feels when the *right guy" who is willing and able hasn't arrived yet. Why mad at Versacehottie? She (I hope you're a girl, Versace- if not, sorry) made some good points! I'd actually rethink what she said. Or, take a good long man-free break and take the pressure off yourself. Edited July 17, 2014 by BlueIris
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