mtnbiker3000 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Me? 16+ months (not 1 breadcrumb)... Sometimes it feels right and good. Other times, it's almost unbearable. So up and down / in and out... You???
sugarlove Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 10 days.. hate to reset it again.. so I will keep going. 1
emotionalMess Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Broke NC 8 Weeks + 2 days ago. Hi my name is EM and I am a romantoholic. 3
sugarlove Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Does breadcrumbs include my ex's family? Everytime I stay quiet, the only people who seemed to have thought of me are his sister, dad and mom. THey never contacted me, just check my Facebook, facebook page, LinkedIn and also re-reading the last email I sent them (I've a tracker that send me notification automatically without authorising receipts). I dont know what they want, if they crack, it gives me comfort that perhaps the ex is cracking at times too. But he is not doing anything about it. Just knowing they are checking up on me, sometimes held me back.
David87 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Does breadcrumbs include my ex's family? Everytime I stay quiet, the only people who seemed to have thought of me are his sister, dad and mom. THey never contacted me, just check my Facebook, facebook page, LinkedIn and also re-reading the last email I sent them (I've a tracker that send me notification automatically without authorising receipts). I dont know what they want, if they crack, it gives me comfort that perhaps the ex is cracking at times too. But he is not doing anything about it. Just knowing they are checking up on me, sometimes held me back. How do you know they check you FB page? BTW block them because you are no longer friends with them in real life so there's no need to see them on FB. 1
sugarlove Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Becuase they've been liking my posts..? I feel bad blocking them. I do find blocking childish and have never blocked anyone... I've issues with the ex. But not with them though. 1
David87 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Becuase they've been liking my posts..? I feel bad blocking them. I do find blocking childish and have never blocked anyone... I've issues with the ex. But not with them though. I get where youre coming from but at some point you will see that his siter or his mother will start to like post or pictures on his new girlfriends FB and that will hurt you in some way, not to say that you'll have strange feelings every time youll get a like from them 2
sugarlove Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 You're right... I do feel a bit funny about it. Didn't think of it much until now that I'm going NC.. just last week I saw an email notification, wondered why they are rereading my last email every week abd then bam! Back to vulnerable, needy me. Not good at all. I'll have to block them until I feel better. 1
Ordinaryday Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 A year and a half, not a single breadcrumb. On some days I do wish for one but deep down I dont want one because I have a reputation for saying HORRIBLE things in the heat of the moment and any "hi how are you?" breadcrumb would annoy me and make me send her a horrible message calling her all sorts of names. so no, dont want one. 3
ProcessingThisBU Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Almost 2 months. Not 1 breadcrumb. Sometimes I feel ok, sometimes I feel very sad. 1
lovebug_5858 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I am on Day 24. It's still hard for me, my thoughts on breaking NC are overwhelming me lately but I know I won't. I don't want to throw all these days down the drain. 4
elseaacych Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Eight months since we broke up, not a word between us. It certainly has gotten easier, but there are days I do miss having a companion. Him, not so much. I think a whole lifetime could pass like this, and it would be for the best.
triniechu Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 24 days no NC for me! Plus we wouldn't be able to contact each other since we actually both blocked each other phone number. The only other way for him to contact me would be through email. Also i unfriended him on all of my social media and blocked him on top of that. Well I deactivated FB, which really helps too! It feels very liberating. But I haven't heard anything from him at all. No breadcrumbs. Some days I want to hear from him and some days I dont. Some days I struggle and some days I don't. It has definitely been easier since the day we actually broke up. I really do miss him and I miss us. As much as I want us back together, I have to move forward because I can't be with someone who can EASILY give up on us. 3
Zapbasket Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Hi mtnbiker3000, how are you doing / feeling; how are your grieving growth processes going? Going on 9 months NC, and going on 11 months since the breakup, 38 weeks and 5 days since receiving a final communication from him saying basically that he was done and wanted no further communication between us. I just counted up the weeks and days and it's so strange to see a number summing up the rollercoaster of hurt, confusion, hope, crushed hope, anger, longing, acceptance, acknowledgement, desperation, conviction that I will surmount this, devastation at what is--all in no particular order. And then of course the question, Have I grown or evolved at all, in a real way, in these 38+ weeks? I do wish for contact from him, but I am beginning to let go of that hope, albeit with fits and starts and struggle. I suppose, too, that the longer there is nothing from him, the more clear the extent of his limitations becomes. It's so hard to have to face that someone was not anywhere close to who you thought they were, in terms of character, emotional development, integrity.
