My man introduced me to a guy i was previously intimate with. !

[DanaLea]

And also I just read what markjb said. Yeah my girlfriend and I did "give in easily" and I know that's not good. Ted and I really went the traditional dating way which is the way I should have been. So again, if this guy runs his mouth I'll have alot of explaining to do and I don't know how to make it seem not as bad to Ted

[jay1983]

I have a sexual past and men I date have NEVER judged me or shamed me for it. I've always been safe and healthy, who cares who I've had sex with in the past?

 

Who the hell said anything about shaming? If I was seeing a woman and she found out I had a ONS with her coworker prior to meeting her, she'd probably have a problem with that. It makes people a little uncomfortable, unless maybe they work in the porn industry.

 

Misogyny is alive and well within this post.

 

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[marcjb]

Did you notice the word "HEALTHY" in my sentence?

 

I'm not advocating that women just go and have sex with every man they know. I'm saying that women have the right to be virgins until they marry or have sex with 25 men.

 

Yea, I did notice the word "healthy" there, and that's the word that I was replying to. It's not healthy to just blow random guys that you just met. You never know if you're going to end up with an outbreak of herpes on your face.

[leavesonautumn]

How is ONE experience all of a sudden a porn career?

 

You're shaming women by making the OP feel bad about her decision when she already feels bad about it.

 

OP said that her boyfriend introduced them not the other way around.

[leavesonautumn]

And also I just read what markjb said. Yeah my girlfriend and I did "give in easily" and I know that's not good. Ted and I really went the traditional dating way which is the way I should have been. So again, if this guy runs his mouth I'll have alot of explaining to do and I don't know how to make it seem not as bad to Ted

 

Look, DanaLea, you had an experience that you eventually came to regret. If it's something you feel like explaining to Ted then that's probably what you should do.

 

All I tried to do was make you feel better about the situation when you already feel bad about it and now a bunch of guys are trying to make me feel bad. Guess that somehow makes us both slutty.

[marcjb]

How is ONE experience all of a sudden a porn career?

 

You're shaming women by making the OP feel bad about her decision when she already feels bad about it.

 

OP said that her boyfriend introduced them not the other way around.

 

Yea, and we've acknowledged the point that her boyfriend is the one that introduced them to her, not the other way around. We are also not shaming her, we are just explaining exactly how we would feel if it was our girlfriend who did it. You are the one that is trying to say her actions are justifiable. They are not. Everyone is free to make their own choices in life, but they also have the deal with the consequences of those actions. No one should be proud of doing what the OP did. Yes, I also get the OP is not actually proud of it.

[leavesonautumn]

Yea, and we've acknowledged the point that her boyfriend is the one that introduced them to her, not the other way around. We are also not shaming her, we are just explaining exactly how we would feel if it was our girlfriend who did it. You are the one that is trying to say her actions are justifiable. They are not. Everyone is free to make their own choices in life, but they also have the deal with the consequences of those actions. No one should be proud of doing what the OP did. Yes, I also get the OP is not actually proud of it.

 

Know the definition of shame?

[jay1983]

How is ONE experience all of a sudden a porn career?

 

I said the people that probably wouldn't mind something like this are people in porn.

 

Dude is something wrong with you? I'm not even trying to trash talk you, I'm really wondering if there's something wrong with you. You have opinions of someone from mars and your not very good at interpreting.

[Eivuwan]

Honestly, I would just tell him instead of being constantly worried about it. If he can't take it then he's not the one for you. Who wants someone who can't accept other people's minor past mistakes.

[marcjb]

Know the definition of shame?

 

Yes, and the only ones that have actually shamed her are the guys she gave the blow jobs to, as well as herself for participating. Our posts in this thread are simply a matter of opinion and perspective. None of us have said anything derogatory to her.

[leavesonautumn]

I said the people that probably wouldn't mind something like this are people in porn.

 

Dude is something wrong with you? I'm not even trying to trash talk you, I'm really wondering if there's something wrong with you. You have opinions of someone from mars and your not very good at interpreting.

 

There is literally nothing wrong with me.

 

My entire point in this whole post was to make the OP not feel BAD about one decision she has made in her life. She has already stated that she regrets her choice. There is no reason to make her feel worse than she already does. She's struggling with telling her boyfriend about what she did and if you take a look back, I advised her to tell him if she felt that was best.

[jay1983]

OP I'm not shaming you, but to sit here and tell you this is no big deal is not right. IDK this is one ****ed up situation.

[Imported]

I don't understand this. What about the guys getting the blowjobs? What does that make them?

 

Exactly.

 

If you still don't understand, I never said those guys behaviour was OK.

 

 

She had ONE experience and you think she will just up and do it at every chance?

 

That's the worst part for me. Her "ONE experience....." wasn't planned, wasn't thought out, wasn't saught. She met a bunch of guys, had a few drinks and gave a few of them blowjobs. Then woke up morified the next day.

