Have you ever get back together with someone that you dated short-term??

[brittle]

So this guy and I met online, met twice all day long, started developing feelings to each other, and then he backed off. Initially he messaged me less and less, and in the end he told me he met someone else that he knew from before and doesn't want to hurt me while he is not sure whether he wants to be with me or her.

 

I accepted of course, but there was something in his tone that is still haunting me. I felt like he is unsure in his decision to leave. Maybe he really likes the other woman, maybe he got scared that the things between us moved too quickly... but I feel like we ended an unfinished story. I'm not planning to do anything to "chase" him, however, I am secretly hoping he will reconsider his decision to stop seeing me.

 

Is there any of you here that has similar story that took a turn, and then you got back together? I am very curious for other people's experiences in similar situations, since I've never been in such a situation before.

[ktya]

I have a similar experience to you.

 

I met this girl, we hung out all day long, i was sleeping with her for a while there 3-4 times a week. I was dating another girl at the time too and was honest about it. I was playing the POF hot or not game one morning and saw a picture of her come up and she had told me she deleted her account. I read the profile and at the bottom it said she was drunk.

 

I ribbed her about it and told her i hit the like button and said it must have been a good night. I didnt really care as we werent exclusive. Later that day she broke it off and manufactured some fight over me having a profile still and broke it off.

 

I zapped her on facebook a month or so later and said i would text her but she told me she was seeing someone else. Somehow i ended up texting her and asked her how things were going with the guy, she said she broke it off with him because he wanted too much time from her and she had too much going on.

 

I ended up going on a date with her, and now we talk every few days. Not sure where it will lead but ill probably get a booty call, shes alluding to things that make me think it will end up there.

[crazybestie101]

I was in same situation as yours , dated a guy for short time. He said something similar as your ex has been saying to you. its been 9 months of NO CONTACT , he hasn't been back. Believe him and MOVE ON. He has checked out already.

 

And why would you want to be with someone who has already started seeing someone else. That clearly shows that you are never his main chick. To him you are just an option. Move on else you will be keep waiting and it will never end.

[Doubtsforever]

Once.

Yet when we got back together it lasted for about two weeks, and then he said he needed to be free, so that was it.

[d0nnivain]

Had a summer fling with somebody. After the summer was over the geography was too much of a p.i.t.a. to deal with. A few years later he moved closer to me. We tried again but there wasn't chemistry any more.

[brittle]

Hah, almost all shared experiences are negative We ended on such a high note that I feel like that if only we had one last chance to see each other, we'll be back together.

 

Regarding him seeing someone else... deep inside I believe it is an excuse to keep me away. But even if it is true, I am not bothered since we haven't been discussing exclusivity so far...

 

Probably a happy ending is just an illusion. But it hurts so much to leave a story incomplete, just in its real start...

[sugarlove]

So this guy and I met online, met twice all day long, started developing feelings to each other, and then he backed off. Initially he messaged me less and less, and in the end he told me he met someone else that he knew from before and doesn't want to hurt me while he is not sure whether he wants to be with me or her.

 

I accepted of course, but there was something in his tone that is still haunting me. I felt like he is unsure in his decision to leave. Maybe he really likes the other woman, maybe he got scared that the things between us moved too quickly... but I feel like we ended an unfinished story. I'm not planning to do anything to "chase" him, however, I am secretly hoping he will reconsider his decision to stop seeing me.

 

Is there any of you here that has similar story that took a turn, and then you got back together? I am very curious for other people's experiences in similar situations, since I've never been in such a situation before.

 

I had something similar happened to me with one of my exes. He did touch base with me 4 months after we broke up, by then I've already moved on with another new guy. Then he tried to contact me again a year later after I just broke up recently. I forgot why it didn't work between us. He reminded me that we have a speed issues, I was moving too fast for him and he wanted to take it slow.

 

I decided that for two people to be compatible, how fast/slow they want to be in a relationship is very important. I doubt very much he will speed up after a year, or I will slow down. I decided to stop talking to him after his 2nd attempt at contacting me. It just won't work.

[brittle]

Funny, how long have you dated before you broke up initially? Apparently you left a long-lasting impression on him...

[Abby_be]

It depends on the other person as well. Is she someone he always liked? Does he know her for a long time? he may like you but does he like the other person a lot more?

The whole "too scared about things moving too fast" is bullcrap though.

[sugarlove]

Funny, how long have you dated before you broke up initially? Apparently you left a long-lasting impression on him...

 

Just 4 months. I do think if someone said things are moving to fast.. it won't change the second time around. I deleted his number.. When he contacted me, I asked who is this.. which must have bruised his ego.

[crazybestie101]

Hah, almost all shared experiences are negative We ended on such a high note that I feel like that if only we had one last chance to see each other, we'll be back together.

 

Regarding him seeing someone else... deep inside I believe it is an excuse to keep me away. But even if it is true, I am not bothered since we haven't been discussing exclusivity so far...

 

Probably a happy ending is just an illusion. But it hurts so much to leave a story incomplete, just in its real start...

 

 

Your ex is so sound like my ex. He even told me that he started liking someone but there was no one. He just wanted me to accept it was over and it was only way i would leave him alone .Last time i heard from my friend that he was still single and traveling around places. I don't care what he up to now. And btw , we were exclusive for the amount of time we were together. He announced everybody about us in just one week of dating and so on. It's just a memory now..

[brittle]

"He just wanted me to accept it was over and it was only way i would leave him alone ."

 

Why do you think - you came too strong, or he felt like he's not good for you?

[brittle]

Enigma32! The first positive story here Have you missed the girl in the year apart, or the things just started all over after she contacted you again?

Happy for two of you!

[crazybestie101]

"He just wanted me to accept it was over and it was only way i would leave him alone ."

 

Why do you think - you came too strong, or he felt like he's not good for you?

 

 

There was more to the story that i can't write here.. When he wanted to break up , he said he lost interest. He didn't wanted to be bad person so he blamed me for everything .i.e i became too demanding for him. I asked him for reason but he said he doesn't know.He got tired of all this so he told me he has someone else and deleted me off everything. Well i always knew there is no " someone" in picture. After few months i came to know from my friend that he was lying , he isn't with any one. Though he was chasing girls but nothing worked out for him lol Anyways , i was there to find love but i guess he got "GIGS" so he left.