DudeMan27 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 A while back I posed a question regarding this girl I was unsure how to ask out. I was in a wedding paired up with an attractive girl I knew from high school. Probably the first time I've seen her in years other than being facebook friends. Well long story short I developed a pretty big crush from being around her that day and wanted to ask her out but really wasn't sure how. Well 2 weeks after that I was in another wedding where my friend (the prior groom) says "Oh yeah, I was supposed to tell you she told my wife at the wedding she was interested in you." Well I told him and his wife we should all go out sometime but I figured that would never happen as we rarely see each other. So later that week I asked my friend to have his wife send me her number and I would call her. 3 weeks go by and I hear nothing. This is where any confidence I had was gone. I just assumed something changed and his wife knew her friend didn't want me to have her number. I finally had to ask my friend and he said he forgot all about it, texted his wife then gave me the number. But by then I just felt like maybe they just gave it to me since I asked twice. Maybe I was playing out scenerios that weren't true, but even the night after they sent her number, I was at they're house for a cookout and not one of them mentioned her. Like I said it just killed my confidence as I had all these things in my head that the interest was no longer there. 3 weeks ago I received a thank you card from this couple for the wedding gifts. Thing is, I just assumed it was a thank you card and nothing more, sat it aside and actually forgot about it until last week. I open it up and she thanks me for the gift and being in the wedding and has "PS Rachael's #...." Now I'm driving myself nuts. Do I just call or text this girl out of nowhere? The last time we saw each other was at the wedding TWO months ago. The last contact we had was a month ago when she "liked" a birthday message someone posted on my facebook wall. So that aint much. I just feel like now I look like a creep still wanting to try for this girl even tho we haven't seen or spoken in two months, and basically I made no moves after being told she was interested. I still really like her but I'm not sure how that looks after all this time. If I had gotten her number the first time I asked for it, I definitely would have contacted her right away, but the delay put all kinds of doubts and over thinking into my head.
Gaeta Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 I can't believe men sometimes ! I hope you will use this as a lesson to never assume anything. If you have her as friends on FB then why did you wait for her phone number? You knew for 2 months she had expressed interest in you. Anyway, yes call her. What do you have to lose? 1
fllygirl Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 totally agree with Gaeta. You are analyzing too much. Just call
Assasda Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Yeah, you probably should just let it go. Seeing how you are now, about a girl that you havent met. Just improve yourself and build your self esteem
Author DudeMan27 Posted July 3, 2014 Author Posted July 3, 2014 I can't believe men sometimes ! I hope you will use this as a lesson to never assume anything. If you have her as friends on FB then why did you wait for her phone number? You knew for 2 months she had expressed interest in you. Anyway, yes call her. What do you have to lose? Well my other thread I posted I was basicallyvaskingfor opinions on whether I should ask her out over Facebook or not. That was during the time I was asked my friend to have his wife send me her number but I hadn't here anything. And Assasda, we have met, known each other since highschool with tons of mutual friends, just weren't really close. I hadn't seen her for years until we were paired up in the wedding
Elle1975 Posted July 3, 2014 Posted July 3, 2014 Married couples forget that kind of things. Now that you have the number, call.
Author DudeMan27 Posted July 4, 2014 Author Posted July 4, 2014 I appreciate all the feedback guys and girls. I was honest with myself and figured theres no way I can work up the nerve to call her or text her out of the blue after this long, and tonight she put something on her facebook about her dog and the fireworks. I figured I'd leave a comment (Which I never have on hers before) to kind of feel her out and see what she'd say. A cheap way to reestablish minimal contact I know....I just made a joke about my dog and what she can do about hers and the fireworks...She's since responded to everyone else but me. I know something this dumb isn't the be all end all, but I figured it would be better to try to drum up a little contact before full on calling or texting out of nowhere.
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