littledoll Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 (edited) Hi guys, I have a little problem. I feel very insecure about the manner in which my ex broke up with me. I know men quite well. I grew up surrounded by them. I know that when a man breaks up with a woman, he puts up with her a long time, tells everyone around him and himself that she is inadequate and not good enough for him and. Once he has broken up with her, he feels happy and relieved because he's finally shaken off this crazy, common, lazy girl and is now able to do better than her. He was very apologetic when he broke up with me. He inquired after me after the break-up. A year and a half later, he comes back, sounding very happy to talk to me, flirty in an almost submissive way. My ex broke up with me because I wasn't successful or ambitious enough. I can accept that. I know he has never loved me. I remember one day that he mentionned very proudly that his ex girlfriend, the one that got away, was blonde and had blue eyes. NOw how did he want to me take his comment? I come from a mixed ethnic background, I have beige skin, dark brown eyes, black hair. I interpreted his comment the only way I could. That he didn't like how I looked and that I was an embarassment. I wish he had been a jerk to me when we broke up. That he had spewed venom at me. Put me back into my place. Tell me I am ugly and that he will never be attracted to someone like me. I wish that he had gotten himself the most beautiful blonde girl after he broke up with me and that he was happy with her. It would give me peace. But he hasn't managed that. He "came back", trying to cajole me with sugary words. He hasn't found himself a beautiful presentable blonde girl and wants to hang out with this ugly, embarrassing woman (me). It absolutely kills me. Please help me understand!!! Edited July 5, 2014 by littledoll
Strength in Healing Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 I wish he had been a jerk to me when we broke up. That he had spewed venom at me. Put me back into my place. Tell me I am ugly and that he will never be attracted to someone like me. I wish that he had gotten himself the most beautiful blonde girl after he broke up with me and that he was happy with her. It would give me peace. But he hasn't managed that. He "came back", trying to cajole me with sugary words. He hasn't found himself a beautiful presentable blonde girl and wants to hang out with this ugly, embarrassing woman (me). It absolutely kills me. Please help me understand!!! This makes no difference ultimately. Strength comes from within, and knowledge is the weapon you have to wield in a fight that will never end. Stretches far beyond frivolous relationships.
Ordinaryday Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 if you dont want your ex to recontact you with a breadcrumb then make it so he CANT CONTACT YOU even if he wanted to - block him on facebook, change your mobile number and home number, etc. that way even if he wanted to contact you HE WOULDNT BE ABLE TO. I did this and it made me feel so free. 1
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