Daniel845 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 (edited) So I'm 18 and my ex girlfriend is 17 and I made a mistake of saying I wanted to split up for a while to focus on exams etc, and she said that it would be good for us and we could try again after. We kept in close contact throughout the break. So about 2 months later I asked whether she'd be willing to give us another go, start again fresh in a new relationship where we are both older and smarter. Unfortunately she said no and that she needed space but she wanted to be friends so after a bit of begging I gave in and said we'd be friends but that I wasn't going to stop trying. Then about a week later she stopped answering texts and didn't want to see me at all even as friends. So I've started the no contact idea and I could do with advice to get her back. I'm worried that if I wait too long she'll move on and find someone else When we were together my girlfriend was never the best at showing emotions and now she's basically replaced me with her best friend Thanks in advance Edited July 4, 2014 by Daniel845
PegNosePete Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 The "friends" thing is just to soften the blow for you. She is not interested but she says the friends line to not hurt you so badly. Then she just does the slow fade. Fading out of a friendship is easier than saying a blunt no. So I've started the no contact idea and I could do with advice to get her back. Where did you get the idea that no contact is a good way to get your ex back? No, it is not. It is a way for you to move on, and put you in a stronger, more attractive position. If she is interested in trying again then you'll have a better chance. But if she's not then NC is not a magic pill that will cure all disease. She is not interested, there' nothing you can do to spark that interest again. Sorry dude you need to move on. NC is a good way to do that. But it is NOT a magic trick to get her back.
Author Daniel845 Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 Unfortunately I'm not giving up on her she said a while ago there might be a chance after sometime so I'm just doing whatever I can to be the guy she falls in love with next
Author Daniel845 Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 I get the vibe from her that she still likes me I'm just not sure in what way I think me breaking up with her affected her more than she will admitt
Author Daniel845 Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 Any advice on how to get her back would be really appreciated
Moonborn Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 There is nothing you can do to get her back, she has to come back on her own. Being "the guy she falls in love with next" is not going to work. Even if you could pull it off you will be back to being yourself eventually and she will dump you once you do. Either she likes you for what you are or she doesn't. The only thing you can do is telling her how you feel, which you did already. There is nothing more to do. You made a mistake, deal with it and go on with your life. Maybe she will be back, maybe she won't. Not under your control anymore. Offtopic: I really like your signature PegNosePete .
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