Is he interested in me or am i overreacting ?

[Rikko]

So I have been going to gym for the last 3 months but mostly taking classes. When I first attended pilates class I found my group fitness instructor to be quite attractive. As with most fitness instructors he has a great body and and not gonna lie I was drooling over his body.

 

I was attending his class almost every single week without a miss. But after about 2 months or so I stopped going to his class due to my schedule being full after work.

 

But recently I started attending his class again. This time I was early and I found him outside of the studio. There was still class going on in the studio that we were going to have pilates. I spotted him in my peripheral vision walking by while I was looking down and filling my water bottle. I didn't look at him or smiled as I usually would do with other instructors. Instead I started walking back to the locker room trying to avoid one on one time with him.

 

And you know when someone is looking at you , you just know or you kinda sense they are looking at you thats exactly how I felt when I was making my way back to the locker.

 

So after about a good 10 minutes or so I went back up to the studio and there were already a lot of people so I had to look for a spot for myself. Usually his class tends to be rather full and its full of ladies. Now wonder why .

 

I found a spot at the left front corner of the studio just below the stage. And soon after he came in. He already had his mat laid out and resumed with the preparation. While he was preparing for the class I also sensed that he was looking towards my direction. But as usual I acted as if I didn't notice him looking.

 

So the class begins and we would find ourselves making eye contacts here and there nothing flirty. Right in the middle of the class he started walking around to see if anyone wasn't doing it right. And he started walking around me and there was a set where we had to do push up while in cat/table like position. As I was positioning myself in a cat like position he came up to me I didn't even realize that he was there as I was facing downwards trying to do a push up.

 

He then gently placed his hands on my stomach while saying /english/ a little bit more away from the mat. He went back up and carried on.

 

Now first off I'm an expat living in a country where their first language is not english. I was a bit surprised that he knew that I wasn't local. /I could easily pass as a local/ and all along i thought he never really noticed me.

 

And his gentle touch on my belly was enough to send me off through the roof . That touch was sensual yet so discreet. As ashamed as I am I do admit that I'm yearning for that touch again *dreamy*.

 

Now I do rarely find myself sexually attracted to a guy. At one point I even saw myself as an asexual. But with him I could easily see myself being intimate. And not only that he has this charm besides just being good looking that I can't really put my finger on that draws me in.

 

In a way I find him pretty similar to myself in how he walks, behaves and carries himself around.

 

From what I know he doesn't explicitly flirts around or get touchy with people during the class. He rarely touches but sometimes yes he does but I have found he tends to be more on the cautious when it comes to touching unlike some other instructors.

 

He has adjusted my moves almost in every single one of his class. But that sensual touch on my belly was the first that made me think is he interested in me ?

 

I know its too early to conclude whether or not he's interested in me or just doing his job at this point and I am willing to wait patiently for more clues and if it turns out he is I don't mind getting to know him better on a more personal level. It is very unlike me. The attraction not just physical is pretty powerful I would say.

 

So what do you guys think ?

Edited July 5, 2014 by Rikko

[meeji]

Ask him if he would like to go out sometime.

 

That is the only way you will know.

[you_can_not_see_me]

Usually when someone has to analyze very small details like this its not likely that the person they have a crush on is attracted to them.

 

Cause its usually very obvious when someone is attracted to you and you don't need to read the fine print to figure it out.

 

this is especially true when you are dealing with a "good looking" guy who is probably used to hitting on girls and being hit on. If he was into you he probably would have started flirting with you very directly.

 

Go ahead and ask him out, you never know. But I wouldn't get too excited.

[Assasda]

You might want to feel him out a little more.

Like ask him some nutrition tips after the class.

 

Then you might wanna ask him where he hangs out.

Stuff like that

[mortensorchid]

He's cute, plus he is touching you. The nature of his work would allow for a person to have more physical contact beyond a handshake and perhaps a hug or two. Feel it out more, you are feeling something you might not otherwise.

[Rikko]

He's cute, plus he is touching you. The nature of his work would allow for a person to have more physical contact beyond a handshake and perhaps a hug or two. Feel it out more, you are feeling something you might not otherwise.

 

I agree with you on that note I should give it some time and feel it out more before putting it all out there and make a fool out of myself. Culturally speaking guys over here I find tend to take things rather slow in their own pace. They drop tiny bitty hints here and there but nothing too explicit.

 

Not every instructor that I know of makes an eye contact with everyone, especially him. He would just look at what you're doing to see if it's wrong or right than trying to make contact with everyone. I'm sure it would have been rather tiring if he tried to do so. So I guess I'll try to make more eye contact with him in our later sessions to see if he's catching and holding the gaze. And if he does maybe I can start smiling at him and go from there. It's kinda hard to find the right balance when it comes to figuring out if a guy/girl is attracted to you especially in cases like this where you feel like your fitness instructor is paying a little bit more attention to you than the rest of the class.Oh wells I'll try. Thanks for your reply !!

Edited July 6, 2014 by Rikko