DodgyDawg Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Is my ex GF trying to get back into contact by using her close friend? or is it in fact my ex's friend who is suddenly into me? Back story: - We broke up after a HUGE argument 10 months ago - lots of shouting from both sides - I went directly in NC to fix myself after the BU and the fact I was physically attacked by my ex friend - I would bump into my ex on nights out quite often ... she would constantly stare at me, get angry at me for no reason and then get jealous at me approaching girls. - Only just yesterday, when I was on Facebook, I received a friend request from her close friend (who I barely ever talk to, even before the BU). - The thing that's weirding me out is the fact that a week after the BU I deleted all her friends. So guys, and girls, waguan?
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 5, 2014 Author Posted July 5, 2014 It's been 10 months for crying out loud, MORE than enough time to full get over a one month relationship ... and she BLOCKED me on Facebook months and months ago! She blocked me because (at the time) she didn't want anything to do with me, yet she asks her friend to request me to just "see how I am" LOL ... why go through so much bother? I do acknowledge what you said, but I don't think it's that ... Is it pure curiousness? I doubt it. 1
flitzanu Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 a one month relationship, and now ten months later just because her friend sent a request on FACEBOOK, she wants to bang you. um what? 3
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 I don't know how long you were together, but I was with an ex of mine for two months and two years later, even though I have no interest of getting back with him and have no feelings for him, I am still curious about what he is doing. Unless she or her friend sends you a message or something, don't read into it. I sense you've changed the story a little (?) .. You probably missed your ex, and were single at the time - WHICH my ex could be at the moment. My ex LOATHED me after the break, so did all her friends (including the one who sent me the friend request) - I just know there's something to this, regardless of what you say - it's not just a casual friend request.
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 a one month relationship, and now ten months later just because her friend sent a request on FACEBOOK, she wants to bang you. um what? Well if it's not that, what is it? - be productive.
Moonborn Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Well if it's not that, what is it? - be productive. Why don't you just ask her friend why she added you? You can wonder and guess for as much time as you'd like but at the end of the day she's the only one who knows for sure.
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 Why don't you just ask her friend why she added you? You can wonder and guess for as much time as you'd like but at the end of the day she's the only one who knows for sure. Yeah, that's the only thing I could do ... but I rejected her friend request, as I didn't think much of it at the time ... What should I ask?
Moonborn Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 Yeah, that's the only thing I could do ... but I rejected her friend request, as I didn't think much of it at the time ... What should I ask? To be honest in your place I would just ignore the thing, since I believe it can only bring you troubles. But if you really, really want to know, it's as simple as asking her "hey, I was just wondering, why did you add me?". To which she may reply with a lie, or she may not reply at all or who knows, she may even say the truth.
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 To be honest in your place I would just ignore the thing, since I believe it can only bring you troubles. But if you really, really want to know, it's as simple as asking her "hey, I was just wondering, why did you add me?". To which she may reply with a lie, or she may not reply at all or who knows, she may even say the truth. I hope she tells me the truth ... if not I'll block her and get on with my life.
reddragon588 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 I sense you've changed the story a little (?) .. You probably missed your ex, and were single at the time - WHICH my ex could be at the moment. My ex LOATHED me after the break, so did all her friends (including the one who sent me the friend request) - I just know there's something to this, regardless of what you say - it's not just a casual friend request. It's probably your ex asking her to request you so she can see what you're doing. Nothing more, nothing less. Just deny the request and move on.
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 It's probably your ex asking her to request you so she can see what you're doing. Nothing more, nothing less. Just deny the request and move on. It doesn't make sense after 10 months of a 1 month fling to want to know what your ex is up to - this just proves that she isn't in a relationship at the moment. My ex blocked me months ago ... AND you don't need to add someone to see your ****!
flitzanu Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 It doesn't make sense after 10 months of a 1 month fling to want to know what your ex is up to - this just proves that she isn't in a relationship at the moment. My ex blocked me months ago ... AND you don't need to add someone to see your ****! so what's the point? what is your endgame and motivation here? do you want to bang her friend or something? simplest explanation is often the right explanation. in this case maybe her friend saw you in the suggestions of "people you know" and added you arbitrarily because she likes to add people and have a huge friends list. also, facebook is not real life.
Simon Phoenix Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 What the hell is 'waguan'? That word bothers me. That being said, I think you are taking a huge logical leap by assuming that the friend wants to f--k you.
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 so what's the point? what is your endgame and motivation here? do you want to bang her friend or something? simplest explanation is often the right explanation. in this case maybe her friend saw you in the suggestions of "people you know" and added you arbitrarily because she likes to add people and have a huge friends list. also, facebook is not real life. No **** it's not real life - think that's pretty obvious ... Now, you have quite clearly ignored, or over read some key facts here. This girl who tried to add me is a cunt ... she hated my guts, LOATHED my guts after the break up, so there is NO reason for her to add me. "simplest explanation is often the right explanation" - this ain't 'simple' though ...
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 What the hell is 'waguan'? That word bothers me. That being said, I think you are taking a huge logical leap by assuming that the friend wants to f--k you. Waguan = what's going on She doesn't want to **** me lol ... she hated (loathed) my guts months before, and she's my ex's close/best friend .... It's clearly something else.
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 It means nothing, its not a request from your ex.. My ex blocked me .. that's why is wasn't from my ex ... girls do this ALL the time .. they always try to find a middle man, or in this case woman, to do their dirty work ... it isn't just curiousness because they all loathed me, they all hated my guts ... no way they'd suddenly add me on Facebook, or even try to make contact.
Author DodgyDawg Posted July 7, 2014 Author Posted July 7, 2014 Decided to message the girl who tried to add me, just asked why she wants to add me ... if she tells me it's nothing, or it's related to her only, I'll block her permanently ... if it's something else related to my ex somehow I'll press on!
flitzanu Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Decided to message the girl who tried to add me, just asked why she wants to add me ... if she tells me it's nothing, or it's related to her only, I'll block her permanently ... if it's something else related to my ex somehow I'll press on! so then you're hoping it's related to your ex? again, still not sure what your motivation is for even pursing this.
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