Keenly Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Met a girl on OLD, got her number. Started texting for a few days. This woman is terrible st conversation. One sentence responses to questions and texts that should draw out actual responses and not " aw that sucks " On Sunday I set up a date for Friday, at my usual first meeting place. Thursday comes, no texts from her ( I got tired of having a one sided conversation ) Thursday night I asked if we were still on. The response I got was " I don't know, I'm still packing " Yeah, no thanks. If the response on asking if we are still meeting up is so indifferently nonchalant , I get turned off pretty fast. I'm not even going to go now. thoughts? 4
MidwestUSA Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 What's she packing for? It is a holiday. Maybe she felt inconvenienced by the timing but didn't know how to say 'how about a different day?'?
Author Keenly Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 What's she packing for? It is a holiday. Maybe she felt inconvenienced by the timing but didn't know how to say 'how about a different day?'? She's moving back home. I specifically asked her on Sunday if it would be inconvenient for her on Friday, she said she would check to see if her family had any plans. On wednedsy she verfied there were no plans and she was free. I asked her if a different day was better and I got a " Friday is fine "
MidwestUSA Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Hmmm, don't know. She shouldn't be putting herself out there if she isn't willing (by willing, I mean at least a half hearted attempt to sound more interested) to meet. I'd give her an out, and see if she has the same 'enthusiastic' response. Then go find a fireworks display by yourself.
Author Keenly Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 Hmmm, don't know. She shouldn't be putting herself out there if she isn't willing (by willing, I mean at least a half hearted attempt to sound more interested) to meet. I'd give her an out, and see if she has the same 'enthusiastic' response. Then go find a fireworks display by yourself. Its not just that she isn't enthusiastic about meeting, she isn't even enthusiastic about talking to me. She's just so.... indifferent. I'm not feeling it at all. Fireworks by myself? Naaaah. That sounds excruciating.
Assasda Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Yeah, should have just told her to give you a call whenever she figures out what she's doing, and say adios. Then on to the next one. 2
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Just move on dont even send anything else, if she wants you she will text x 1
d0nnivain Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Based on the title, I was going to suggest you give her a chance since it was already set up. Based on the body of the post, I think you were OK to pull the plug. Find some buddies to go to the fireworks with. You might end up meeting somebody there.
Author Keenly Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 I'm trying to get my only friend that has money to go with me to reno or a local casino tonight. Never been gambling before. 3
LostOnes05 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Yea, I'd give it one last shot and see. If she is still the same, give her some pleasantries (pleasure talking to you, keep in touch, etc) and keep it moving. I wouldn't flake out if I were you though (if she wants to keep the date). She might be going thru a stressful time...you never know.
Author Keenly Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 Yea, I'd give it one last shot and see. If she is still the same, give her some pleasantries (pleasure talking to you, keep in touch, etc) and keep it moving. I wouldn't flake out if I were you though (if she wants to keep the date). She might be going thru a stressful time...you never know. I'm looking for some one emotionally available now, not later. Plus, she didn't mention or allude to anything that would be causing her any amount of stress to warrant sympathy. I was really turned off by her " I don't know " answer of if we were still on for the meetup. If she was in ANY way eager, she sure didn't show it. I'm not too worried about it. 3
d0nnivain Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Sounds like a plan. Just set an amount that you are prepared to lose & don't spend any more once that is gone. Remember also they give you "free" drinks to impair your ability to gamble & increase their advantage to get you to make bad decisions & lose more.
Author Keenly Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 Sounds like a plan. Just set an amount that you are prepared to lose & don't spend any more once that is gone. Remember also they give you "free" drinks to impair your ability to gamble & increase their advantage to get you to make bad decisions & lose more. That's the idea. 1
Easyguy14 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Met a girl on OLD, got her number. Started texting for a few days. This woman is terrible st conversation. One sentence responses to questions and texts that should draw out actual responses and not " aw that sucks " On Sunday I set up a date for Friday, at my usual first meeting place. Thursday comes, no texts from her ( I got tired of having a one sided conversation ) Thursday night I asked if we were still on. The response I got was " I don't know, I'm still packing " Yeah, no thanks. If the response on asking if we are still meeting up is so indifferently nonchalant , I get turned off pretty fast. I'm not even going to go now. thoughts? If the conversation is bad over texts and before meeting her can you only imagine how worse it'll be in person with said date?
KathyM Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 She shows very little interest, and can't even give you a straight answer about committing to a simple meet up. I would suggest not making any more effort to meet up with her, and just tell her that she seems pretty busy, so you are going to bow out at this point.
CaliGypsy Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 She does not seem up be worth your time or your effort. I would definitely pass on that one.
jay1983 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 She's not interested dude, forget about her and Go to Reno!
LostOnes05 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Yea, that "I don't know" statement is a load of crap. You're doing the right thing. Have fun bro!
LuvsTrucks2 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 The experts say that if you catch yourself asking if they are interested then that's your answer right there, if they are really interested, they will let you know, she is way to indifferent about it. I would go to Reno and have a blast! I often do weekend trips to the casinos and haven't had a bad experience yet, enjoy! 2
guest569 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Some people suck at texting, however this girl needs to learn some manners and organisation skills! That is frustrating, who could be bothered. Maybe she will be amazing and chatty in person, but after a great first date, go back to "yes, no, don't know. Ok."
Tressugar Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Be sure to let her know that you have a change of heart. Close one chapter before opening another...
Leigh 87 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 haha nah, I wouldn't go either. I have found plenty of men online who were eager and enthusiastic about meeting me. Likewise, when I really like the sound of a man, I will respond swiftly to their texts and try to initiate actual conversations. If she is just like that in general, unenthused, then that is also bad. I like a person who is eager and positive about me. 2
Lipitor11 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 If you're not feeling the vibe, don't go through with it.
mortensorchid Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 No matter what, you should go with your gut feelings on things. I wish I had listened to my innermost feelings in my past, these days I trust it. If there is something odd or strange about a situation, it usually is and it's best you not get involved in it. Move on.
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