bbell89 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 (edited) *Yeah i know, another Cougar thread* So I've been lurking this forum for a while but I've finally decided to join Here's the deal though, so I haven't been on a date since Feb/March but now this 44 y/o Mexican woman i work with has recently told me she likes me and flirts with me almost everyday(We've been coworkers for 3 yrs). I've only messed with one chick i worked with (19 y/o) but all we did was go out and eat then she quit a couple months after and i lost contact. This woman is very blunt, for example another coworker was asking me if I like this girl who comes by the job often. Before I said anything she says "No novia bbell89. Only me, ok"? Then every time she sees me on my phone she always says "That better not be your Sancha (The other woman)". What makes it clear as day is that she always calls me by her last name. Doesn't matter if the boss or other co workers are around or not, she still does it. This is one of the main reasons i'm not really worried about "dipping my pen in company ink" because almost everyone knows about it and thinks it's cute (Their words not mine). Problem is that after work, that's the end of our convo, I don't have her number, Facebook, etc. plus I'm a shy dude (have mild Social Anxiety) so I'm really nervous to ask even though all the signs are there, but for some reason I have feelings for this woman. Don't get me wrong there have been some very attractive females to come through my job throughout the years but she's always on my mind and I never thought i would develop feelings for a woman 20 yrs older than me, much less 10 but I have . Other thing is that she has two kids (22 & 19). I've met the daughter who has 2 kids of her own already (I know ) but not the son which i think lives with either the dad or in Mexico, idk. What makes things weird is that she flirts with me around her daughter, but her daughter doesn't seemed to care. I'm off today but i'll most likely see her tomorrow. Any advice on how to handle this situation? I've never been in an relationship before so this is all new to me. Edited July 4, 2014 by bbell89
FitChick Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 You've never had anyone notice you before, or so it seems. It isn't life and death. Practice social banter and flirting so you will know what to do when you meet a suitable match. She is just teasing you. I wouldn't make anything of it.
todreaminblue Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 follow your heart and when you feel shy know she is the one flirting with you.Her daughter showed no surprise probably because she already knows that her mother likes you...its all pretty inconsequential if you dotn do anything so follow yoru heart and do what feels right to you...see where it goes....20 years is quite a gap and on gettign to know her better you may fidn it too much fo a gap or she might fidn it too much...whose to say ........ no one can tell you what you should or shouldnt do....thats your choice and hers to make...people who truly care for your happiness or hers, will stand behind you those that dont ...dont matter....nothing may come of it or something might...you wont know unless you try......i wish you well ....deb
Baller25 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 It sounds like she's just flirting but it's nothing more than banter which you will realize the moment you actually ask for her number or try to set something up. I think you like her only because you think she likes you, which is a common feeling if your a guy that doesn't get many women. I was in your shoes many years ago and trust me it's all empty feelings. I have a great joke about this but the last time I made a racial-stereotype joke on here the moderator deleted it ;/
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