 

She "accidentally" sucked a bunch of dicks.

 

I don't think she'll do it every chance, but you know...."accidents" happen. Probably won't always be with a room full of cocks, but maybe a guy friend/co-worker of hers or something.

[leavesonautumn]

Exactly.

 

If you still don't understand, I never said those guys behaviour was OK.

 

 

 

 

That's the worst part for me. Her "ONE experience....." wasn't planned, wasn't thought out, wasn't saught. She met a bunch of guys, had a few drinks and gave a few of them blowjobs. Then woke up morified the next day.

 

She "accidentally" sucked a bunch of dicks.

 

I don't think she'll do it every chance, but you know...."accidents" happen. Probably won't always be with a room full of cocks, but maybe a guy friend/co-worker of hers or something.

 

Let me guess, every thing you've ever done in your entire life was thoroughly thought out, planned and saught? You're literally saying because of ONE night in her entire life, all of a sudden she will do something with a guy friend or co-worker if it were to come up?

 

What exactly are you trying to make the OP feel in this situation?

[DanaLea]

I have to go because Ted is on his way over - he sounded funny and said he wanted to have a chat as he called it. Anyway, I really really hope things don't blow up.

 

What Imported said really is the whole truth. It wasn't planned or sought or thought out (at all). We drank and got caught up in stuff that never should have happened. So it wasn't completely "accidental" but maybe a bit. So maybe if I put it that way Ted won't flip out as much. And, NO, it will never ever ever happen again.

[jay1983]

Honestly, I would just tell him instead of being constantly worried about it. If he can't take it then he's not the one for you. Who wants someone who can't accept other people's minor past mistakes.

 

Yeah this simple huh.

[Assasda]

Well the thing i"m worried about is that Ted will "re-evaluate" things if that makes sense. I'm scared that he might break up with me and I don't want that at all!!! He's really a great guy and to be honest I haven't met too many of those.

 

I also know that guys brag about stuff like that. Also if I remembered him, he can remember me too you know. I know everyone has a past. When Ted and I had the talk we both said we have a past. Ted's past is not quite so out there. When he asked about casual and short flings I said I didn't do that stuff. I know - not truthful but I thought it would bring us closer and in fact we really have gotten closer. Anyway, I can't now say it was just a fling or whatever.

 

It's great that you support me - It wasn't quite a "sexually liberating experience" like Leavesonautumn said (thanks). It was a huge mistake that never should have happened. No, I'm not doing it to every guy or anything but Ted would freak I think if he found out. It's just that if it comes from me it may be better than if he hears about it from somebody else.

 

I dont think you respect Ted very much. Since you lied to him about your past and such.

Its ironic that you want him to respect you, and youre doing this by not being forthright with your past.

 

Anyway, if Ted's coworker tells Ted about this before you do, Ted will think that youre the most dispicaple thing that ever walk the earth.

-Not for what you did in the past

-But for setting Ted up with ignorance

 

This is all moot though, because as I said before, You dont respect "Ted" so you probably wont tell him.

[jay1983]

I have to go because Ted is on his way over - he sounded funny and said he wanted to have a chat as he called it. Anyway, I really really hope things don't blow up.

 

Don't say anything unless he brings it up.

[jay1983]

To me, a girl who would do this sort of thing with a bunch of guys she doesn't know is not morally compatible with me. The fact that she lied to her Bf when he asked about her past confirms this to me. It has nothing to do with planning. Maybe it should.

 

Let's say it was the only time she's done something like this. I don't know the OP so let's say that's the situation. If I was Ted, I wouldn't want to know about some sh*t like this.

[Eivuwan]

Yeah this simple huh.

 

It is if you care more about the quality of the relationship than just being in one.

[jay1983]

It is if you care more about the quality of the relationship than just being in one.

 

That's real easy for you to say, you not in her position.

[jay1983]

Coincidences like this don't just happen, this means something. OP your just gonna have to live and learn.

[leavesonautumn]

That's real easy for you to say, you not in her position.

 

Are you in her position Jay? Are you in the boyfriends? How is it easy for you to say?

 

We're all giving our opinions as outsiders. There are so many outcomes to this whole scenario.

[jay1983]

Are you in her position Jay? Are you in the boyfriends? How is it easy for you to say?

 

We're all giving our opinions as outsiders. There are so many outcomes to this whole scenario.

 

I'm trying to put myself in her and/or her boyfriend's position before I blabber some irrational sh*t.

[Gaeta]

I have a really really really hard time believing that a man at work, not a friend, just a guy at work, would go up to another co-worker and tell him that his girlfriend of 1.5 year sucked his d.1ck a few years ago.

 

People just don't do that.

 

Also if OP has not seen this guy in previous events at the office it's probably because he's a newbie that just got hired. Another reason he's not going to create problems for himself at work with this type of indiscretion.