Gravity Posted February 18, 2005 Posted February 18, 2005 I have a problem (like most people on this board), mine is that i really like this girl in a few of my uni classes. She is gorgeous and i know she is sensible and shy. The trouble is i have never actually had a conversation with her, i have said hi a few times and opened doors for her but never actually talked to her. I am quite an outgoing guy, but when it comes to talking to girls i like i am a wreck. Another thing is that in a few of our classes me and her occasionally look at each other (just for a few seconds) and we do this sometimes. I cant tell of she likes me and i am afraid that she wouldnt approach me even if she did like me because she seems shy. Is there a way to show her how i feel without a) sounding like a weirdo b)coming off as creepy. I am a very shy guy and i find it hard to even try to approach her because she is always with her friends. Any help will do guys.....i am in a real crappy situation
tattoomytoe Posted February 18, 2005 Posted February 18, 2005 maybe you could drop her a note. or a really cute card...they have them that just say "hi". you did not really specify what you felt or what you anted to say to her.
alphamale Posted February 19, 2005 Posted February 19, 2005 Originally posted by Gravity I am quite an outgoing guy, but when it comes to talking to girls i like i am a wreck. I am a very shy guy and i find it hard to even try to approach her because she is always with her friends. so u are shy only w/ gurlz?? are u young, like 16 or so? if so you will outgrow it with age and experience. it is very common.
Author Gravity Posted February 19, 2005 Author Posted February 19, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale so u are shy only w/ gurlz?? are u young, like 16 or so? if so you will outgrow it with age and experience. it is very common. lol what i meant was i am a bit shy around girls i like.........i dont have problems talking to other girls
monkey00 Posted February 19, 2005 Posted February 19, 2005 often what occurs to me is that shy girls are usually the "cute" type of girls. Shy girls usually are quite inexperienced in the dating scene and in bed too cause they are picky about who they date. what you should do is ask her out after chatting w/her a bit. Ask her to join you somewhere unintimidating, possibly out to lunch/coffee or stroll in the park.
ziggue Posted February 19, 2005 Posted February 19, 2005 Originally posted by tattoomytoe Maybe you could drop her a note. Or a really cute card... I agree. If you drop her a note it will give her the courage to talk to you. Maybe even strike up a conversation if she is interested. Make sure you leave your name at the end of it though so she knows who it is from. You don't want her chasing the wrong person. Goodluck with whatever you do. .
tattoomytoe Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by monkey00 often what occurs to me is that shy girls are usually the "cute" type of girls. Shy girls usually are quite inexperienced in the dating scene and in bed too cause they are picky about who they date. what you should do is ask her out after chatting w/her a bit. Ask her to join you somewhere unintimidating, possibly out to lunch/coffee or stroll in the park. Please!!! i am a shy girl....at first. i am the biggest blusher too, i hate it! But, after i know who i am speaking with and chilling with, i am not so shy.
LittleMiss Posted February 22, 2005 Posted February 22, 2005 Originally posted by tattoomytoe Please!!! i am a shy girl....at first. i am the biggest blusher too, i hate it! But, after i know who i am speaking with and chilling with, i am not so shy. I'm the same way. It may take a while for me to warm up to you, but after the initial unfamilarness I'm cool.
Sydney54 Posted February 26, 2005 Posted February 26, 2005 I'm a shy girl, too. What you have to remember is that just because a girl is shy doesn't mean that she's "cold" or "aloof" or "smug." Most of them are quite warm and friendly and yearning for relationships...they just might feel uncomfortable or nervous being around new people at first. So do give her some time to open up to you. Most are fantastic and fun people once you get to know them. So even if you have to suffer through some initial awkwardness, it could definitely pay off in the end. Also, if she's shy, she probably would feel very uncomfortable approaching a guy even if she knew that he was interested in her (at least I would). So having a guy approach her would probably be a very welcome gesture. So just take the plunge. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain.
simpleguy Posted February 26, 2005 Posted February 26, 2005 Hi there, Just a quick word of encouragement - I'm in pretty much the same kind of situation myself...utterly starstruck since the day after Valentine's... Just so you know ur not alone. When alone and thinking about her one's heart pounds away; in the lecture theatre and talking to her like she's any other friend it's just so different. Mixed signals are kinda hard to follow, I guess. Good luck, man!
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