Moonborn Posted July 6, 2014 Posted July 6, 2014 It's been 2 weeks and 2 days of NC. It's been really hard and I don't want to be weak and contact him but everyday I want to....it's so sad but i want to hear his voice again even if it is always angry lately. I know I will only be causing more harm to myself but I wish he wanted to call me. When we were together there wasn't a day that he didn't want to call me at least 5 times a day. Now what I wouldn't give to even have a text... Pathetic...I know It's not pathetic, it's human. And the fact that you are being able to stay no contact despite the feelings shows that you are strong enough to accept them for what they are and still do the right thing. You can do this, stay strong . 2
crazybestie101 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Me? 16+ months (not 1 breadcrumb)... Sometimes it feels right and good. Other times, it's almost unbearable. So up and down / in and out... You??? Sorry wanted to write here as I cry while thinking about him. Dude , I totally relate to what you going through. 9 months of plain silence.. Back then if i didn't reply his text within few minutes he would wonder where the hell I am. I guess it doesn't matter to him anymore. I do think of all this but damn I have gotten so many other major life problems and I am struggling with it day and night that I chose to Give up on this break up sadness.. I am sure he is probably enjoying some lavish vacation and chasing around girls.. None of my business , I just need to put him aside and start fixing my life
benzo72 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I am on my 4th week of nc. Its hard and lonely at times, im doing my best to avoid anything to do with her. I deleted my fb, my email. I have broken contack 1 month ago, but that was awful, she was cold and treated me like noy even a friend. And all i text about was trying to get her belongings back to her? Its safer her in nc. I even downloaded an app that blocks her calls and automaticly erases her text messages. Im fully covered!
sugarlove Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Day 13. No breadcrumbs still, but am slowly gaining my confidence. 10.5months of empty promises, 4 months of house sitting, 4 months playing family with my kids.. all disappeared in a day. 3 months break up today, he didn't even once turn back. Is it love? I doubt so. He's just a man-child and doesn't know what it means to commit to someone or love someone despite her flaws. If he loves me, he would have forgive me by now.. heck, 3 months despite my apologies and everything else I did. Do I want him back? No.
jen_r Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 A year and 3 months. He's only tried to contact me once during that time and I ignored it. I feel AWESOME! So proud of myself =) 1
FredJones80 Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 94 days since BU. 85 days NC from me. 61 days NC from her. Still sucks. Still depressed about it.
requin Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 I'm on day 9 and it's HELL beyond anything I have ever been through in my life. No crumbs from him but for the first month after our BU I kept in touch w/ him various ways and he responded most of the time. But two weekends ago he didnt' respond to 2 important texts so I started NC at that point. It's encouraging to read this thread and know there is light at the end of the hellish tunnel. At this stage I want him still, more than anything in my life. After our breakup I found out he's an avoidant attachment style, I've always known I'm an addict/anxious style. It explains so much and I want to talk w/ him about it. But for now anyway he's happy being FREE and doesn't even want to talk about it. So I'm leaving him alone, and falling apart in the meantime. The year I spent w/ him was the best year of my life (I'm 52) and the memories are relentless and agonizing. Ain't it F'ing grand. 1
Phanpooh Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 More than 2 years, i don't count... Still trying to cope everyday and might not able to move on soon What i think about? I actually like this feeling, i know there is no hope, but i can't stop missing the ex,image a life with her at present but then i realize, without her, that would be a gift! I could do everything on my own and keep myself busy with adult life, no more fantatic plan or day dreaming what i could tell her,... I now could keep things for myself and enjoy life as much as i can... I could stop caring about her and wait for a day i could close this chapter I almost forget my good memory with her, and if there is anything in my mind, that would be vivid dream at night... I stop look up at her after NC and i like to wonder how awesome she with her bf now, but i don't really to check it on net... Cause i know, that would be self-disrespect. Sometime i miss the chemitry between us, that why i can't move on and even make love but time is passing, so am i. Maybe there is someone is waiting for me in future, and maybe that is a reason keep me alive... I have travel plan, but im not feeling it, my mind hold my heart in my chest if i still have one... I have good career and i ruined for a chance to skip a beat of my heart, and i fail hard... I met some lovely young girls and i push them away everytime... There is no feeling anymore... So if there is the other one, god give me or i will ruin the best of your creature, me!
