Curious_lad Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 I have this female friend and we have been friends for awhile. She used to text me all the time. We were pretty close. She would even cuddle with me sometimes. I'm a guy btw. She recently went to college and from then on, has ignored all of my texts. She'll view my Snapchats, but won't resond. I find out later that she met a guy and they are boyfriend and girlfriend. They got together pretty quickly after she went off to college. She never bothered to tell me, but all my friends already knew. One weekend she comes back home from college and approaches me, gives me hugs, like she hasn't realized she has been ignoring me. Can someone help explain all this nonsense?
Glinda.Good Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 I'm sorry, but it sounds like your friendship meant more to you than it did to her. Going away to college changes a person's perspective; also having a boyfriend may make her feel differently about how she interacts with male friends. She obviously still cares for you or she would not have been so happy to see you.
daisydook Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 It sounds like she went from cuddling with you, to cuddling with him, and didn't know how to talk about it with you, so she just didn't. Now, she wants to act like nothing is different and this is what I like to call rug sweeping. If she just sweeps it under the rug, she hopes you will too and then no one ever has to talk about that awkwardness. Explained, in a nutshell.
marcjb Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 (edited) She is in a relationship now. Respect it, be happy for her and back off. The friendship is not actually platonic because you have feelings for her given your first post. Edited July 5, 2014 by marcjb 1
Author Curious_lad Posted July 5, 2014 Author Posted July 5, 2014 Thanks. These answers are helpful. Don't worry, I respect the relationship. I'm one of those nice guys...the ones that are on track of finishing last. Lol. How would I get her to stop ignoring my texts?..or is that going to come with time? I dont want to keep texting her when I know she won't reply. 1
marcjb Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Simply stop texting her. Go out, live your life and find other people.
whichwayisup Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Thanks. These answers are helpful. Don't worry, I respect the relationship. I'm one of those nice guys...the ones that are on track of finishing last. Lol. How would I get her to stop ignoring my texts?..or is that going to come with time? I dont want to keep texting her when I know she won't reply. Just don't text her, let her text you first. Seems maybe you invested much more into the friendship than she did. When someone ignores you it hurts. You'll be only hurting yourself more if you continue to text her knowing she won't answer. Let go and focus on your other friends, people who treat you better than she does.
preraph Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 You need to stop texting anyone who doesn't return texts. She's moved on with her life and is being a good girlfriend to her boyfriend by not texting a guy she knows has a thing for her that she's not interested in. Don't text her at all ever again unless she texts you. To do so is just making you look in love and desperate, no matter what the text says. Walk away with your dignity. If she circles back around, keep in mind she's not interested in your romantically or she'd already have done something about it.
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