NC-Thomas Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 (edited) Hi LS, I've been wandering around this forum for some time since my BU. I have been wondering, as I read through the threads I noticed that so much more guys are here, talking about their GF breaking up and wanting her back so bad etc. (unless our female counterparts havent discovered the Internet yet...) I can't help but think about it, but I believe that women are in most cases the ones that initiate the break-up. Is it that guys are just more layed-back and generally keep on going? Why do men let woman be the selectors? Is this just nature doing it's job? As woman are build to recognize the fittest, strongest and best capable men for taking care and providing for a family. Perhaps there is a deeper, psychological or biological reason to woman breaking up more often than guys? Maybe the answer to this can help me to move on better. Edited July 4, 2014 by NC-Thomas
Mr.Pine Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I can't help but think about it, but I believe that women are in most cases the ones that initiate the break-up. Nah...you've just been dumped more than you have dumped. It's an individual thing, at least in your case.
loversquarrel Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 It depends. When my now ex-wife broke the news to me that she was no longer happy it hit me like a ton of bricks. I was blind-sided by this left wondering what the hell just happened. Fast forward through the years and with much retrospect, I came to realize that the women who would not initiate a break up with me were the ones that I fulfilled the most emotionally and sexually. I felt that I knew them better and was more in tune to how they felt, without being a pushover. I was also more confident, stronger, and it didn't hurt that I had children - a man who is close to his children = capable of having strong emotional bonds. I did not have the same level of emotional connection with my ex-wife than I did with these other women. In fact it was a combination of being less connected and somewhat of a pushover that I now know led her to cheat on me. I should also add that my divorce toughened me up. This may not answer your question, but it has helped me tremendously. I believe the deeper psychology here is that women like and admire a man who has his "shyt" together, and that a strong man who learns to get to know himself is far more complex than society gives him credit for.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Hi LS, I've been wandering around this forum for some time since my BU. I have been wondering, as I read through the threads I noticed that so much more guys are here, talking about their GF breaking up and wanting her back so bad etc. (unless our female counterparts havent discovered the Internet yet...) I can't help but think about it, but I believe that women are in most cases the ones that initiate the break-up. Is it that guys are just more layed-back and generally keep on going? Why do men let woman be the selectors? Is this just nature doing it's job? As woman are build to recognize the fittest, strongest and best capable men for taking care and providing for a family. Perhaps there is a deeper, psychological or biological reason to woman breaking up more often than guys? Maybe the answer to this can help me to move on better. I'm 50% on dumped/dumping. It's not gender specific.
OwMyEyeball Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Other than casual observation on one forum, do you have any actual statistics to back up this claim?
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