sugarlove Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 Day 14 today! Woke up feeling like perhaps he'll get in touch today. Hhahahahhahahah... who am I kidding. Seriously. 3 months BU, not a crumb. I guess that's better than any crumbs but still , after all our plans together, to give it up like that without any signs of remorse, leaving me stranded for months, unable to move on, dare not even date in case he returns... this is ridiculous. Not waiting anymore. If he comes back, it'll be too late.
geebelle Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 8 days NC and it's been a roller coaster. It really feels like the worst thing I ever had to go through in my life. Still angry as to why he could walk away from me when I gave him everything. Before I started this round of NC he sent me a few bread crumbs "I miss you, I love you, let's work it out" it was all bull**** tho cause no actions followed. Right now I feel like I'll never get over it or find a guy I'll like ever again. feeling hopeless and losing faith
requin Posted July 7, 2014 Posted July 7, 2014 8 days NC and it's been a roller coaster. It really feels like the worst thing I ever had to go through in my life. Still angry as to why he could walk away from me when I gave him everything. Before I started this round of NC he sent me a few bread crumbs "I miss you, I love you, let's work it out" it was all bull**** tho cause no actions followed. Right now I feel like I'll never get over it or find a guy I'll like ever again. feeling hopeless and losing faith hi, I'm on day 9 today ..and i said the same thing: worst thing I've gone thru in my life! I also don't feel I will meet anyone else, but i"m middle aged and live in an area where there's not a lot of decent available guys my age. If you are young, you WILL love again! Don't give up hope.
seahawker64 Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Sometime last August of 2013. I see her at least once a week in passing. Never speak, never look, always turn my head. Deleted my FB, Twitter and Linkdn acct completely. Sometimes it still gets to me but it is what it is. Thing is I still have no desire to date 15 months later. I think this one broke something..lol.
Author mtnbiker3000 Posted July 8, 2014 Author Posted July 8, 2014 I think this one broke something..lol. I feel this way too. But then again I am not sure where those feelings stop and my own issues begin. It's just a big ol' mixed bag of pain and confusion. A vicious cycle. One seems to fuel the other. Like a yin / yang. My BU with the ex swirled together with my own deeply rooted issues of low self-esteem and self-worth. It feels literally never-ending and I don't know how to deal with it...
erklat Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Virtually irrelevant relationship that could be declared as a fling caused me so much pain and completely changed my way of life and who I actually am. Even 10 months after breakup and more than 6 months of strict NC, I even moved away, thoughts about what we could have linger in the back of my mind.
geebelle Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 hi, I'm on day 9 today ..and i said the same thing: worst thing I've gone thru in my life! I also don't feel I will meet anyone else, but i"m middle aged and live in an area where there's not a lot of decent available guys my age. If you are young, you WILL love again! Don't give up hope. I'm 22 yet I still feel like I will never meet anybody I will fall for again and if I do I feel like my guard will always be up. I will always wonder what if this person does to me what my ex has done.
music_and_poetry Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Two weeks and three days. Three days after things ended, he liked a status I posted on Facebook where I announced a new job I was starting in September. I haven't heard anything from him since
JimmyWeezy Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Well, what i mean there is if they are not hating on you ,in those 4 years atleast ONCE they should check up on you with " hello". It doesn't hurt to say hello to someone with whom once you share some kind of bond. i think it's pretty childish and cold to completely delete someone and never return back. Life is too short to play this games. I think it's more childish and COLD to break up with someone who was there for you and loved you. I don't feel absolutely childish with my NC even if it's been only a week since he broke up with me/5-6 days from his last text. People need to realize that every action and decision they make has an influence in other people's lives and that's just about it. They break your heart and the life you built around the relationship, so the child is not the dumpee who decides to cut them off, but the other way around....
JimmyWeezy Posted July 8, 2014 Posted July 8, 2014 Sometime last August of 2013. I see her at least once a week in passing. Never speak, never look, always turn my head. Deleted my FB, Twitter and Linkdn acct completely. Sometimes it still gets to me but it is what it is. Thing is I still have no desire to date 15 months later. I think this one broke something..lol. Lol I kinda fear it's going to happen to me as well. At some point you completely lose faith in human beings when they treat you like garbage after sharing so much and giving everything and all yourself.
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