roe007 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Well it has been over 3 months after break up and still I feel sad about the whole thing. It is not the break up part I am sad about but the way things happened after break up. She is a distant relative but we used to meet and my mom really like her. Mom asks about her at times thinking she still keeps contacting me. What makes me really sad is after break up I went no contact but she came back again after two months saying she has some disease and problems in life. Her mood swing is the worst and her career is not going well a lot of problems and she was talking about ending her life. I felt bad about it so I thought I would support her but won't get close anymore. I kept my distance and answered only when she messages or calls me and I didn't show any signs of getting back together. So one day she was saying my parents are the reason I lost her. I was take aback and was surprised. My family do have some financial issues and her family know about it. But I am doing my bit to solve problems and all that. Then she began saying she don't believe my parents anymore but she trusts me. The topic went on then I said if that is the reason for her break up that is so cheap she should have supported me instead of running away. I didn't ask her anything else and I thought I won't message her anymore. After two to three days I again got a message saying she is going to sleep around with others. She wanted to tell this to people close to her . I couldn't understand what was wrong with her. Who the hell would say such things? That too to an ex I was really sad that day and I asked her what was the reason. She told her career is screwed she is on height of madness and so many things. I tried and kept my cool. I told her that I am willing to help her get back the life. I told about a business option botique. That idea we planned long ago when we were together. She said it was her dream and all that. I thought even though we are not together at least I could do that for her so she won't do wrong things in life. What prompted me was that she said she was crying all day because she was asked to sleep with someone. She said she won't do it but I don't know why she told me those things. After I pitched the business proposal I said I will take care of the hard part it is an source of income and there is no need to invest a lot. I have talked to banks and all that everything was sorted out. Next day she said No to a business between us. She said her parents won't allow to do business with my family. I was surprised I said it is not family business I couldn't digest the fact that when she said she is going to sleep around I was soooo badly heart broken again. This is a way I can offer her help and I said I am not saying this to get her back in my life. There was again a lot of argument saying it was the financial problem my mom and dad created long ago when I was just in primary school. Her family hates my family and she said a lot of hurtful things. I lost interest and said I just offered a help if you don't want to take it fine. Then until now for a week she didn't talk to me at all. I was in no contact for a long time with her and she came to my home asking why I am not talking to her and I am cheap doing stuff like that. Now when I offered help she pulled away. Why does she want me to know her problems? When she don't want my help?It is confusing and really hard on me. I feel lonely from every side actually she don't want me also the sleeping around thing is running in my head everyday. I cut all contacts but she kept contacting surprise visits to my home and all that but after the whole sleep around drama she didn't contact at all and it is kinda weird feeling for me.
dlz Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 i'm sorry you're going through this, but you really have to cut her out of your life. every time she contacts you for help, she just sets you back. she sounds so wishy washy. she only wants you on the side so when she needs you, she can just come running back to you and then leave you again. and who benefits from all of this? her not YOU. block her number/email/on social media. the message about her wanting to sleep around with others is so messed up. next time she turns up at your place, be civil and ask her to leave. it's hard but sometimes you have to realise that you have to put yourself first now. nobody is holding you back but yourself. once she is no longer in your life, you will feel so much better trust me. things will get better.
Author roe007 Posted July 5, 2014 Author Posted July 5, 2014 Wait, what now? one her mom's brother is married someone from my family I don't know the depth of our family connection it is a distant connection but our families do get together during important functions. So our families do know about each other.
Author roe007 Posted July 5, 2014 Author Posted July 5, 2014 i'm sorry you're going through this, but you really have to cut her out of your life. every time she contacts you for help, she just sets you back. she sounds so wishy washy. she only wants you on the side so when she needs you, she can just come running back to you and then leave you again. and who benefits from all of this? her not YOU. block her number/email/on social media. the message about her wanting to sleep around with others is so messed up. next time she turns up at your place, be civil and ask her to leave. it's hard but sometimes you have to realise that you have to put yourself first now. nobody is holding you back but yourself. once she is no longer in your life, you will feel so much better trust me. things will get better. Yea it is really a disaster I am not replying to her anymore. She dumped me and she does all this and it sucks. I never even had a major fight with her or offended her but these things are too much.
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