61IMPALA Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 My girlfriend of 4 years woke up one day hating the world. She is beautiful, smart, and an artist. She is 20 and I am 21. One evening she called me up to meet her to "talk". She said she felt i was over bearing and jealous and wanted a break. I dont think i was out of line honestly, she had been hanging out with only guys, and they all have a thing for her...they have openly admitted it to her. I was crushed. I gave her space...but then made the mistake of being her friend. She started to use me...i am a PhD candidate and working furiously in school. I started doing her homework, buying her gifts, taking her out...and i was oblivious to the fact that she used me. I felt that there was a new man in her life, and i asked her about it....there was. A 17 year old high school kid who looks like he is 14. I lost it emotionally though i didnt show it...returned all of her stuff and went no contact. Before this break she was a straight a clean cut person...now she is drinking heavily, doing alot of drugs, and selling them with her new boyfriend. She is hanging around younger high school kids, who are all stoned out and jaded. She is getting piercings and tattoos (which i dont have anything against for people that have them) but it is very unlike her. I was so worried for her, but now i am getting over it. On top of all this she has been so mean and rude to me...posting deep secrets about me online, calling me names. I dont understand how someone changes so fast. She dropped out of school as well. When i met her she had an eating disorder and self harm issues that i helped her with...but told her to get professional help as well...she never did. Her mother is bi polar, and has an abusive boyfriend who has beaten her and my gf and my gf's sister and niece. She is also a recovering alcoholic. Her father is still married to her mother, and he is a well established artist so he gets a large income which the mother uses. My gf comes from a rich family, but has many problems. i guess i am wondering if this was part of the problem? i dont understand how someone changes so fast and gets a new relationship within a day of the breakup. we had a great relationship and i sensed none of this. I have read about GIGS and maybe this applies...but as a PhD candidate, i dont have many friends haha and am busy alot so i came here for support.... to clarify...her mother is the recovering alcoholic. Also, she thinks i am trying to ruin her life by trying to help her off the drugs..but i have not contacted her for a while now. And whats the deal hanging out with high schoolers!! i mean 17 and 16 year olds...and going on campus to hang with them. Its weird. She is also posting all of her pictures of her drug habits and alcohol use on her social media...my connection to her had lost me my job on a political campaign i was working for...she has pictures of me still on her social media, not doing anything illegal, but i was let go for being associated with her. She also has alot of my belongings, and will not return them. I have returned everything to her, and she does not return my stuff. She is also wearing my clothes (which are way too big for her) which is another thing i find strange....any advice? her new best friend (a 17 year old druggie) is being overtly annoying and threatening during all of this. I dont even know her and she is texting me angry hate texts. Her social media is all "we are so strong! we will shoot for da stars! We dont care what anyone thinks!" you know stupid high school ****...but it perturbs me to think that they believe i am stalking their social media...i looked maybe twice in the initial stages of the break up, but now have blocked all of it. also in regard to me losing my internship..i told her for weeks after the break up to please take down the photos...and it feels like she didnt just to spite me. I honestly dont know where her anger is coming from, i treated her so well and never lost temper, cheated on her, or was negative in any way. To give light on who she was before this break, we were both yoga practitioners and she was a deeply involved buddhist. So that adds alot to the surpirse of all of this aloha
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