LME Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Was talking to the guy I have been dating. I recently passed a board exam and was telilng him about it via text (he had texting me asking how i was etc) and he replied "thats my girl, lets celebrate soon!" I then asked him if he was going to be in town this weekend and he told me he would know tomorrow. I just casucally replied "sounds good, we should celebrate this weekend if you are in town. if not, it will have to wait until ya get back" I thought that was a completely normal thing to say and he replied: You're so smitten I think maybe on his end he was being flirty but it rubbed me in the wrong way, i try not to read into texts because you can;t always tell the other persons intended tone but this one threw me for a loop. To me smitten is like "you want me sooo bad" But ive said nothing to look way too into him or anything like that.
MidwestUSA Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Nah, smitten isn't THAT serious. Smitten is cute. He was flirting in a good way. 2
Author LME Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 ok just wanted to get some opinions. thanks I replied and said: Haa! well what can i say i like spending time with you or something of that sort, my phone is downstairs so i cant remember the exact wording. uh i feel like i suck at flirting back.
preraph Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I'm with you that that was a weird conceited thing to say. Maybe he actually doesn't know what "smitten" really means or something. Anyway, all you can do is ignore it unless something else comes up that is a real red flag.
Michelle ma Belle Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Accordingly to Urban Dictionary, smitten means; 1. To be really taken or pleased by someone. 2. The feeling of total happiness around someone you are falling in love with or, someone you are already in love with. 3. More than like, but not quite love yet, its that feeling in between the two. That feeling of butterflies in your tummy. Its that feeling that makes you smile whenever you think about that special person. He's either just a simple flirt or an ego maniac. Only you can answer that since you know him better than me. 1
Author LME Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 Ego was my first thought but he has never acted in any way any other time when ive thought to myself woah big ego there
Leigh 87 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Yeah I'd never say that to a guy it reeks of arrogance. I.never assume a guy is into me or taken by me. 1
Author LME Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 I am 99% sure he was being flirty I have just never had someone say taht to be before so i honestly did not know what to think
Leigh 87 Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 It is the sort of thing I'd handle well in person. A playful jibe " has you're smitten, cooking me.dinner two nights in a row" At least in person I could tell it was a joke. Delivered by text, it could easily come off as " has, you're smitten with me!" The danger in saying it is that I may feel, depending on the delivery, like he thinks he has one up on me.... It probably wouldn't bother me too much if I felt he was also smitten with me.
aussietigerwolf Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Sighs that used to be a cute way of flirting but im old and not American so its probably a horrible red flag and probably a sign he thinks you're clingy too. *rolls eyes* 1
Glinda.Good Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 If you like him and you know he's a good guy, why not assume that he meant nothing arrogant or creepy by it. Pretty harmless, if you ask me. That's the problem with texts. One of them, anyway. There the word is, for you to mull and mull over. If he'd just said it, you may have just let it go. Or at least had his expression and body language to help you understand what he meant.
MidwestUSA Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Sighs that used to be a cute way of flirting but im old and not American so its probably a horrible red flag and probably a sign he thinks you're clingy too. *rolls eyes* Not to worry, I think I'm smitten with you. I'm old too.
MissBee Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Ewww.... I would have been so turned off. That doesn't read as cute to me personally but arrogant. 4
Poppygoodwill Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 TExting sucks. This is why. Debating in our heads what he actually intended with one written word, in the absence of tone of voice and facial expressions. He's flirting with you, testing the waters. Whcih probably means he's smitten himself. :-) 1
aussietigerwolf Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 Not to worry, I think I'm smitten with you. I'm old too. Oh no! Red flags abound! :P 1
Mascara Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 There's an outside chance that he meant "you're so thrilled about passing". But if not, it would put me right off. In my experience, if you're casually dating a man and you're the type of person who is happy to hear from them, look forward to spending time with them.... they seem to think you're in love with them. I once dated someone 3 times, and was always cheerful and looking forward to spending time with him. Attentive, enjoying myself - that kind of thing. On the 4th date he sat down, took my hand and said sadly that he didn't think the distance would work, and that he knows I'll be very upset and that he'll be there for me if ever I need him. We had 3 dates mate, I'm fine. Yet he was convinced I'd be sobbing and pleading, and he actually got a bit annoyed when I said "ok cool, no worries, good luck"
Mascara Posted July 4, 2014 Posted July 4, 2014 I had a feeling I'd read an article about this, just found it - Apologies to you dating men, but you're not as irresistible as you think | Ellie Mae O'Hagan | Comment is free | theguardian.com
Author LME Posted July 12, 2014 Author Posted July 12, 2014 Well i guess he thinks i'm too smitten and lost interest because i haven't heard from him since this guys can be so strange
Thegreatestthing Posted July 12, 2014 Posted July 12, 2014 He called you his girl and he thinks your smitten,he is extremely confusing esp since he hadn't contacted you since,don't worry with the right guy you won't have to worry about what you say.
Author LME Posted July 12, 2014 Author Posted July 12, 2014 thanks y'all and yeah im not super upset or anything we had only been talking for a month or so his word choices were just very...strange
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