Hoosfoos Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Haven't seen her since the day she dumped me, late November. Last contact 5 months ago. It's not getting any easier.
SoThatHappened Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 It's so hard to have to face that someone was not anywhere close to who you thought they were, in terms of character, emotional development, integrity. Oh, I can relate to this It's been.... ummm... 30 days post BU and 22 days since I started NC. There have been days I wanted a breadcrumb, and days that I'm glad I still have everything blocked that I can block. I've seriously been considering changing the cell number I've had for nearly 15 years. Part of me wants to hear from her saying, "I messed up. I'm an idiot. I want you back and would do anything to make us work." But, really believing there's truly something mentally wrong with her, I know I'm much better off. That has helped tremendously. Eating more everyday, thinking less about her everyday, and re-establishing my friends/family/life more and more everyday. Didn't know what NC was, really, a month ago. It has saved my a$$ though! 1
me85 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Becuase they've been liking my posts..? I feel bad blocking them. I do find blocking childish and have never blocked anyone... I've issues with the ex. But not with them though. I'm the same as you. There's nothing wrong with having the ex's family or friends on your FB. I never have had any problems with them. It's freaking FB, who cares??? As long as you're not stalking them to find out stuff about your ex (which I never do) then it's not a problem. I have privacy on my FB set to perfection. Meaning certain people are restricted and can only see so much of my activity and I have any mutual friends of the ex's OFF my news feed. So I never ever see anything his friends or family post. Ever. & I don't go snooping either. I have better things to do... Like post on here!! lol 1
Ben Dover Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Good job to all you staying in NC and really sticking to it. I know how hard it is. But trust me, you don't want any breadcrumbs. They aren't as pleasant as you think. I know from experience. They can really mess with your head. They can can really bring you back to day 1 of NC. Everybody thinks they want a breadcrumb until you actually get one. Keep up the good work folks! 1
Nujabez Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Not sure if you're supposed to be in 'NC' when you have been forced the 'break'-card. She tends to start talking herself through Facebook mostly.
OwMyEyeball Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Coming onto 6 weeks once tomorrow hits Doing pretty good. No serious urge to make contact. Couldn't really make contact if I wanted, though I still have her email address. Still think about her every day. Think about us. What was us. What went wrong and what I could do better for the next relationship. Still spend some time missing her. Working long days, 7 days per week on a major construction project. That's really helped to keep me focused on something productive and rewarding. Once this is mostly wrapped up next month I'll be returning home with a lot of money, some time off, a mostly healed heart and a list of activities I'm going to undertake/continue for ME. Plus I get to be around my friends again. Another good sign is that I'm finding myself less drawn to these forums. At least the 'Break Ups' section. NC definitely helped. That and convincing myself that I'll find someone else who's better for me.
crazybestie101 Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 (edited) 9 months of NC , nothing from him.. Until last month i wished he contact me but i guess reality is finally setting in for me that he is never coming back probably he doesn't even care about me. Honestly, i have suffered so much from this short term relationship breakup that i am so done thinking about him now. when he comes on my mind i say to myself why would i want to think about person who put me through so much. Not only, i suffered emotionally but it caused lots of family issues,and i have completely given up in school and ended up in totally different career field.. I guess i am DONE finally.. Lots of people here thought that i was crazy because how i was still hurting after such a short term RS but thing went super fast during that time and i fell for him. Any ways , i think he is never contacting me again , i guess i was wrong about him as person. Edited July 5, 2014 by crazybestie101 1
Duude Posted July 5, 2014 Posted July 5, 2014 Approx 2 months since last communication. Some days I feel really sad that I have not received a single breadcrumb.
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