FoolishMan Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 I am in the process of trying to re-define a friendship I have with a girl as basically I really like her and although I get weird signals from her, she has categorically told me that she sees me purely as a friend and no more! Essentially, I am hoping to take my feelings out and try to be a normal friend if that is possible ... If not, then I will have to end the friendship as my feelings are getting in the way! In the recent past (within the past 4 months), she has sent me selfies of herself on more than one occasion, usually made up and/or posing (not inappropriately) with the words "just for you!". She knows I have feelings for her. She has also told me that she "loves me" or "loves me loads" but I know that this can mean friendly love. My gut tells me that this woman has feelings for me too but I am very conscious that it is probably a man reading the wrong signals ...
stillbyMyself Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 JMHO, but she is using you to keep her EGO up! She isn't even a good friend if she is doing this to you knowing how you feel about her. She will never want more than to keep you around to make herself feel good. You can do better than that with a friend and/or a gf!! Save yourself the grief and lose her "friendship". You deserve better! 1
CC12 Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 She knows I have feelings for her. How does she know? Have you told her you have feelings for her? Have you asked her out on a date or anything like that?
Author FoolishMan Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 How does she know? Have you told her you have feelings for her? Have you asked her out on a date or anything like that? She knows as I have told her ...
preraph Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 She's not sending photos because she's into you. She's sending photos because she's into herself and likes having fans. I'd be insulted by it at this point. You'll never get anywhere with her or you already would have. If i were you I'd start being 'too busy' anytime she initiates contact. 2
d0nnivain Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 The more you post about her, the less nice she seems. Spend more time apart from her. It will be better / healthier for you. 1
AF. Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 She's using you for her self esteem. Unfortunately I've had this happen to me in the past by an extremely good looking girl. I never had any feelings but she definitely sent me the wrong signals. The more you tell them they look good the more they will send you these pictures and say flirty things. And once they know you like them or find them attractive they will take full advantage of that.
Author FoolishMan Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 (edited) I am sorry I am posting many posts about the same person but essentially this has been going on for quite a while and hence there has been a lot of things that have gone on, which I have taken with good faith (if that is the right term, hope you know what I mean...). I am beginning to feel like such a massive idiot and disappointed with myself. There is this voice in my head that says "she is using me as a doormat ... but it is hard to listen at times". I really appreciate your replies, you people are certainly helping me a lot as you are impartial and can see straight through a facade .... THANK YOU! Edited July 6, 2014 by FoolishMan
Author FoolishMan Posted July 6, 2014 Author Posted July 6, 2014 She's using you for her self esteem. Unfortunately I've had this happen to me in the past by an extremely good looking girl. I never had any feelings but she definitely sent me the wrong signals. The more you tell them they look good the more they will send you these pictures and say flirty things. And once they know you like them or find them attractive they will take full advantage of that. Hell, you just described my situation I always complimented her as well! Led on like a moth to the flame and now i am being burnt!
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