Thegreatestthing Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I should probably put this in the coping section as I'm upset about it. But I was dating this guy Who told me he loved me after only a few weeks,it was really wonderful, the whole thing was wonderful.anyway I told him I didn't love him back and the whole thing dwindled for many reasons other than that. Anyway he stopped talking to me,I was going through this huge crisis and would write him everyday not about us or love but just the crisis I was having and he must have just thought it was crazy and he never replied. after like four of these emails,I sent some pictures and another having a crisis email and he started replying,he actually says in his emails that he likes when I act that way(crazy) and then he started saying he loved me again and listed all the things he loves about me,I couldn't understand the sudden change. I didn't reply yo his last email saying he loved me cause I was away,he sends another email saying he's worried about me and various sweet things ,this contuines on for months. BUT now nothing no reply to anything I send at all, the emails are crisis ones but still nothing at all.i don't understand the total silence or what I did or how I can get him back. I am the most aloof girl and have never acted this way with any guy ,but part of it was this crisis I was in,needing emotional support,love. Any advice from guys on what I should do,how to get a response from him.
ja123 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Leave him alone. You're being very selfish and just using him for an ego boost. How would you appreciate feeling and expressing your love and interest for someone only to have that person push-pull, blow hot-and-cold and confuse you? What you're doing is dishonest and cruel.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 I told him I love him multiple times now,and nothing no response from him. It doesn't feel like he lost interest or stopped loving me normally I can feel that intuitively ,I just don't understand it. The only thing is that I sent him lots of photos and perhaps he didn't like one or two of them ,is this enough reason for a guy to stop all contact?
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I told him I love him multiple times now,and nothing no response from him. It doesn't feel like he lost interest or stopped loving me normally I can feel that intuitively ,I just don't understand it. The only thing is that I sent him lots of photos and perhaps he didn't like one or two of them ,is this enough reason for a guy to stop all contact? His lack of a response indicates the opposite, you just don't want to see it. It sounds like it all moved very fast and those types of relationships tend to burn out quickly too. You mention a lot of emailing, but no face-to-face communication. Was this an online relationship? Also, you told him you didn't love him. What did you expect him to do? I'm not saying you're wrong for telling him that, as a few weeks is far too soon to know if you love someone. But his reaction is predicable. He backed off and you responded with emails about you and your problems. If I only received emails about someone's personal crises, I would tire of it quickly and assume they were seeking attention. I'm not trying to minimize your problems, but just giving you an outsider's perspective. In any case, it appears he's moved on now. And I seriously doubt it has anything to do with the photos. The fact that he's not replying tells you all you need to know. It's time for you to move on, too.
Assasda Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Somebody that loves you just doesnt back out of a relationship without excuse. You were both using "I love you " to hold on to each other. The words dont match whats going on here. Move on, Also, you guys must be super young
d0nnivain Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Do you have the ability to communicate with him in person not just via e-mail? If you don't this wasn't very real but at least you had an outlet. Try to remember that not everything is a crisis. Anybody who says they like you in crazy crisis mood may be unhealthy in his own right. Also are you sure you want him or are you just missing the attention / ego boost?
preraph Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Here's the problem. You picked a guy with a brain. He's smart enough to have noticed you only seem to care when you're in crisis and that you are very fickle the rest of the time. You seem to just be using you and it would be hard to overlook that.
Author Thegreatestthing Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 (edited) Normally I can move on straight away with every guy I've been with I've done the breaking up and never thought about it again. The fact that I might never hear from him again is so hard. Edited July 4, 2014 by Thegreatestthing
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